The Chick Whisperer Podcast

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== The idea of a rite of passage from boyhood to manhood is talked about constantly in masculinity circles. Well, even though lots of other world cultures have historically had one well-defined moment when a boy comes a man, either by ritual or simple pronouncement, that certainly is not the case here in the post-modern Western world. We look around us and see way too many "man children" whose ID cards say they're adults, but their mindset, lifestyle and character aren't quite there. What is the real point when a boy can step up and say he's truly a man? And why is it so hard to define? As it turns out, the answer is crystal clear and has been hiding in plain sight. It's just that other factors in society have obscured matters. In this brief episode we'll reveal what that TRUE rite of passage is, along with how and why everything got so confused. Get the new program called The "Big Four" Woman program here: https://mountaintoppodcast.com/bigfourwoman === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO

Co-Host Jim Wolfe (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/funny) My long-time friend and fellow coach Jim Wolfe returns, this time to talk about how to use the kind of humor that women find attractive. We kick things off by talking about the oxymoron that the harder we try to be funny, the less funny we are. What do you do with that situation? Well, the good news is being funny is a learned skill...but one few men ever master. What kind of humor attracts women, and what kind turns them off? It's important to get that part right. Jim lives right next to Iran these days, which is decidedly not funny. How does humor relieve stress and make life in general more bearable? What is the difference between having a sense of humor and being funny? You don't actually have to be a comedian to make women laugh, all you need is THIS (which most men are allergic to!) What about using humor as a Dad, as well as with women? What's the same and different? And what's the same and different about the humor you use when meeting women vs.

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== Who knows where the term started, but "sexual threat" is one of the most widely mis-interpreted phrases in the world of seduction and attraction science. For better or worse, it's also dead-on accurate in terms of describing what's going on. Obviously, we know a "Big Four" man is rightly focused on making a woman feel safe and comfortable. So how can something called a "threat" be a positive and powerful thing? Well, the truth isn't quite as complicated as it sounds. And yes, this is yet another one of those subtle areas that once you get right, your success with women skyrockets. In fact, it's a major key of moving from platonic to sexual. Get the new program called The "Big Four" Woman program here: https://mountaintoppodcast.com/bigfourwoman === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four"

Co-Host Marni Kinrys (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/fwithher) We talk about making women feel safe and secure, but what else do women need to feel genuine, raw, primal attraction? My long-time friend and returning guest Marni "The Wing Girl" Kinrys joins us to talk about her "Four Ss" (which I'm not exactly sure how to type out in proper English), which have everything to do with how we show up and lead as a man. Before we dive into that, we talk about being "equal time" advocates for men and women, and how that translates into us both being optimistic about the future of male/female relationships. Marni is a "boy mom" nowadays, which is having more and more impact on how she views masculinity and what kids are up against. How has the "all or nothing" fallacy affected how men and women communicate with each other nowadays? Next, Marni talks about how she met her husband...in a totally unexpected way, which is solid insight for every man. How do we as men create "monsters" out of women, without even realizing

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== We're hard-wired to want women, and women are hard-wired to want us. That's how it has been since the dawn of time. So what's happened in the last century or so to make men apparently uninterested in women? Was it that women were uninterested in us first? Well, the truth is all of us--men and women--have been tricked. What's the truth underneath all of the division between men and women? And more importantly, how do we as men return to GETTING women rather than trying to FORGET them? And will women at least meet us half-way there? Get the new program called The "Big Four" Woman that goes into more depth: https://mountaintoppodcast.com/bigfourwoman === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you lo

Co-Host Rob Judge (https://mountaintoppodcat.com/robai) As much as I'd love to be, I can't be on call to every one of you guys I work with 24/7. I mean, I've been known to try...and I do get texts from guys right before 2am California time wondering how to get a woman's number at the bar before it closes.  Well, my long-time friend and fellow men's coach Rob Judge has the same exact predicament. So as it turns out, both of us independently arrived at the same conclusion: We need AI versions of ourselves. After all, we can't clone ourselves like Michael Keaton in Multplicity, right? Nor would we want to, really, because if you've seen the flick each new clone gets stupider. What we needed was an even smarter version of ourselves here, if possible. Enter RobAI and VAMANOS. Curiously enough, both of us have pics on our respective websites of ourselves as sort of holographic "ghosts" helping a guy succeed with women. So I guess you could say it's more like we ghosted ourselves than cloning ourselves! But what's i

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== When we think of a 50-year-old man with a 20-year-old woman, we get a very specific mental picture. Mature guys who can pull that off are like heroes, right? Well...not so fast. What if the reality is different than what you expect? Either way, what are the right and the wrong reasons to entertain a 10, 15 or even 30 year age gap between partners like that? What if other people freely share their snarky opinions when they see the two of you together? Is the whole "sugar daddy/sugar baby" gig the only semi-realistic way to pull that sort of relationship off? Do you have a better chance at dating a certain KIND of younger women? And what if you want to date an older woman instead...is that "anti-heroic" in comparison? Want to date real, authentic women who really do it for you, not those fake "club" chicks? Check this out: https://mountaintoppodcast.com/shy === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for

