Overthinking Conflict

This week we are joined by Nora Sahatciu to explore her work in Kosovo creating the groundwork for Serbian families to safely return to Kosovo. We learn about community building, incentives, UN programs and development aid that were used to overcome barriers to trust and engagement.  Partners Kosovo Kosovo Kosovo Mediation Law Leke Dukagjinic Code Positive Descrimination UNDP Kosovo UN Kosovo Team If you are interested in hearing more about Nora's work she will be speaking at the ADRBC 2019 Symposium, June 10th and 11th in Vancouver, Canada You can find Nora online here What trust-building initiatives have you found success with? Tell us about them @overconflict Talk Soon!!

This episode uses the book Happiness by Aminata Forna to explores a wide variety of ideas and concepts around conflict. This wide ranging discussion touches on trauma and growth, conflict cycles, polarization, conflict roles and human-animal conflict. SPOILER ALERT! SPOILER ALERT!  If you are the kind of reader who hates spoilers please read the book before listening to the episode. Here are links to the past episodes mentioned in our discussion. Lorraine Segal - Episode 28 - Spotlight on Boundary Setting Julie Daum - Episode 6 - Giving Feedback C.D. and Amanda read the book as part of CoRe Reads 2018. A huge Thank You to Julie Daum for suggesting the book, Darsey Meredith and Aaron Leakey for participating in the dialogue and Wendy Lakusta for facilitating the collaborative discussion. You can see the video of the collaborative process here Did you enjoy being part of our book club? Want more? Aaron Leakey is facilitating a new monthly group Reading Conflict with the first discussion starting March 11,

In this Episode C.D. and Amanda take some time to reflect on the last year and look forward to 2019. This is the longest show notes and link list we've done by about 200%. So we've pulled our 2 call-outs to the top of the list! 1. We are collecting ideas for the 2019 SKill Series. If there are skills you think we should add to the list let us know @overconflict or www.facebook.com/overconflict 2. Happiness by Aminatta Forna is the CoRe Reads holiday book club pick. Read it with us over the holidays. C.D. Co-Chaired the BC CLE Conflict Resolutiuon Conference 2018 - Evolving Practices for Changing Times Amanda has been studying Conversational Intelligence with Judith Glaser. Judith passed away last week and will be greatly missed by the entire CIQ community. You can find out more about Judith and her work at www.conversationalintelligence.com As we begin a season filled with family visits we are reminded of some of the great advice from Episode 24 - Curiousity for Better Holidays with Kathy Taberner and Kirste

We had the opportunity to chat about coaching in Family Busines disputes with Laura North. While family businesses have some unique dynamics, I left this chat thinking about how I can apply the concept to other businesses. Does one of the parties need a support person? In which situations might a coach be a good situation? You can find Laura North online at True North Coaching Do you use coaches in your dispute resolution practice? Tell us about it @overconflict 

This week we have Cinnie Noble back to continue our exploration of questions. How do you know if you've asked a good question? What is the purpose of questions? How do you use time to increase the power of your questions? How do you handle having asked a bad question? Cinnie's Daily Questions can be found on Twitter @conflictmastery Cinnie's Book Conflict Master: Questions to Guide you What do you want to be most prepared for?  What could they do to trigger you? What do you want to do differently? What have I not asked? You can find Cinnie online at www.cinergycoaching.com/ Have you heard any great questions recently? Let us know @overconflict Talk Soon!

This short bonus episode features our chat with Aaron Lyons at the ADRBC 2018 Symposium. We talk about the role of the larger community in dispute resolution processes. What is the role of the community to speak values into a conflict? How should rights be reflected at the table? Let us know what you think @overconflict Find Aaron Lyons online at Just Outcomes Talk Soon.

This short bonus episode features our chat with Dr. John Radford at the ADRBC 2018 Symposium. We focus on identity as a layer of conflict that is often overlooked. How are you seeing identity impacting conflict? Let us know @overconflict Find Dr. John Radford online at Transpectives Talk Soon.

Join us this week as we explore the concepts of Indigenous Law in Canada. Val takes us through the role of stories in rebuilding the body of indigenous law, the importance of laws for indigenous communities and how being a multijurisdictional country can work. "They need to consider and conceptualize indigenous law as law. And when they have questions about indigenous law  it would be helpful to ask themselves if they would ask thayt same question of Canadian Law. And if not,why not?" John Borrows   Indigenous Law Degree Program Indigenous Law Research Unit Indigenous Law Videos Legitimus Deborah Curran Gender Inside Indigenous Law Toolkit  Charles Taylor Find more about Val Napoleon online here Do you have more questions that answers after listening to our chat with Val? I know I do. Tell us about them @overconflict Talk soon!  

This short bonus episode features our chat with Evelyn Zellerer at the ADRBC 2018 Symposium. We explore the relationship between mediation and restorative justice. This feels like the beginning of a conversation. If you would like us to continue it let us know @overconflict You can find out more about Evelyn Zellerer at Peace of the Circle or @RJcircles

In this episode we explore the concept of Civility with Rhea Settles and the work she has done as an educator and mediator to transform workplaces. Rhea is the originator of Civility Mediation and Facilitation. We explore civility, bullying and oppression. What would it take for people to willfully share the space? Civility: Being mindful of what you do, what you say, write and make decisions in an effort to cause no harm. Rankism Robert Fuller Colin Kaepernick James Comey EEOC The Sneetches Dr Seuss You can find Rhea Settles online @thecivilityzone or www.thecivilityzone.com

