The Chick Whisperer Podcast

Most of you probably know my guest co-host as David DeAngelo, one of the founding fathers of the modern men's dating advice movement. But for the past decade or so Eben Pagan has been on a journey of personal evolution, leading him to a mission of inspiring you to turn your passions into both a living AND and legacy. Indeed, many of us as men often wonder aloud what our true gifts even are, let alone feeling any passion toward them. So then, how DO we figure out how we're going to leave a positive mark on the world? OH SCREW IT...we both knew about ten minutes into this thing it was time to throw away the script and go old-school talking David D. stuff. That's what you want, and that's what we gave you. And baby, does this show deliver. The segue starts with the ironic reality of how the David D. mystique happened, especially given the man Eben has become and what he is teaching nowadays. But as fun as the story of David D.'s early days are, stay tuned for perhaps the most shocking statement Eben could possib

As often as this topic comes up, I firmly believe a large percentage of us as guys still don't fully grasp how important this subject is to women. My guest, intimacy coach Allana Pratt would go so far as to call it a dealbreaker. And wouldn't you know it...it all starts with communication, which Allana compares to a figure eight. How can being the 'hero of small things' make a major difference? How can you reconcile a woman's desire for a dominant decision-maker with our own genuine desire not to come off as a controlling jerk? And what does it take on both your best and worst days to be a rock of consistency for her? How does relaxing and resting into a woman's feminine nature actually cause her to feel safer, loving and respecting you more than ever before? And how do both you AND she gain from that relational state? While we're at it, we explain the specific kind of leadership from a man that makes a woman want to do anything for us. And hey...what DO women want, anyway? How can we make sure we're a safe,

As we all know, 'be yourself' is the lamest, most generic advice ever. But have you ever stopped to think why we as men would ever stop representing our true selves to begin with? Well, the title of this episode is a strong hint as to why, and my co-host is the man to explain what's up with that. Indeed, Clovis Colley isn't only a certified hypnotherapist in-house here at X & Y Communications, he's been around the block a few times. So what are guilt and shame all about anyway? And what useful purpose do they serve, if any? How do people try to shame us, or even project their own shame onto us? How has the 'toxic masculinity' narrative increased shame, even if under the guise of hoping to reduce it? What does it mean to 'take ourselves too seriously', and how do we pile on the pressure, shame and guilt when we do so? How can you tell when someone is trying to shame you for their own pathetic reasons, read them like a cheap paperback and refuse to let them affect you? How does setting and maintaining bound

When I first started dating my wife Emily, she brought a book with her containing a brilliant array of questions to help us get to know each other. Even though that may sound intimidating on the surface, it really turned out to be a lot of fun and the book genuinely functioned as advertised. A few weeks ago that book came up in conversation, and it occurred to me to find the author, Laurie Seale, and have her on as a guest. It turns out she is a regular 'Jaqueline Of All Trades'...and as smart, charming and fascinating as you would expect from someone who wrote such a book. In this episode we discuss the trials and tribulations men and women have nowadays when creating conversation with each other, along with some genius ways to kick off first date communication in a positive way. Laurie talks about the value of knowing yourself before seeking to know someone else, along with how to break the ice on such topics as passion, purpose, lifestyle, past relationships, basic compatibility and spirituality. She then

My guest co-host, author Acamea Deadwiler, is all about breaking pre-conceived notions. In her book Single That!, she writes words of encouragement and clarity to single women. But...I couldn’t help but recognize the immense value to us as men of gaining insight into her list of myths, especially since Acamea is so level-headed, positive and easy-going in her approach to men and women finding love together. So how about it, then? If a woman is still single in, say, her thirties, does that mean there's something wrong with her? What about women who think something is wrong with YOU because you’re still single? Do women have unrealistic expectations nowadays...both before AND after they’re married? Are single women just too busy? Are they lonely 'spinsters'? Or is the opposite true...that they're 'female players'? Are most women 'golddiggers' at heart, intending to find a man who will pay their way in life? And why do all single women seem to ask, 'What are you looking for?' before we’ve even met them yet? Talk

