Sexology

Welcome to episode 138 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I welcome Michael Vigorito to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about out of control sexual behaviour, examining the driving force behind it and understanding the best practices to deal with this issue.    Mr. Vigorito is a sex therapist, author and consultant.  As a psychotherapist, he provides individual, couples and group psychotherapy for a range of sexual and behavioral health concerns. He developed a sexual health assessment and treatment protocol with Douglas Braun-Harvey, which was published in Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior - Rethinking Sex Addiction (2016) (SSTAR 2018 Health Professional Book Award Winner).      As a sexual health consultant for Behavioral Health Systems Baltimore and University of Maryland - Prevention Research Center, Mr. Vigorito designed and implemented capacity-building initiatives to integrate sexual health into mental health and substance use disorder treatment. These programs offered trainings

Welcome to episode 137 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Caitlin V to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about what men can do to last longer in bed, the underlying issues of premature ejaculation and techniques that men can learn to help with this issue.     Caitlin V is a sex and relationship coach who helps men become amazing lovers and incredible partners. Formerly a sexual health researcher and policy analyst, she was catapulted into internet stardom after a video featuring her went viral.     She works with clients all over the world on ending premature ejaculation, preventing erectile dysfunction, and developing unshakable sexual confidence. Combining personal experience with evidence-based science in her coaching, Caitlin’s mission is to create a sex and pleasure-positive world    In this episode, you will hear:     What can men do to last longer in bed?  Simple and effective techniques men can use   Understanding how your style of masturbation wi

Welcome to episode 136 of the Sexology Podcast! Today we have a solo episode where I discuss how you can change your sexual schema.     In this episode, you will hear:     How do you change your schema of sex?   A personal story from Nazanin to help further unpack this issue   How a lack of sex education impacted Nazanin’s life   The conflicting messages on sex from society and religion   How these messages become instilled as part of your development   The feelings of guilt from wanting to experience sex   The importance of values within acceptance commitment therapy   Analyzing your own biases around sex   Challenging the myth that you need to be married to have good sex  Taking a look at alternative rebellion   Writing down your own sexual thoughts and stories to help further express your sexual feelings        Resources  https://sexologypodcast.com     Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/  Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression:

Welcome to episode 135 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Sari Cooper to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about sexual avoidance, how it affects relationships and recommendations on how you can better understand and improve upon this issue.     Sari Cooper is the Director of Center for Love and Sex, a group practice specializing in sex therapy and sex coaching based in NYC.  She is also the creator of Sex Esteem®️, LLC a company devoted to enriching people’s confidence and knowledge about their own or their kids’ sexuality through talks, webinars and her web show, Sex Esteem®️ with Sari Cooper.     She is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and a Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor who is frequently called upon on many media outlets to comment on relationships and sexuality issues. She has appeared on CBS This Morning, Dr. Oz and featured in The Wall Street Journal, Women’s Health, Bustle, HuffPost and Vice Media.     In this episode, you will hear:     How do yo

Welcome to episode 134 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Steve Bodansky to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about the benefits of self-pleasure, overcoming shame and recommendations to discover your own erogenous zones.  Steve Bodansky together with his wife Vera have been teachers of Sensuality for the past 35 years. Steve received a Masters in Molecular Biology at SUNY at Albany and a Doctorate at More University in Sensuality with an emphasis on female orgasm. He first studied and then taught at More U. thru 1992.   For the past 27 years they have been coaching students as a couple and started writing books about optimum sensual pleasure. They have trained many people over the past 30 years with courses and personal training and continue to do so. A number of their former students have become sensual facilitators themselves.    In this episode, you will hear:   The benefits of self-pleasure   Incorporating mindfulness into self-pleasure   What is p

Welcome to episode 133 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Jeffrey Loh-Doyle, MD to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about the ways in which neurologists can help men with erectile dysfunction, the steps leading to a penile prosthesis and how the penile prosthesis works.    Jeffrey Loh-Doyle, MD, is a specialist in complex surgical reconstruction of the male urinary tract, male urinary incontinence, erectile dysfunction, sexual health, urethral stricture disease, and Peyronie’s Disease. He joins the USC Institute of Urology after completing his urology residency at USC and further fellowship training in male genitourinary reconstructive and prosthetic surgery under Dr. Stuart Boyd, a world-renown reconstructive cancer surgeon and authority on reconstruction of the lower urinary tract and urologic prosthestics.      Born and raised in Los Angeles, Dr. Loh-Doyle completed his undergraduate and medical school education in the prestigious Baccalaureate/MD program at the Ke

Welcome to episode 132 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m happy to welcome Dr. Natalie Rosen to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about female sexual interest arousal disorder (FSIAD), the impact of FSIAD on partners and understanding self-expansion and how it can help.   Dr. Natalie Rosen is an Associate Professor in the Department of Psychology and Neuroscience at Dalhousie University, Halifax, Nova Scotia. Her research interests focus on understanding how individuals, and especially couples, cope with sexual problems or changes to their sexual relationship, including low sexual desire. She is an Associate Editor of the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior and has published over 70 peer-reviewed articles and book chapters on sexual relationships. Dr. Rosen’s research is currently funded by the Canadian Institutes of Health Research, the Nova Scotia Health Research Foundation, the Social Sciences and Humanities Research Council of Canada, and the Canadian Foundation of Innovation. Dr. Rosen als

