The Chick Whisperer Podcast

Co-Hosts Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Hilliard (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/caliber) This is one of those rare shows featuring two guests. Anne and Heather specialize in empowering leaders to greater excellence, but what really caught my attention was their work in helping people deal with jerks, while also helping jerky people be less so. Probably the most fascinating part of it all is the premise that plenty of us are acting like jerks without even realizing it. So then, how is 'jerk' defined, anyway? Is being jerky synonymous with being narcissistic? Or is there more to it? Are jerks born or made? Is there any hope for that guy who's genuinely trying not to be a jerk, but he has to consciously fight it at every turn? And what if someone actually likes being a jerk and doesn't care to change? What do you do if someone who is a jerk starts acting like you're the jerk, not them? And how can you really tell? How does 'the quest to be right' apply to jerky behavior? Do you really have to be either 'Mr. Nice

Co-Host JP Pawliw-Fry (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/jp) My guest today is the New York Times bestselling author of Performing Under Pressure. And surely JP Pawliw-Fry knows what he's talking about, having worked with NFL and NBA players and Olympic athletes. So with the Olympic Games going on, what better time than this to talk about how the best perform so well under pressure, and how we as men can do the same--be it on the field, in the workplace or (of course) interacting with women. Why is performance such an important issue for men? Is pressure a bad thing? How do we turn it into a positive? Is there really such thing as people who perform better under pressure? What differentiates people who thrive on pressure? Do people who master this skill do better in life? IOW, do higher stakes lead to bigger accomplishments? Why do young children often seem to do better with pressure? What is 'the last 8 percent'? Why is it so hard to have the conversations we want with women...especially when we KNOW they need

Co-Host Helena Nista (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/nista) Personality type in general is widely discussed in psycho-social circles, but I have never heard anyone openly discuss the idea of sexual personality. Indeed, the concept even caught world-renowned sex expert Helena Nista off guard. But she told me she LOVED the idea, and agreed to join us for a second week in a row...this time to boldly blaze a new trail. We start by suggesting several potential 'sexual avatars' a woman may portray. What are these different kinds of women like, and can we pick them out of a crowd before actually taking them to bed? How can we tell which women will be most sexually compatible with us? What can we tell from even the first kiss? Do some of them have plenty to teach us? Do women evolve or even voluntarily change their sexual personalities over time? Can we influence that in any way? Is sexual personality potentially more confusing or even somewhat 'hidden' because of societal pressures and stereotypes? And what about us

Co-Host Helena Nista (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/nista) It all started when Helena Nista posted a video on 'Big Dick Energy' (or 'BDE') to her wildly popular YouTube channel. I knew immediately I'd have to invite her back onto the show to discuss it. Is what she's talking about here figurative or literal? I mean, is our attitude toward life and others really influenced by our penis size? Why is swagger, quiet confidence, being over oneself and unoffendability 'big dick energy'? And why is insecurity, trying too hard, losing your cool, etc. 'small dick energy'? What other behaviors exhibit these kinds of energy? If I have a small or average penis, am I therefore doomed to SDE? If I'm well-endowed, am I automatically gifted with BDE? What's a man to do? I mean, guys often suppose other dudes get women because they have a large penis, and my comeback is always that a woman can't possibly know what you're packing when you simply walk up to her and ask her out. It's not like we drop our drawers as soon as we a

When it comes to differences between men and women, my talking points have always been mostly about masculine-feminine polarity, while supposing most other elements of humanity are similar. I've said 'men are from Earth and women are from Earth'. Yet there's no accounting for some differences that are undoubtedly there, but don't make much sense. Enter my guest and long-time friend, Marni 'The Winggirl' Kinrys, who has plenty to say on that. For starters, what is the key male-female difference that sabotages our attempts to approach women and start conversations with them? Why don't men ask for help? And what effect does breaking that mold have on the women in our lives? What is the truth about men and porn? Why do men get shamed more often for their natural tendencies compared to women? Is MGTOW really different than radical Feminism? Why do women bring up stuff that happened six months ago when you're arguing with them? How come women often care little about their own rank and status, but care so much about

We sometimes get into slightly paranormal stuff around here, but it's always tied to manhood and relationships. My guest today is Stephen Hawley Martin, the extremely prolific author of such books as Your Cosmic Mind Power, How Science Reveals God, Afterlife-The Whole Truth, and Consciousness-The Hard Problem Solved. Stephen boldly goes where no man has before, with confidence. He claims to have scientific proof for the afterlife, as well as a purely logical explanation for consciousness itself. Curiously, Stephen says the way to discover our eternal nature centers on looking past, or even flat-out denying our ego, which will perk a lot men's attention. After all, ego seems central to masculine swagger and power. But could it possibly be that we get more power from limiting our ego's influence over our lives? So, what is consciousness, exactly..and do most of us have WAY too small a vision for what it truly is? How do our conscious minds stand in the way of our unconscious mind and/or our sub-conscious mind?

Get ready to install 'mental kevlar' and become virtually unoffendable thanks to my guest, author Bill Lee-Emery from Australia. Handling criticism is a huge issue for nearly every man. Even Elon Musk himself isn't immune to taking criticism harshly. So how does the nature of our internal critic determine how we'll measure external criticism? What's the difference between finding it unfortunate that someone doesn't agree with you and being butthurt by it? How does a mature, evolved man respond to critics without coming off as defensive? What is the important distinction one must make when encountering external criticism? How can we best deal with trolls who use the 'Twitter Effect' for maximum emotional impact on social media? What is the real-world psychological effect of focusing on either the positive or negative aspects of things too much? I mean, should we really be telling our kids 'good job' when they come in last place? What does true 'agreement' really look like...not only with others, but with yours

In the second installment of our two-part episode, Emily and I break down the little things couples do (often to each other) that make a relationship suck. To kick things off, we talk about the scene in the movie The Good, The Bad And The Ugly itself that's the best metaphor for how men and women ruin their relationships together. Next, we talk about the importance of realizing that some allegedly 'small' annoyances in a relationship are actually HUGE to the other partner. And YES...you want examples, and we've got 'em. What's the difference between being snarky and being a smart-ass...and is either okay? What are some dangerous ways that bad parenting can actually negatively affect your relationship? What should always be off the table in any disagreement and NEVER fair game? And how about those habits we fall into that seem innocuous at first, but prove to be toxic over time? What kinds of expectations are too idealistic for real life...and which are perfectly reasonable? How do external stresses seep into

This is the first of a two-part episode with Emily on the little things that either make a relationship with a woman great, or make it suck. Sure, you hear about the major pillars like trust, communication, attraction, etc., but this is a deeper dive into the subtle effects certain mindsets and/or actions have. The first order of business is to describe how big mountains are often (maybe even usually) composed of small pebbles. How important is being playful instead of taking oneself so seriously? What does that even mean? As a man, should you put her needs and OUR needs ahead of YOUR needs? If so, what if your needs never get met? Next we talk about various kinds of 'micro-bursts' that can really supercharge your relationship. What does it mean when I say, 'Freedom from obligation is literally nothing'? How can certain little secret messages and spontaneous flirts change the dynamic between partners for the better? What 'three little words' are every bit as important as 'I love you'? Is talking everything ou

People have stopped making sense, the emperor has no clothes everywhere you go, and it seems to anyone with half a brain left that we're living in an Idiocracy. It's scary how prescient movies like that and, say, Wall-e are starting to seem. Critical thinking and personal responsibility aren't only discouraged, they're flat-out vilified. But WHY? Johnny Elsasser from The Art Of Masculinity podcast joins me to piece together how we got to this point, especially with regard to how men and women relate nowadays. Doesn't everyone instinctively know when something is stupid--possibly even those proffering the stupidity themselves? Do they really believe their own narrative, or do they just hope YOU will? Do people trust truth over facts? ...Or is that more like facts over truth? And what's up with all the childish intolerance? I mean, even the anti-bullying movement bullies those who disagree with them. How did we get programmed to politicize virtually everything nowadays? What is it about fear that makes us so st

