The Chick Whisperer Podcast

Co-Host Dr. Joan Rosenberg (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/joan) We as men play all sorts of mental tricks on ourselves when our confidence level is down. That's truly a new and powerful take on the somewhat shop-worn topic of confidence, thanks to my guest Dr. Joan Rosenberg. Confidence and resiliency, she has found, has everything to do with your ability to handle unpleasant emotions. First off, discover how the 'Rosenberg Reset' can get you focused and immediately more confident in just 90 seconds. Next, Dr. Joan reveals how we distract or disconnect from feelings rather than allowing ourselves to feel them...resulting in a hit to our confidence every time. What are the 8 'confidence keys'? And what's up with the human tendency to 'layer feelings' as either an emotional distraction or a protection mechanism? How do we trick ourselves into 'transmuting' our feelings when we're not feeling all that confident? Why is it so many of us as men not only don't take criticism well, we don't take compliments well ei

Co-Host Dr. Judson Brandeis (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/judson) One thing we've never done in over 300 episodes is get a medical doctor's take on sexual attractiveness to women. So it was on that premise that we opened this episode, but it ended up being much more than that. My guest Dr. Judson Brandeis proceeded to reveal a myriad of ways we as men can reach peak sexual performance, literally becoming better sexual athletes. After a brief discussion of how to have more sexual stamina downstairs, we turned our attention to how your diet and alcohol consumption affect matters. If we shouldn't eat carbs, and we shouldn't load up on cholesterol...what's left to eat? Next, what are the primal elements of sexual attraction relative to our overall health? Why are modern-day men so bad at keeping our testosterone levels up? What's up with us as men being so complacent about exactly those elements of personal health that make us sexually attractive? How does the media assault on "toxic masculinity" trick us psych

Co-Host Zan Perrion (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/zan) Post-modern culture is pitting men and women against each other more and more as time passes. So who is left to make the case for the glory of men and women having the hots for each other? It seems like a weird question, but my friend Zan Perrion and I are left to stand in the gap. Zan loves women more than any man I've ever met (even myself), and proves it every day of his life. Listen in as he rekindles the case for masculinity and femininity as divinely-inspired intelligent design. Why are so many men afraid to express their natural attraction to women nowadays, especially given that heterosexual women WANT heterosexual men? What should our response be to this trend of aggressive fighting strategy toward women who hate men, or even men who hate women? Are you some sort of simp for having positive regard for women? Where did that fear even come from? What if our biggest complaints about interacting with women are really nothing more than weak excuses?

Co-Host Emily McKay (https://www.deservewhatyouwant.com) As the lyrics of one of Tyler Childers' songs say, 'There is hurt you can cause that time alone cannot heal'. When it comes to our interactions with women, a breathtaking amount of that pain is caused by what we say...or what SHE says. And when we get into a relationship, the stakes get even higher. Emily and I get straight to the point in this episode, first addressing the weird childhood refrain that 'sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me'. So then, what about childhood? How does what our parents--and maybe even teachers--tell us form our views of and expectations toward future romantic relationship? What's the truth about how early-stage communication between men and women can deeply impact BOTH participants, both in the short-term and the longer-term? What are the differences between how men and women tend to process conversational conflict...and the surprising similarities? What are the patterns that lead to couples blur

Co-Host Allana Pratt (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/pratt) The last time Allana was on, she spoke memorably about how a woman recharges a warrior's masculine energy with femininity. So when I started considering the topic of men and women being in partnership with each other rather than being adversarial, she was the first co-host who came to mind. And sure enough, this show delivers. Let's face it, there's just way too much out there about men and women lacking trust for each other, or even flat out not liking each other. Yet, if you think about it, the natural order of things dictates that men and women are designed to be together. So what happened here in post-modernity? What has contributed to the rampant blame game between men and women? What patterns of failur result in us thinking the other gender is no darned good? How has our 21st-century culture of self-absorption impacted relationships? Is our wife or girlfriend really OURS? Listen in as Allana makes a solid case for partnership being better than

