Alive With Purpose

Today we are discussing an important topic in personal and professional relationships. Its the idea of toxic relationships and what to do if you are feeling unsafe. I decided not to tackle this alone and asked my friend Meredith Holley to join me for the conversation. Meredith is a life coach, lawyer and best selling author. If you have ever wondered if you are in a "toxic relationship" or think a loved one might be, this episode is one you don't want to miss. Learn more about Meredith, her work and get the books she talks about in this episode here in the show notes

In this episode I want to speak to those of you who maybe feel like you are hiding out or feeling consumed by guilt, worry or shame and don't believe you deserve success when so many people are going through a rough time. You have to be willing to go for it and then willing to fail. Whether you are trying to fix a relationship or start a new business or creative pursuit, this episode is the pep talk you have been waiting for. And if you don't want to figure it out alone, I've got you. Book a free consultation here

Right now your relationship might feel like its under a microscope. More time together with perhaps more stress and uncertainty. Today I want to talk to you about the importance of having a shared goal as a couple as well as a personal goal AND what to do if your goals conflict. You can watch the video here on Facebook and ask any questions you have. Learning the skills I teach you will dramatically improve your relationship but this is just the tip of the iceberg. If you want to have the best relationship you can imagine and do it while in quarantine together I can help you get there. Book a free consultation with me here

Self-investment is really the same as self-care, but I refer to it differently because it doesn't always feel good in the short term but is an investment in your long term growth and well-being. At times of crisis it may seem counter-intuitive to try to put resources towards you personally wellbeing, but it is now needed more than ever. In this free class I taught for my community I will share my personal daily routine, ideas for creating a team dynamic in your household right now and answer questions I got from my listeners. And if you want more personalized support, book a free consultation with me here

Stress levels are high, things are changing daily and even if your relationship is great, chances are you are trying to navigate a whole new set of challenges. But with a few considerations there is a way to handle whatever you are facing like an elite team. In this episode I will help you get started and if you want more help join me for a free consultation here

Boredom is optional and I am not worried about it for me or my family because I have two things: 1. The tools as a Life Coach to manage my own mind and teach other people how to use the power of their brains to get creative instead of wallow in boredom and worry. 2. The list of ideas in this podcast to keep me and my family nourished, engaged and feeling connected even while we stay at home. I created a free PDF here that you can print out and use in your house over the coming weeks. And if you have more ideas for our community, head over to the Revitalize Your Relationship Facebook page here and leave them in the comments.

Fear thrives in the dark. I just did this free class for my community and this was one of the things I talked about. Right now, you might be trying to hide how you feel and put on a brave face for your kids, your clients and your community. You think its helping them, but it might just be amplifying YOUR unhelpful emotions. Instead, I suggested that people let down their guard with the people they love and be an example of someone who is feeling fear, worry and anxiety and still practicing love. If you would like to watch the class you can do so here and please share this far and wide with your friends and family so they can learn this tool as well.  

Join my free coaching call at 10am EST tomorrow and let me help you ease some of that worry. Click this link  and hit subscribe to send me your email address. You will get the call in details sent to you, one hour before we start. And if you haven't sent me a screenshot of your completed review in Apple podcasts, this is the last day to enter to win a stack of my favourite books (including my brand new one coming out soon). Send your completed review to erin@revitalizeyourrelationship.com  

Today I invited my husband Steve Haase on the show to celebrate 100 episodes. We share about our marriage secrets that have helped us create a thriving, dynamic relationship. In this episode you will learn: why "communication" isn't enough how to stop being the wallpaper in your relationship why you need to get a life how to be more interesting and empowered as a partner And if you love this show, I hope you will take a moment to leave us a review on iTunes. Plus, book a free consultation here with me to learn how to be one of the 100 people I help in 2020.