Decades ago the Kinsey Institute infamously attempted to define the parameters of human sexual thought and behavior. Over the years books such as My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday have elaborated upon just how dirty the human mind can get. But it wasn't until Internet-driven research came along that we really found out what human beings think and do in private anonymity. This bold insight comes to you in large part courtesy of my guest, neuroscientist Dr. Ogi Ogas, along with his fellow researchers. So how did Ogi compile all of his research, and how can he know it's accurate? How did it differ from other scientists' expectations? What's up with women's 'rape fantasies', and how does what goes on in their romance novels differ from what happens in online porn? What other dark emotions are most prevalent in human sexual fantasies...and how are they often weirdly in conflict with each other? What is the one sexual fantasy we all seem to secretly have in common, regardless of our gender or sexual orientation? And

Everyone is familiar with the term. But what exactly IS a 'friends with benefits' relationship? Who gets into relationships like that, and what can be expected from it? And how is it different than having a 'sex buddy'? Is it about whether I'm willing to be seen in public with her or not...or introduce her to my friends? As you can see, this is a sticky topic right from the get-go. Well, my long-time friend and fellow dating coach Susan Winter is never shy about tackling even the friskiest subjects, so I invited her back to the show for this fun-filled discussion. For starters, what REALLY causes two people to forge a FWB arrangement? How accurate is the movie portrayal of FWB in the eponymously-named movie with Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis? What other interesting revelations can be arrived at from watching that film? And when FWB relationships happen in real life, is there really any chance that deeper feelings won't develop? How is it that one-night stands can often be drama-free, but FWB arrangements a

Emily and I have been together for nearly fourteen years, and we agree on just about everything...at least fundamentally. That's a big part of what makes our relationship wonderful. But that doesn't mean we don't have our prickly moments. Therefore, we figured we'd record an episode where we break down what exactly constitutes 'healthy' disagreement as opposed to something twisted and dysfunctional. So how do people end up in a relationship with someone they disagree with even on the baseline stuff? Believe it or not, we can think of at least two ways that happens...and all too often. If a woman is driving you nuts, can you change her? Can she change YOU? If you give in to your partner's preferences or opinions, is that 'compromising' your relationship...or giving your power away? Do the two of you even have to have the same interests up front at all? Certain 'relationship gurus' are on record saying it's healthy for couples to fight. On the other hand, is it healthy never to disagree at all? Well, we have a

It doesn't matter whether you've got your eye on a woman who is desired by other men, you're dating a woman who incessantly tells you how other guys want her, or you're in a relationship with a woman who is constantly hit up on by other dudes...this episode is for you. My main man Bobby Rio returns to hash it all out, throwing down some real talk about how to be the man even in such awkward and potentially frustrating situations. And what if your girlfriend has a pesky BFF who keeps trying to introduce her to someone else? How about if her own family members want to break the two of you up? Could it somehow even be that YOU are the one causing other men to run 'boyfriend destroyer game' on the woman you're with? Brutal. And wait a minute...on the other hand, what are the parameters of stepping in to meet a woman yourself when some other guy is clearly failing on his date with her? Is there ever a scenario when that's okay? What's really going on when a woman says, 'I have a boyfriend'? And could her antics re

Why is it men are so concerned about speaking their truth when talking to women? Well, according to returning guest Kim Seltzer's interesting perspective, men and women both tend to complain about the widespread miscommunication between the genders nowadays. This leads to lots of offended people, followed inevitably by pandemic fear of talking to each other. But as it turns out, there's a pattern to how everything tends to fall apart, and it's easy to remove yourself from the cycle...which you'll discover. Next, Kim shares the very foundation for talking to women effectively. It's going to blow you away because it's NOT what you think, and has probably never been talked about anywhere else. Better yet, did you know that talking to women might actually go better for you the LESS prepared you are with something slick to say? But how do you establish that all-important safety and security all the while? Also, what is the most powerful aspect of pickup success that no other pickup advice has ever dared to admit?