Welcome to episode 131 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Jes L. Matsick, Ph.D and Anna C. Salomaa, M.S. to the podcast. In this episode they speak to me about defining sexual orientation, addressing the challenges around minority distress and the best practice for identifying sexual identity for clinicians.  Jes Matsick, Ph.D.   Jes L. Matsick, Ph.D. is an Assistant Professor of Psychology and Women’s, Gender, and Sexuality Studies at The Pennsylvania State University. She received her Ph.D. in Psychology and Women’s Studies at the University of Michigan. In her research, she studies sexuality, gender, and prejudice, and much of her work is centered on the perspectives and experiences of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ+) individuals. Dr. Matsick is the director of the Underrepresented Perspectives Lab at Penn State, where she trains undergraduate and graduate students to conduct psychological research with an emphasis on LGBTQ+ issues. Her lab uses social psychol

Welcome to episode 130 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Dr. Cat Meyer, PsyD, LMFT. In this episode Dr. Cat speaks to me about BDSM, what does a BDSM relationship look like? How many people like some aspects of BDSM and learning to negotiate the rules and expectations.    Dr. Cat Meyer, PsyD, LMFT is a licensed couples therapist #88224, sex therapist, yoga instructor, published researcher, and reiki practitioner dedicated to evolving the relationship we have surrounding sexuality and our bodies. Dr. Cat integrates various schools of thought including neuro science, somatic theory, psychology, EMDR trauma therapy, and sexual health in her work for private practice, workshops, and transformational retreats that are designed to help people create a deeply fulfilling, prosperous relational and sexual life. For personal therapy work, check her out at CatMeyer.com     She is the co-creator of Goddess Celebration, an annual large scale women’s day retreat held in Malibu, CA, dedicated

Welcome to episode 129 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Rachel Grant. We speak about healing from childhood sexual abuse, the sexual challenges survivors of sexual abuse face and going through the three stages of being a victim, survivor and beyond survivor.    Rachel Grant is the owner and founder of Rachel Grant Coaching and is a Sexual Abuse Recovery Coach. She is also the author of Beyond Surviving: The Final Stage in Recovery from Sexual Abuse.      She brings to the table a passionate belief that her clients do not have to remain trapped or confronted daily by the thoughts or behaviors that result from abuse. Through her own journey of recovery from sexual abuse, she has gained insight and understanding about what it takes to overcome abuse. This makes it possible for her to relate to and appreciate your struggles intimately.      Based on her desire to foster community, intimacy, and connection, she has dedicated much of her time to understanding relationships and co

    Welcome to episode 128 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where I speak more in depth about talking to your kids about sex.    In this episode, you will hear:     The sex negative messages we receive as kids   What to do if you catch your child involved with sexual activity   Learning how to communicate the subject of sex to your child  The importance of talking about your values   Understanding that children are naturally curious about sex  The common sexual behaviours between child age groups   Be comfortable in using the correct names and terminology around sex  The importance of teaching them about personal boundaries   Providing clear information around safety   Having a good dialogue about sex on the internet  Understanding the importance of not providing negative information around body changes   Talking about basic self-contraception   Having a continued discussion around masturbation and consent  Explaining the various different sexual interests 

Welcome to episode 127 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a recap episode where I revisit some of our previous episodes to help bring you the best orgasmic tips.   In this episode, we will revisit:   Episode 39  Dr. Laurie Mintz is an author, therapist, professor and speaker whose life’s work has been committed to helping people live fuller, richer lives through the art and science of psychology.  As a tenured Professor at the University of Florida, she teaches the Psychology of Human Sexuality to hundreds of undergraduate students each year. She also teaches and mentors graduate students, helping them find their own niche as psychologists. Dr. Mintz has published over 50 research articles in academic journals and six chapters in academic books. She has received numerous professional and teaching awards, and is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association.  Full episode - http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/10/03/everything-you-need-to-know-about-orgasm/  Episode 06  Dr Barbach’s work as a

Welcome to episode 126 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where I answer a listener's question on what to do when his wife doesn’t want to have sex anymore.     In this episode, you will hear:     The definition of a sexless marriage   How this is a global issue   How sex is a form of attachment   The way in which no sex can be a by-product of relationship dissatisfaction   Why couples refrain from sex   The need to repair the relationship before tackling the issue of lack of sex   Understanding the need to reflect on your own wants and needs   The importance of processing these emotions   Trying to pinpoint when these issues first arose   The different stages of love we experience in a relationship   The importance of communication throughout this process   Creating time in your life to work on this issue   Tips and recommendations to help begin improving such as date nights   Introducing novelty into the relationship to create excitement   Understanding and tackli