Co-Host Kaamna Bhojwani (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/technosexual) My first-time guest Kaamna Bhojwani is a long-time sexologist, and more recently a technosexuality expert. With the rise of telephony, the Internet, social media and now AI we've all become more technosexual nowadays than we might even realize. But what IS "technosexuality"? Well, as unsettling as it sounds, it's at least not to be confused with replacing human sexuality with some sort of trans-human robot sex. This is a different conversation...about a phenomenon that's been going on for far longer, at least relatively speaking. But now, Kaamna is indeed speaking of a second wave of technosexuality with indeed involves direct interaction with electronic, non-human entities. Could technosexuality actually become a sexual orientation? Or has it even now, already become that there's sexual preference around some sort of technology for all of us, regardless of our sexual orientation? Kaamna believes the conversation about the technological too

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== ===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== The underground society of pickup artists may be LONG gone, but the PUA movement is still alive and well. It just sort of changed venues. What's up with that? Well, men are never going to stop wanting to know how to attract and seduce women. But nowadays you can't just expect to go to a bar or disco club on Friday night and pull chicks. A big part of that is there are barely and dark, smoky "clubs" left. Yes, women's social habits have changed, and pickup strategy has changed with it. But it's also that the women are all somewhere else now anyway...assuming they're the kind of women men really even want anymore. Did you know that VAMANOS is the everyday carry for "Big Four" men? Getchasum at https://vamanos.chat === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four":

Co-Host Kenny Vaughan (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/kenny) My first-time guest Kenny Vaughan is the author of The Right Fight and founder of Shield of Strength. He spends a lot of time thinking about what love is, and isn't. For years, Kenny thought love was only a feeling...but then realized there was something deeper there. He didn't buy that "love is a decision", either. What does, "I love you, I'm just not in love with you anymore" actually mean? And what does Kenny mean when he says, "I feel love her because she loves me?" And how did we get to the point where so-called "love" is actually defined by transactions in our culture? According to Kenny, love is both your offense and your defense. What does that mean? How much is love about being "nice" to each other? Why can that attitude of being "nice" actually show you don't love someone rather than truly loving them? Okay, so then what does "tough love" really mean? And what does this all have to do with how women crave "emotional availability"? Why is i

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== Most of us can't stand small talk. It's shallow. It's repetitive. But in this culture, it's also absolutely necessary. Have you ever realized we have one set of canned lines we deliver to people we know when we see them? But there are also completely different things we've grown accustomed to saying to people we don't know. I'll give you the absolute clearest example in this brief episode. When we approach and meet women, is there really a clear set of "small talk" guidelines? The answer will surprise you...along with the subtle change to how society tends to work nowadays in general. Did you know that VAMANOS is the everyday carry for "Big Four" men? Getchasum at https://vamanos.chat === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character.

Co-Host Sanya Bari (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/sanya) My first time guest Sanya Bari is a relationship therapist and emotional clarity expert...which given she's from New Jersey means she's in high demand. She asked a dangerous question: What keeps men from thriving? To get the show rolling, Sanya riffs away on what her findings were. So what is the difference between merely surviving and thriving? What is the real "drug" that keeps us from being our best selves? (Hint: It's not booze or ganja.) What about being "locked in" to a project or goal? Is that a good or a bad thing? If you "survive" effectively enough, others may actually give you accolades for it. But what's the danger behind that mindset? Why does Sanya believe that most guys really don't even realize when they're slipping into "survival mode"? And how to we recover from that and get ourselves back? How do we handle seeing everyone else's "highlight reels" on Facebook knowing that we're NOT okay? How do the mixed messages we as men get about e

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== There's so much shop-worn dating advice out there we've heard SO often that I swear we don't even realize there's anything wrong with it. Example...have you ever noticed that virtually all tips on approaching women, meeting them and interacting women them assume a playful, happy-go-lucky, flirty woman as a given? The only other frame of mind we consider possible in that scenario is disgust and anger...directed at the guy approaching her! But that's just not how life works, is it? There are perfectly sane, decent women out there who will not be at their best when it's time to meet them and interact with them. They could be women you're just meeting, or long-time acquaintances. But either way, interacting them is an opportunity we should absolutely not avoid. Here's why...and this could revolutionize your approach out there. Did you know that VAMANOS is the everyday carry for "Big Four" men? Getchasum at https://vamanos.chat === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE ===

Co-Host Emily McKay (https://www.deservewhatyouwant.com) Since our last episode together, Emily and I celebrated 20 years since we met. Over the course of two decades, we've realized there are seasons to a marriage. Now obviously, most couples would hope for an endless springtime rather than the winter of their discontent, but what we're talking about here isn't quite so literal. It's not just that things change both in the marriage and around you. That's inevitable in this life. It's not even about the evolution of the marriage, or the both of you over time, really.  Rather, it's a definite smooth and perhaps even rhythmic flow from one major theme of your life together into another. Now, Emily and I met when we were in our mid- and late-thirties, respectively. For the benefit of those of you listening who might be younger, what seasons can younger couples expect? Is it all about being DINKS (or even DINKWADS)? What about the "Honeymoon Phase"? And the dreaded "Seven Year Itch"? Does Parenthood count as a se

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== Better men get better women. To be a better man, the "Big Four" is the standard. Once you're a "Big Four" man, you deserve what you want. Although there's always room for improvement, most men who listen to this show have three of the "Big Four" down pretty well. You're masculine, you like women and you're a man of good, solid character. But when "confronted" with an attractive woman we'd like to meet, talk to and get to know, we freeze up and "fail to deploy". What's up with that? Why is the CONFIDENCE part so difficult? I mean, without it, how are women ever going to know you represent the other three pillars of the "Big Four" as well? In this week's SFTS you'll not only get answers to why so many men struggle with the confidence part, you'll get practical solutions to fix the problem and make sure it never happens again. Did you know that VAMANOS is the everyday carry for "Big Four" men? Getchasum at https://vamanos.chat === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE ==

Co-Host Sandra Myers (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/sandra) My first-time guest Sandra Myers is a matchmaker who heads up Select Date Society. In this fast-paced and often funny episode, we talk about how (and when) men and women tend to blow it in the first three months of dating each other. To kick things off, Sandra throws down how WAY too many people mess up within the first three MINUTES, or on the first date. Here's a hint: How many people do you know who love biographies? What are some other ways we as men all tend to sabotage any chances with a woman early on? Why does living in the past even in a present relationship have such damaging consequences? How does a "dry spell" over the past several months affect our mindset when getting into a new relationship? What's the trap that couples fall into on or shortly after the first date that instantly creates a bad habit that could doom the relationship later? What's the right level of "being mysterious" early on? I mean, where's the proper balance between

One of the most tired tips for men when it comes to telling if a woman is attracted is "she makes eye contact with you and smiles". Way too many of us as men have never seen that happen even once. It's no wonder we're so frustrated. But wait a second, could we be robbing ourselves of potential "moments" with women because we're avoiding eye contact with women to begin with? Why do so many of us as men do that? What could we be possibly afraid of? Well, the simple (and easy!) cure for this weird and devastating problem is contained in this brief episode. Subscribe to the free newsletter and download your free copy of Sticking Points Solved: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say her

Co-Host Steve "The Dean" Williams (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/dean) Well, here we are...finally all the way to episode #500. Massive respect and appreciation to all of you guys who've supported the show over the years, many since the very beginning back in 2007...when it was originally called The Chick Whisperer. The first guy I thought of to join me for this milestone episode was none other than Steve "The Dean" Williams, who co-hosted the first ten episodes with me BITD. And it's been too long, so the OGs got the band back together for one special show. Get your crayons out, gentlemen...we're about to chop up some game. And I figured nothing would launch us both into one of our patented rants than a topic like What's Wrong With Men And Women Nowadays? We get rolling by talking about what's changed over the last 19 years, and what's stayed the same. How have men been blown and tossed by whatever the "next new thing" is in dating and relationship advice? What has post-modern culture done to men's mindset

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== You've heard the term. "Liquid courage" refers to slamming back a few alcoholic drinks before expecting to approach and meet women. It goes hand-in-hand with "night game" culture of meeting women in bars and clubs, doesn't it? There's no doubt that a little "social lubrication" to grease the skids and lower inhibition really can work. But there's also a good, solid reason why I strongly discourage alcohol consumption during Ten-Plus Live weekends with guys out in field. Subscribe to the free newsletter and download your free copy of Sticking Points Solved: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

Co-Host Dr. Karen Stewart (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/stewart) We've all heard the term "situationship" all the time over the past few years, but what exactly does it mean? We already have "friends with benefits" and even "f-buddies", so there's no need for a new term for that. And hey, it's okay to date someone casually without rushing into commitment, too...so that's certainly not it, either. Well, as it turns out there's a pretty clear differentiator between a true "situationship" and any other kind of relationship with a woman. My first-time guest, clinical psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Karen Stewart, not only describes the "situation" clearly, she's all about the discussion regarding the good, the bad and the ugly going on there. What is "girlfriend mode", and what does it have to do with all of this? How is a climate of fear directly associated with the modern-day proliferation of situationships? What are the disastrous ways men misunderstand a woman's signals that she's indeed just up for some