Today in honour of almost 100 episodes I have a very special treat for you. It's my Breaking Up With Resentment Class. I taught this for a few thousand of the people in the Revitalize Your Relationship community last month to help create some major relationship changes. This is an episode you may want to listen to several times and I encourage you to take notes and do all of the exercises. If you prefer to watch the video and follow along, you can get that here And if you are ready to get to work on your relationship and your life, book a consultation here

Today I will teach you how to ask for what you want in your relationship without any drama In this episode you will learn: how to make a clean request how to stop being dependant on your partner when it comes to your needs and desires why you need to do your own work before you ask the other person for something how to hear no without it ruining your day If this is an area you need more help with, its just one of the many tools I teach my clients in my coaching program. Book a consultation with me to get all the details on how we can change your life and your relationship at: www.revitalizeyourrelationship.com/consultation  

A great relationship is hard to have if you are feeling depleted and resentful all the time. In this episode I want to remind you why self-care or self-investment as I call it is one of the foundational pillars to an amazing relationship with your partner and with yourself. Also, this is one of your last chances to work with me privately in my one on one program. If you are serious about changing your relationship and your life, book a consultation here to get a spot before they are gone.

No one does all work it takes to change their life if they think their life is going to get "just a bit better". The point of unlearning habits and retraining your brain to think and feel differently is because you believe in a future that is amazing. Today I am teaching you how to start a relationship with your Future-Self. This relationship has been life-changing for me and for my clients.  Its just the tip of the iceberg in terms of what you will learn when you work with me. There is still time to sign up for Revitalize Your Life, my small group coaching program here. Let's get to know that Future You and create the life you want to live.

In this Facebook Live bonus, I am sharing the details for how to get your hands on my new free class. In the class you will learn how to deal with resentment before it creates drama in your life AND how to handle it if you react from feeling resentful in a way you don't feel proud of. These exercises when put into practice have the power to change your core relationships if resentment every plays into it. Get the free class here: https://www.revitalizeyourrelationship.com/resentment

Are you jealous of someone or something in your partner's life? Whether it is a friend of there's that seems a little too friendly or the long hours they spend building their career, you feeling jealous all the time is causing you to suffer.  Today I want to give you a few ideas to help you consider your feelings a different way. And if you are ready to stop feeling jealous and show up differently in your relationship, you can book a free consultation to learn about how to work with me here. Also mentioned in this episode are other podcasts I have on this topic: Jealousy Creating Trust

I was talking with a client about what it takes to forgive yourself for the past. I shared an exercise with her about it that I will teach you today in this Facebook Live Bonus. Watch the video over at www.facebook.com/RYRcoach and if you want more help on this or any other area of your relationship, I have you covered. Join me for a free consultation here and learn how I can help you create the wildly beautiful life you want.

Shared values are the foundation of many relationships but what if you and your partner have different values? In this episode I will give you an exercise from my upcoming book to help you get very clear not only on the values you share and why, but how to use your similar value as a team to deal with your differences. Grab a pen and paper and follow this exercise, it will be a game changer. Join the 5 Day Relationship Challenge I mentioned in this episode here And of course if you are ready to make your relationship amazing, join me for a free consultation by booking time with me here and learn how I can help you get there.

If you are at a crossroads in your relationship right now, this episode is for you. In it you will learn: what it means it means to have an empowered breakup why most people use blame and shame to end a relationship the role of thought work in helping you decide when its time to end a relationship And if you are ready to figure out the future of your relationship, it starts with a free consultation here. Join me learn how I can help you move forward feeling confident regardless of what you decide.  

I know there are people in your life that you aren't super excited to spend time with but you feel a bit stuck. In this episode I am going to teach you a tool I have used for over 20 years that will help you love anyone. Grab a pen and paper for this episode! And if you are ready to remake your relationships so you can have the wildly beautiful life you want, book a consultation to learn how I can help you do it here

Here are the exact steps my husband and I use to plan the year ahead not only for yourself but FOR your relationship. The steps are: 1. Make it special and celebrate your past year 2. Brainstorm all the goals and big dreams you have for the year ahead and know you will have to say no to most of them.  3. Pick one and decide how much involvement if any you are asking for from your partner 4. Think about the person you will need to become in order to get there and work to align your mindset to and then plan the steps. If you are ready to make 2020 wildly beautiful there is still time to join the Revitalize Your Life group coaching program. Apply before the doors close on Jan 1, 2020