My guest holds top-secret clearance as a Lieutenant Colonel in the USAF, pilots a 787 for United Airlines, practices law AND is a self-help coach. He even hosts his own podcast, The Greg Krino Show. That makes him the right guy to talk about balancing careers, passions and purpose...and there's plenty to discuss. What is the best guiding principle for measuring how much work and responsibility you can pile on your plate? What happens when you have a hard time saying "no"? Given how driven most men can be, do we need paternity leave? Next, discover a genius but simple hack for balancing career responsibility with family commitments. How is a mature, evolved man different in how he goes about balancing multiple responsibilities? What are the red flags that we've either got too much going on...or too little? What are the practical steps to take from there? Listen in for the great ironic truth men need to live by, especially if they work in a service-oriented career. How does passion intersect with intelligence a

Nowadays, many of us as men find it more challenging than ever to relate to women. We hear from the media that our masculinity is "toxic", if it even exists as opposed to being a mere social construct. And most frustrating of all? We're not given an alternative. We're simply told to "do better". This is Scot McKay, host of The Mountain Top Podcast for men...since 2007, the definitive podcastfor evolved men of character. My expert co-hosts and I talk women, dating, relationships and 21st century masculinity in a fast-paced, entertaining and often controversial style. Plus, it can be a very funny show, especially when I have female guests on and bring out their playful, feminine nature. Join thousands of men worldwide--current AND future entrepreneurs, captains of industry, professionals, military officers, first responders and other high-achieving men who work hard AND play hard--all of whom have chosen to boldly stand up, take ownership, reclaim virtuous masculinity and--most of all--enrich their lives with f

All my exes happen to live in Texas. But does that mean I should remain in contact with them all, let alone maintain friendships with them? I've found the perfect guest to hit this topic with. She's Sabrina Shaheen Cronin, who heads up the Cronin Law Firm in Michigan and has quite an Internet presence in her field. Yes, she's a family law attorney...but FINALLY one who actually puts the interests of all parties involved in her cases at the forefront. We kick it all off by listing potentially good and bad reasons to stay connected with an ex. You know we'll bring up how some of us have a hard time saying 'no', especially if she's hot. Next, we discuss how it's human nature that we generally only think of the good times when reminiscing about someone, don't we? Why do people get divorced and then remarry the same person? Can toxicity only be apparent to one partner, but not to the other? What are some common examples of that? What is the key word that generally decides whether two people can remain friends post

Most people think about therapy as healing from the past, and as coaches we think and talk more about setting future-oriented goals and reaching them. But the truth is that healing from the past is a necessary step to forging ahead successfully in the future. The truly sobering part is that we as men can go years--even decades--without acknowledging, or even realizing the psychological and emotional wounds we need to recover from. Nevertheless, if your upbringing, past relationships or other circumstances have resulted in deep insecurities or even rage, then you have the power to turn that around and become the man you want to be. That's the entire point of my co-host Justin Long's latest book. For starters, we talk about how the biggest kiss of death is being too hard on ourselves, and how it paralyzes us from going forward with perceived risk. Next, we cover how the dreaded approval seeking tendencies make things worse, sending us into an even deeper spiral of self-doubt and loss of confidence. And even tho

My guest Avi Lev is a cognitive behavioral therapist and the founder/director of the Bay Area CBT Center. She has spent lots of time considering how both men AND women fear rejection, and talks about it in completely different terms than your garden variety old school PUA would have. In this episode you'll discover how our behaviors actually influence how women respond to u, sometimes in unexpected or even counterintuitive ways. What is the dirty little trick we play on ourselves that often results in feeling 'rejected' when we really haven't been? It's like we're our own worst enemy...often. But hold on a second, Avi and I differ on how much we believe confidence helps in rejection-phobic situations with women. How can that be? Next, Avi offers her own interpretation of deserving what you want and how it directly affects getting over fear of rejection. Then we drop a bomb on the whole conversation when we pronounce being 'impressive' straight up irrelevant to approach and attraction. As you may know, I've ta