Asexuality as a sexual orientation may seem on the surface as if it's no orientation toward sexuality at all. But in reality, it's a much more complex subject than most people think. In fact, quite a number of people experience sexual attraction differently from the majority of everyone else. Enter world expert on the subject, Tony Bogaert from Brock University in Canada. The truth is there's much yet to be discovered on this fascinating subject, as Tony's own groundbreaking research really only dates back to 2002. What's more, it's like the gateway to 'The Wild West' when it comes to sexual studies in general...as you'll find out. So what is it that defines someone as part of the 'Ace Community'? What does it feel like to be asexual? Is there such thing as asexual romance? Indeed, one of the most powerful aspects of studying asexuality is how it informs the broader study of sexuality itself in so many unexpected ways. For example, what are the dynamics of a relationship between an ace person and a non-ace pe

One thing you can expect from this episode is that my co-host Cyndi Olin will definitely NOT hold back. The playful banter starts almost immediately, and Cyndi isn't at all shy about telling it like it is when it comes to women growing cold and distant. So let's say you're out with a woman and suddenly you don't know what she's thinking, or she's giving you mixed signals. Should you call it out, try harder to win her affection or simply chalk it up and stop 'pushing it uphill'? Why do women pull away so often even though we as humans typically crave real, honest connection? Next, hear Cyndi's legit take on the mistakes men make on first dates that cause women to hit the brakes rather than moving full speed ahead. Also discover why you have an extra risk-factor the higher your level of personal accomplishment is. What are the cultural factors that cause certain women to be more tacit on dates? As a special bonus, Cyndi offers secrets to asking out supermodels successfully. So then, if we don't want women to pu

Adam Lyons is a long-time stalwart in the world of men's dating advice, but these days he's also a movie maven and spends lots of time helping people build their businesses. But today, he's here for two reasons...first to get back to his roots of helping YOU be better with women, and second to discuss being a 'throuple' with his two live-in girlfriends. Now, the last time Adam was here back in episode 34 he had just gotten married. What happened with that relationship that led to his current polyamorous arrangement? How does Adam's family members and social circle--and even the poly community at large--respond to his decidedly unconventional lifestyle? How did a third partner get added into the mix, anyway? Philosophically speaking, Adam and I discuss if you can really love more than one person...and if so, how? As a break in the conversation, we then trade tips on how to successfully date multiple women. Next, you'll hear what he has to say to men who think he's so 'lucky' to have two women at the same time.

Co-Host Susan Bratton (http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com/dirtytalk) Susan Bratton is the queen of sex advice, and she returns for an equally shocking and entertaining discussion on how to be sexually attractive to LOTS of women. On the surface this seems like a rather general topic, but it's more specific than you may realize. Susan hits the ground running with objective attraction factors that are extremely important to women. What is the number one fashion mistake men make? What's more important to a woman visually than being movie-star gorgeous? Then, get Susan's take on the kind of flirtatious banter that makes more women adore you. How can you communicate your sexual presence in a way that makes women hot for you? Next, discover the two questions to ask yourself in order to be more attractive to nearly all women. It may be a running joke that many men let their small head think for the big one, but where does your heart come into play? How does your voice play a more important role in attraction than you

Why do so many guys have a hard time actually liking and enjoying the gender we're sexually attracted to? My co-host Zan Perrion has been enlightening men in the art of loving women for over fifteen years now. That makes him the perfect guest to cover this all-important subject. What is the key trait women have that makes us adore them naturally and completely? How can guys bounce back from bitterness and begin to genuinely adore women again? Are there women out there worthy of our adoration, despite the constant barrage of complaints between the sexes online? Next, Zan describes the nature of his self-described 'journey' of seeking beauty, especially in women. You'll also hear what Zan says to women when he meets them that blows them away in the best way possible. Discover how to revolutionize your energy when talking to women in a way that stops them in their tracks. Find out why men who adore women have no need to wait for them to approach first. After that, we talk about how to frame your conversations wi