Co-Host David Medansky (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/antidiet) Let's face it. There are a whole lot of things we are doing--either sins of commission or omission--that are shortening our lifespan as men. Not coincidentally, some of these same questionable habits are also making us less attractive to women and less likely to get ahead in our careers. Yet, we stubbornly refuse to modify our course...even when we know we're not doing ourselves any darned good. But here's the thing, the truly insidious part is we're probably also doing things that we have NO IDEA are killing us. Enter my guest, David Medansky. Now sure, like me David lost 50 pounds. But see, he doesn't believe for a second that dieting as you know it is good for you at all. For example, how are we supposed to differentiate between good, solid wisdom and convincing marketing tactics? Do you really have to get older and slower by default? What is the one simple, easy and cheap thing we can do immediately to be healthier all around and live longer

Co-Host Tommy Breedlove (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/legendary) Without rites of passage, we aren't as well-equipped to face the reality of adult life. This used to be a foregone conclusion in cultures all over the world, for both men and women. There was a clear rite of passage from childhood into adulthood. But such has become purely symbolic in Western culture, if not rendered completely irrelevant. What happened to rites of passage? And more importantly, WHY did they all but disappear? And what has the impact been on our lives? My guest is bestselling author Tommy Breedlove. He is not only returning for his third appearance on this show, he's an erstwhile member of the board for the Rites of Passage Council. We have bar mitzvahs, graduations and weddings...but why do those ceremonial rites of passage fall short of really turning boys into men? Indeed, elaborate and far more intimidating ones are still a big part of cultures like the Maasai. What are rites of passage meant to teach us...and how are they

Co-Host Kenneth Play (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/kenneth) My guest Kenneth Play has been called The World's Greatest Sex Hacker by numerous media outlets. Whatever you can imagine is possible sexually with women, he has probably experienced it. In particular, Kenneth is well-versed in how to bring out a woman's sexual fantasies. Dating back to Nancy Friday's book My Secret Garden, it has been well established that women typically are full of deranged, horny, dirty thoughts. But most of us as men never lift the veil to see what's truly under there. I mean, we usually won't even face our OWN sexual fantasies, right? What are some of the most basic and common female sexual fantasies? Why is taboo such a turn on...yet it's more common to fantasize about such things than we think? And why do men talk about all the chicks they're bagging, or even their penis size...but never about the techniques they use? Meanwhile, how do women talk about their sex lives with other women? Why is any talk about sexual fantasy p

Co-Hosts Dr. Michael and Dr. Barbara Grossman (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/grossman) You've probably heard that those who are in a long-term relationship live longer. Well, my guests are specialists in that area. In this episode, they reveal exactly what we can and should do to make sure that happens. Can you believe there was an 80 year study to find out the truth behind this? What are the baseline rules for making sure you're in the right relationship with the right woman to promote longevity? What if we're already in a relationship that is likely the opposite of that? Even though the premise of this episode isn't completely gender-specific, why is it especially pertinent to men?How do maturity and responsibility intersect with all of this? As we go through different life stages during a relationship, how does the dynamic change that keeps us thriving over the long haul? What is the medical science perspective on all of that? How do menopause--and yes andropause--affect the power of our relationship to i

Co-Host Julian Hayes II (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/julian) Remember that old John Cougar Mellencamp song that says, 'Oh yeah, life goes on...long after the thrill of living is gone'? Yeah well, I never liked that song. Now on the other hand, the saying, 'Old truckers never die, they just get a new Peterbilt'? That I like. Hence this episode with my new friend Julian Hayes II from The Art Of Fitness And Life. Julian is an erstwhile medical student who is now on a mission to declare the ART of a long, healthy, fulfilling life rather than simply the science behind it. In this episode, we focus on how to be active and enthusiastic well into maturity instead of being that cranky 'get off my lawn' guy. Listen in as he reveals how the root causes of most health issues--and even most dating and relationship issues--are LIFE issues. How is aging better tied to not just the left-brained aspects of health, but possibly the right-brained ones as well? What is 'healthy narcissism', is it really a thing, and can it ac

Co-Host Lia Holmgren (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/lia) Far too many men somehow believe that women don't enjoy sex as much as we do. Further, they believe if sex happens, she's going to want to lock him down into a long-term relationship. Well, my guest Lia Holmgren is the author of a book FOR WOMEN on how to have empowered casual sex. In this episode, she will delight you not only with her mellifluous Eastern European accent, but with her decidedly unexpected take on women and sex. So, does Lia think women should reclaim the word 'slut'? Where exactly did the long history of slut-shaming women originate...and why? Are men simply possessive and jealous, or is there a more primal vestige of our caveman days going on there? Listen in as Lia perfectly describes just how screwed up sexual dynamics have become in this day and age...and exactly why. Hint: Only a few angry people made it this way, NOT the vast majority. So how did we as men convince ourselves women don't like sex? What's the uncomfortable truth t

Co-Host Dr. Mark Goulston (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/kindness) Nobody I know walks his talk better than my returning guest, Dr. Mark Goulston. What makes that particularly amazing is he is a world-class expert in conflict resolution and the inventor of the aptly named 'surgical empathy'. In this episode, Mark and I tackle the fascinating trend proliferating pro-masculinity circles of embracing 'toxic masculinity' rather than fighting it. Often, what comes with that argument is the weird assertion that kindness is not manly...and worse, that women find it straight-up unattractive. But here's the thing, isn't being kind different than being the dreaded 'Mr. Nice Guy'? What if our concept of kindness is indeed screwed up to begin with? Listen to the pure wisdom of Mark's five steps to being assertive without being a knucklehead. Thrill to his simple equation for channeling aggression properly. Prepare to be blown away by his radically simple way to get the best of bullies without losing your cool. Best of a

Co-Host Dominey Drew (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/drew) Who knows how or why it took so many episodes to address this topic, but guilt and shame are probably the biggest hurdles we as men face as we seek to get better with women. But what ARE guilt and shame? And what is the difference between them? My guest Dominey Drew has been working with men and women for years now, all with the aim of increasing purpose, fulfillment and joy. She graciously agreed to help me address this sticky but important topic, and believe it or not we somehow made it fun. Listen in as we first address the biggest irony surrounding guilt, shame and masculinity. Next, we talk about how and why the biggest reasons men feel guilt and shame are often the most illogical ones. What is the biggest stumbling block we as men face in getting rid of unnecessary guilt and shame? But wait...is there ever any GOOD reason to feel these emotions, and what should we do about that? Why can pride and gratitude get supplanted by guilt and shame, depe

Co-Host Benjamin Bequer (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/beqoming) Several years ago my guest Benjamin Bequer seemed like he had it all together, at least on the outside. But underneath was perpetual insecurity and anxiety, as is the case for many of us. That all manifested itself in strange ways, with counterintuitive consequences. Not until he discovered Ayahuasca did he start to turn everything around...culminating in the right relationship with the right woman for him. Discover how Benjamin's story feels like a 'conversion experience', yet comes about in a way that's unusual to most in Western culture. So what is Ayahuasca, how did Benjamin discover it, and what transformative meaning did it have for him? What is Ayahuasca's active ingredient, what does it do for you, and what's the shocking connection between it and something miraculous your body does naturally? How does it help give potential clarity to both purpose and relationships? Why is it that fear seems to rule so many people's lives, especially o

Co-Host Emily McKay (https://mountaintoppodcast.com) No matter how well a couple gets along and navigates their relationship, there always seems to be a challenge to your relationship coming from somewhere. For sure, it can start with your best man's TMI speech during the wedding reception. But what about unsolicited advice from miserable friends and relatives who can't even manage their own relationships? Jealous BFFs and sneaky exes? Baby mamas and baby daddies? How about other toxic people in your life you just can't cut out, for whatever reason? Sometimes it's your kids, her kids and even your kids together. How about when there's a member of the other gender who is 'just a friend'? Sometimes you don't even have to be on The Newlywed Game in order to be humiliated in front of way too many people...a simple party game of 'Would You Rather?' can do the trick. What about job-related pressures, or bosses, or when coworkers start interfering with your relationship? Is there ever a time when these people should

Co-Host Merrick Rosenberg (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/flight) My guest, Merrick Rosenberg, is the CEO of Take Flight Learning. He has an interesting take on how our personality traits affect our lives and our relationships with others. For starters, how come we aren't all naturally self-aware enough to know what our inherent strengths and weaknesses are? Discover the insidious ways we become our own worst enemy when we don't have an adequate grasp thereof. What's up with the masculine obsession with proving people wrong when they tell us we can't do something? And worse, why do we tend to be stubborn about doing things our way? What's the difference between determination and stubbornness? Next, we outline the relationship dangers associated with mismanaging one's own personality traits. What is the ironic truth about how our ego tends to actually keep us from maximizing our potential? Are empathy and compassion masculine? Is there such thing as an alpha 'Mr. Nice Guy'? How is it that so many of us end up

Co-Host Sarrah Rose (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/rose) There's a treat in store for you this time. I've discovered yet another fun, happy-go-lucky female sexpert who is virtually unoffendable. You're going to like her immediately. The topic, however, is indeed a challenging one. Lots of high-achieving men tend to be low-achievers in the bedroom. Yet, almost all of us really do want to be better in bed, and especially at giving the women in our lives the pleasure they deserve. With that in mind, there's nobody better than Sarrah to cover the topic du jour. So how do we as men transform mere sex into true intimacy with women? How has 'hookup culture' influenced our sex lives in general? Did you know that you have four different sexual bodies? Sarrah explains it in detail...and it's a game-changer. If we truly insist on being so left-brained and analytical regarding sex, what's one positive way we can direct that kind of energy? Next comes an eye-opening discussion of one key way we tend to overanalyze sex, w

Co-Host Dr. Gleb Tsipursky (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/gleb) We welcome back a crowd favorite, none other than the whip smart and laugh-out-loud funny Gleb Tsipursky. Now, despite being way too easy-going for a serious scientist, Gleb specializes in shining the harsh light of reality upon our blind spots. In this show we specifically go over the ways we fool ourselves, shoot ourselves in the foot and otherwise mess up when dating and relating with women. To start with, how does self-motivation affect a two-way relationship in hidden ways? Why do we withhold our true intentions? What's up with women treating sex as a weapon...and is that really different from how men weaponize relationship promises? Why does this type of manipulation often backfire? How does love addiction (or even obsession) pertain to the infamous 'Madonna Whore Complex'? Why shouldn't we just give in to our primal instincts and urges? Wouldn't that be a lot more fun and pleasurable than evolved maturity? Sorry MGTOW guys, but you've got

Co-Host Jan Edwards (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/edwards) Child trafficking an uncomfortable subject, which is a big part of why it's not talked about enough. But as men, we're responsible to protect those we love and look out for their best interests. That means we can no longer ignore this essential conversation. This is not a problem that happens to 'someone else'. All too often, it occurs close to home, even right under our very noses. The shocking part is it's FAR easier for it to affect your family than you think. You might not even realize it's happening at first. My guest Jan Miller is President of Paving The Way Foundation, and she offers straight talk about what human trafficking really is, the insidious ways traffickers and abusers weasel their way into our children's world, and--of course--what we as men can and should do about it. Listen in as Jan explains how it's not only girls who are sexually abused, and not only men who are the abusers. Moreover, child trafficking isn't necessarily synony

Co-Host Doug Noll (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/noll) My guest today, Doug Noll, is a neuroscience expert. After 22 years as a trial lawyer, he became a peacemaker and mediator. In order to work his craft to the fullest effect, he spends lots of time thinking and writing about social skills. All of this started for Doug when he found himself frustrated by how most writing on Emotional Intelligence was based purely on pop psychology. Seeking a more practical, fluff-free approach, Doug instead focused on the science behind how the brain really works, rather than how people think it works. As a direct result of all this research and real-world practice, he's now the New York Times bestselling author of De-Escalate: How To Calm An Angry Person In 90 Seconds Or Less. So out with it then...what IS the scientific basis for social skill? Can you teach Emotional Intelligence, or is it innate like IQ? What are the signs of good or bad EI? In other words, Is it you, or is it me? What are the three basic emotional comp