This short bonus episode features our chat with Patricia Lane at the ADRBC 2018 Symposium. We talk about politics, electoral reform, inclusion and activism. Unsurprisingly we raise a lot more questions that we answer. You can find Patricia Lane online www.patricialane.bc.ca or @patricialane17      

What role could technology play in Access to Justice? This week we are joined by Miguel Willis and Simon Boehme to explore the relationship between Access to Justice and Legal Technology. How are Social Justice and Access to Justice related? What steps can we take to ensure that we build inclusive technology?  The blog post we keep referring to was written by Miguel in March 2018 and is one of the catalysts for having this conversation: "Technology to Improve Access to Justice" Fallacy  Read Part 1 and Part 2 ATJ Tech Fellows Legal Win Beyond Access to Justice: Challenging the Neoliberal Roots of Hyper-Gentrification   Solo Suit Rechtwijzer    MyLawBC   You can find Miguel online @MigeilElCapiTon and Simon online @SimonBoehme   What excites you in the Access to Justice and Technology space? Tell us about it @overconflict Talk Soon!    

We are back and excited get some of the episodes we recorded last Spring out to you! Did you count how many times we said "exciting" in this episode? Engage with us on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram. @overconflict Coming this Fall And when they have questions about Indigenous Law, it would be really helpful if they would ask themselves if they would ask that same question of Canadian Law.  - Val Napoleon Access to Justice Technology cannot be built in a lab. - Simon Boehme I saw opportunities and gaps within our systems and structures where people could be harmed and a reoccurring theme through all of these systems and structures is the opportunity for people to practice oppressing other people. - Rhea Settles When you throw a technology solution to solve that problem you only get to the point of proceduralness. - Miguel Willis Powerful questions, possibility questions invite us to invite our clients and parties in dispute to just take what is going on a little bit differently, to change it up. - Cinnie Nobl

This is a little podacst extra looking toward the ADR Alberta Symposium taking place May 15-16 in Edmonton, Alberta. Gilbert VanNes and Paul Conway join us to chat about what to expect at the Symposium and some of the sessions they are excited about.  More information on the symposium available at https://www.adralberta.com/2018-ADR-Symposium We'd love to hear if you attend and what your reflections are. Let us know @overconflict Talk Soon!

C.D. and Amanda spent 2 days at the NWDR. They chat about some of the themes they noticed, ideas that excited them and some of the really interesting experiences. NWDR Conference James Loewen Blog Post  Yuki Matsuno - OTC Episode 18 - Neutrality Rhea Settles Roshan Danesh - OTC Episode 7 - Unity Based Mediation Aaron Lyons Blog Post Chenhao Tan - Winning Arguments Nina Meierding Conflict Intervention Service Interested in seeing some of the LiCRSH Photos check out the PignPotato twitter feed and #LICRSH Share your experiences with us @overconflict Talk Soon!

This week is the final episode in the Reinforcing Foundations series we explore Process Management with Gordon Sloan. We get into the details of this complex and difficult question and find insights to help you prepare yourself and your clients for success.  ADR Education Bernie Mayer - The Dynamics of Conflict Resolution Find Gordon Sloan online here Our challenge for you is to actively focus on Process Management this week. What are you noticing? Let us know on Facebook or twitter. Find us @overconflict Talk Soon!

This week we are joined by Dr. Mike Talbot to explore Assertiveness and its role in process management. This is part 5 in our series designed to reinvigorate our core conflict resolution skills. UK Mediation Gestalt Theory Marshall Rosenberg - Non-violent Communication 4 step assertion sequence 1. When you do... 2. I feel or think... 3. I would like... 4. So that we can... Our challenge for you is to actively focus on Assertiveness this week. Let us know how you are doing on facebook and twitter. Chat with us @overconflict Find Dr. Mike Talbot online at @ukmediation  

This week we are joined by Lorraine Segal to explore boundaries. This is part 4 of our series designed to Reinvigorate some of our core Conflict Resolution skills. In this episode we try to answer these 2 big questions. How do I figure out what my boundaries should be? and What do I do when boundaries are violated? Adam Kahane - If you aren't part of the problem, you can't be part of the solution The Long Path to Immediate Forgiveness - Blog Post by Lorraine Stand Up, Speak Out, against workplace bullying Workplace Bullying Institute Find Lorraine Segal online at www.conflictremedy.com Our challenge for you is to actively focus on boundary setting this week. We will be posting articles and reflective questions on facebook and twitter. Let us know how you are doing @overconflict Talk soon!

This week we continue our series to reinvigorate our conflict resolution skills with a focus on reframing. We explore the techniques, ideas and spaces where reframes can be used to shift dialogue with Stephanie Grunze-Swanson. Rapid City Community Conversations Tammy Lenksi's Podcast - The Space Between Our challenge for you is to actively focus on Reframing this week. If you hear a bold statement on the radio or out in the world, challenge yourself to reframe it, even just in your head. We will be posting articles and reflective questions on facebook and twitter. Find Stephanie on LinkedIn or Twitter @SGrunze

Welcome to the second episode in our 6 week series designed to reinvigorate some of our core conflict resolution skills This week we are exploring the keys to good questions with Cinnie Noble. We discuss why questions are so important to the resolution process and how we can ask better questions.  Cinnie's Book - Conflict Mastery: Questions to Guide You David Whyte - Sometimes "Questions that have no right to go away." Michael Bungay Stanier - Awe Questions: And What Else Find Cinnie Noble Online at Cinergy Coaching Our #Foundations18 Challenge is for you to actively focus on Questions this week. We will be posting articles each morning and reflective questions each evening on facebook and twitter. Let us know how you are doing @overconflict #Foundations18