What is 'witty banter', anyway? Professional comedienne Kristen Carney and I tackle that one first, which is a formidable question in and of itself. Is it really just a playful argument? What role does sexual tension play in the process? And what can George Clooney teach us about witty banter? But the fun really starts when my real-time demo catches Kristen by surprise, all 'sparked' by a dorky factoid about wintergreen LifeSavers. So why should we even care about witty banter? Isn't simple rapport enough? What if a woman has RBF...how do you break through? Well, as it turns out there is a simple formula for making women horny with witty banter, and I'll show you why it works (with real in-field examples). You'll even discover the 'sweet spot' of witty banter and how to ensure you get into the flow much more easily. The conversation then turns to how you can sharpen your banter skills with nearly everyone, including your own family. Next, how do the vast majority of guys do the exact opposite of what's attrac

My co-host Jim Wolfe is one of the good guys in dating and seduction advice, and the author of the newly-released and auspiciously-titled book The Happiest Man In Hollywood. First, what inspired the title of his book? Next, we discuss the importance of having our own relationships in order before seeking to share relationship advice with others, even though a surprising number of so-called 'experts' do not. Can the mindset of avoiding breakups and divorce at all costs end up causing more harm than good? And what's the proper mindset to have before getting into a relationship at all? Is 'you complete me' a dangerous phrase? If so, what's a better perspective? Do some couples base their entire relationship on cliches? Why is it that so few people have genuinely blissful relationships? Has it actually become part of the 'bro code' to bitch about our WAGs? What does a truly happy relationship look like on a daily basis? Why do healthy couples sometimes bicker even more than unhappy ones? So then, what are the cor

There has been a disturbing trend within the last few years. More and more, women everywhere are giving us as men less and less to work with. When texting them, making plans with them and especially online and when using dating apps, women are simply shrugging their shoulders in silence, as if to say 'entertain me'. What is going on there, how did it come to this, and--most of all--what do we as men DO about it? Well, what better way to get down to the bottom of all this than to talk to a woman herself? Enter none other than the Wing Girl, Marni Kinrys. In this fast-paced episode, we break down the whole scenario. Is there malice aforethought going on, or are women simply as innocently clueless as it might appear they are? Marni offers a shocking revelation about her own relationship to her husband that gives a genuine insight into the female mind and what might REALLY be going on here. And for my part, I blatantly reveal how Emily herself gave me virtually NOTHING to go on in HER online profile...and what I

The term 'value' has always been sort of a nebulous one as it relates to what makes us attractive as men. That's why my friend and co-host Tripp Kramer of Tripp Advice fame is returning to the show to help sort it all out. So what do women envision as 'value' in a man? What's the difference between the mere illusion of value and a genuine high-quality man? How much does value have to do with money...or what money represents? Is it about how physically attractive you are? What about purpose? The truth is value can be quite subjective, and we'll give you examples supporting that premise. With that in mind, how can you be a man of value to the kind of woman you want to attract in particular...and do so authentically? What is the meaning of value relative to values, in the plural form? How do you arrive at what your values actually are? How has the societal trend of self-centeredness affected our value as individuals? What is the relationship between charisma and respect with regard to value? The culmination of i

When I first heard about my co-host's gig several years ago, I was skeptical. It sounded gimmicky to talk about 'offline dating'. But now Camille Virginia's vision is proving to have been prescient indeed. So how about it...are people so frustrated with apps, and indeed fed up with faux electronic 'socializing' in general that they're going back to their 'organic' roots of meeting in real life? Or are we so far gone with social technology that we've passed the point of no return? I mean, is the latest generation 'pre-wired' to favor online interaction? In this episode we wonder aloud what online interaction does to our perception of authenticity. And what about being 'mean behind the screen'...how does feeding that habit shape our real-world persona? And meanwhile, in the real world, what should women be doing to allow for easier offline interaction? Next, Camille guarantees your worst nightmare when talking to women will NOT come true...and here's why. How can you easily start offline interactions with women