After over three decades of coaching, my guest has concluded that when we experience PEACE we are more production with regard to that which we deem most important. This led him to develop the controversial 30-Day Opinion Diet. In his words, 'It's a detox for your mind, not your body. Taking a break from constantly judging every situation in your life can do wonders for your mental health.' Now, we already know Twitter and Facebook are designed to draw us into spontaneous and often toxic debate, which keeps us addicted to their platforms. But the social cost of everyone being their own media outlet--and trolling each other--is harsh. So how does ceasing and desisting from scattering our opinions far and wide help us? And how does it actually make us MORE attractive to women? What damage has the 'pack mentality' associated with the echo chamber phenomenon already done to our collective psyche? How are dating apps particularly insidious when it comes to messing with our heads? Listen in as Matthew describes the

My guest today is a long-time Wall Street Journal reporter who has followed the political lives of presidents, senators and governors. Her new book is called, Why They Stay: Sex Scandals, Deals and Hidden Agendas Of Eight Political Wives. Now, I already know you're probably not tuning in to hear tabloid gossip. But Anne's work is immensely valuable to us as we look inside the relationships the most powerful men in the world have with the women in their lives. Wait until you discover some of the golden truths you can readily apply to your own life, as well as many of the potential relationship pitfalls you can avoid. Indeed, this episode is loading to the hilt with 20/20 foresight. For starters, what behaviors and habits do so-called 'power couples' uniquely exhibit? What do wives of powerful men seem to have in common? Do women necessarily marry high-achieving men simply to leech off of them? Or is it they're seeking to ride 'coat tails' in search of their own power, money, fame as opposed to love? Do some wo

How do elite performers get on top of their game and stay there? My guest is the eponymous head of Dominique Brightmon International, a member of the John Maxwell team who has quite literally written the book on the subject. Dom has identified seven secret keys to sustainable success, and he reveals all of them in this episode. Listen in as he talks about the concept of self-leadership, and why it differentiates winners from the 'also-rans'. Why are so many people nowadays lapsing into the 'sheeple' mentality? Could it be because gaining control by weakness has become far too effective nowadays? I mean, in such a context, what is the value of even trying to perform at all, let alone at an elite level? How can we sort out following the herd versus what sounds like good ideas versus what's really going to work for us individually? Why is it that self-awareness is so massively lacking in our culture? What has the habit of instant gratification turned most of us into? What is the real dichotomy between working sm

I couldn't help but invoke pro bowler Pete Weber's infamous quote as the title of this episode. After all, we're talking about twin flames...the idea that your very soul is split here on earth and one other specific human shares it with you. I've known about this concept for quite a while, but it took until now to find the right guest. Elle Hari is indeed a world-class expert on the subject, having studied under the now-deceased undisputed twin flame guru. Now granted, I realizes this sounds like a chick thing from Cosmo on the surface, but hang with me here. What do we as men need to know, and how can we relate? I mean, is our twin flame destined to be our 'one and only'? Is she hot? Is she even a 'she'? And wait a minute...isn't this really just the same thing as the time-worn soulmate concept? (Spoiler alert...it's not.) Are you supposed to marry your twin flame? After all, wouldn't procreating with your twin flame be like inbreeding your soul? What if your twin flame is far away? Do they have the same bir

My guest Dr. Gary Salyer is a well-known subject matter expert in the area of attachment theory. That means he has spent a whole lot of time studying how--and why--humans fall in love and the alchemy of relationships. He also knows something about why people fall OUT of love and tend to hurt each other even when they're IN love. His book is called Safe To Love Again, and in this episode we talk about whether or not falling in love is worth it, and if so how to make it last. Why do so many men scoff at the idea of falling in love, as if it's grounds for surrendering one's 'man card'? Is the idea of getting into a long-term relationship with someone specifically because of how one feels toward them legit? After all, it's a relatively modern construct. And what of the confusion among us as men when we're told on one hand to be stoic in our masculinity, while on the other hand being told it's okay and healthy to exhibit more emotion...especially in the context of a relationship? So then, is love a feeling or is i