Welcome to episode 125 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Dr Melvin L. Phillips, Jr. to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Melvin speaks to me about chronic illness, the challenges of dealing with this issue, the uncertainty and anxiety it can create and tips on how to regain a sense of sexual normality.    Dr Melvin L. Phillips, Jr. is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in Washington, DC, Maryland, and Virginia. Dr Phillips has worked in several mental health and substance abuse treatment settings including outpatient community mental health, inpatient treatment, and private practice for the past 13 years.     He is a speaker and has lectured on topics including preventative services, anxiety and stress management, caregiving stress, depression in the elderly, mindfulness and cognitive strategies for chronic pain, revalidating sexuality for couples with chronic pain and illness, ethical decision making, and the assessment of mental disorders. He has published in the Journal

Welcome to episode 124 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Vanessa Marin to the podcast. In this episode she speaks about masturbation, the common myths surrounding female orgasm, how porn and the media only represent one kind of female body and experimenting with sex toys.   Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex therapy. She’s here to help you stop feeling embarrassed about sex and start having way more fun in the bedroom.   She has bachelor’s degrees in Human Sexuality and Sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology. She writes for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker, and has been featured over 1,000 times in major publications like O, The Oprah Magazine, Harper’s Bazaar, Refinery29, and Real Simple.    Vanessa specializes in online programs that help you transform your sex life from ordinary to extraordinary, all from the comfort and privacy of your own home. Through courses like The Passion Project: A Couples’

Welcome to episode 123 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Rae McDaniel to the podcast. In this episode they speak about the difference between being bisexual and heteroflexible, taking the first steps to explore your sexual curiosity and understanding the need to treat potential dates and partners with care and respect as you explore your sexual curiosity.    Rae McDaniel is a Gender and Certified Sex Therapist who works with folks feeling anxious and lost about a transition they’re experiencing in sex, gender, sexual identity, or relationships. Rae also provide consultation & training for professionals and organizations wishing to uplevel their knowledge and expertise in these areas. Rae is the founder of Practical Audacity, a therapy and healing collective in Chicago, Illinois.   Rae holds a Master of Education in Community Counseling from DePaul University in Chicago and is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois. Rae graduated from the University of Michigan’s

Welcome to episode 122 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Gina Gutierrez to the podcast. In this episode she speaks about sexuality and desire, the differences between men and women when it comes to desire and arousal, the downsides of getting your sex education from porn and the need to make desire open, communicative and vocal.  Gina Gutierrez will probably ask you how you’re feeling when she meets you. As co-founder and CEO of Dipsea, Gina is an empathy-driven entrepreneur focused on helping women feel sexually, mentally, and emotionally empowered through audio storytelling. Dipsea’s stories help women tap into their sexuality on their own terms, unlock confidence, and develop a more holistic sense of well-being.  Armed with a degree in psychology from Duke, Gina saw her career as a brand strategist take off when she moved to the San Francisco Bay Area. There, she started working with leading startups and Fortune 500 companies, including Facebook, Google, Reebok, ThirdLove, and Do

Welcome to episode 121 of Sexology Podcast. Today, I am delighted to welcome Dr. Carmon Roman to the podcast. In this episode, we will analyze why sexual assault survivors might not report the assaults. Furthermore, we’ll review the approaches to helping survivors during their journey of recovery. Dr. Roman is a caring listener with over 25 years of experience in providing psychotherapy, in Mexico and California. She is also the host of a wonderful, bilingual weekly podcast, Emotions in Harmony, through which she weaves together the psychology and spirituality of both cultures. In this episode, you will hear about:  History of Denim Day Emotional barriers that might get in a way of reporting an assault Best ways for victims to protect themselves if they choose to report Role of family members in supporting survivors of sexual abuse True vs. false beliefs that a survivor might develop as a consequent of the incident The process of recovery   Resources https://emotionsinharmony.org/ http://www.sexologypodcas

  Welcome to episode 120 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to welcome Jonathan Miller to the podcast, in this episode he speaks about ways in which can start to have difficult conversations around sex, the importance of communication and to be clear about what you want sexually and understanding the sensitive nature of these issues and the need to be mindful of your partner's thoughts and emotions.   Jonathan helps high-performing couples upgrade their communication skills to have fight-free relationships. As a speaker, coach and trainer, Jonathan is dedicated to empowering others to communicate mindfully.   He truly believes that the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our life, and communication is the main ingredient. Growing up, he was never taught to fully express himself or hear others in a way that fostered connection. He is now committed to sharing his newfound passion for clear communication using his world-class training methodology.  In this episode, you wil

Welcome to episode 119 of the Sexology Podcast. In the run up to season 8 of Game of Thrones, this week’s episode is a solo episode where I discuss the five hottest sex scenes from the show and what we can learn from. In this episode, you will hear: Why people associate Game of Thrones as a more sexually charged shows than other TV shows Does the show give people a legitimacy to have taboo fantasies? The top five categories of sexual fantasy How physiological arousal doesn’t automatically correspond to your erotic template How group sex / orgies are at the top of most people's sexual fantasy Understanding the need to start slow when acting out role play with your partner The importance of role play in a relationship to keep elements of danger and excitement Understanding the attraction of a rape fantasy The sexual power play dynamics Game of Thrones creates in its scenes The role romance plays in a sexual fantasy Understanding why the Jon Snow and Ygritte sex scene is the most popular   Resources https: