The Chick Whisperer Podcast

Co-Host Emily McKay (https://www.deservewhatyouwant.com) Every one of us has found ourselves out on a date with someone who creeped us out. And no...it's not gender-specific. But what does 'creepy' even mean? Why is it often so hard to define? Well, in this episode Emily joins me to break down exactly what constitutes such infamous creepy behavior...and how it tends to impact men and women differently. Is it possible some people don't even realize they're being creepy? Do others know for sure they are in fact creeps, but like it that way? What's more, why is it perfectly normal guys are often so concerned they're going to come across as creepy? How do we relax and avoid that worry...lest it weirdly become a self-fulfilling prophecy? What is the difference between male creepy behavior and the female version? How many women out there have somehow convinced themselves it's impossible for them to be creepy? Stay tuned for the one shining example of how the absolute best of intentions can actually backfire spectac

Co-Host Sydney Richdale (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/richdale) This episode features returning guest and sexpert Sydney Richdale. As promised, Sydney offers her uniquely female perspective on how men can grow up but not necessarily reach an evolved, mature sexual mindset. Fasten your seat belts because this indeed is a VERY different episode than last week's edition. Sydney gets as practical and objective as possible, throwing down some actionable ways we as men can supercharge our sexual presence with women in ways few men ever get to enjoy the results of. For starters, we agree that there's a time and place for the most primal, visceral and even selfish aspects of human sexuality. But it shouldn't be to the exclusion of what gives sexual relationships a whole lot more depth and meaning. So then, what are those more 'evolved' elements, if you will? In order to express mature male sexuality, must every sexual experience be relationshippy and about falling in love long-term? What does it mean to be 'connect

Co-Host Michael McPherson (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/sexenergy) Most men generally view the concept of human sexuality through the scope of getting laid. As long as they're 'getting some', that's really the point. But deep down, all of us know there's potentially much more than that to a sexual relationship with a woman. My returning guest is an expert on human sexuality who has--like all of us--been on a lifelong journey of sexual evolution. But how are we doing on that journey? It's obvious that even many who call themselves 'sexperts' aren't all that far along the path. How much of this phenomenon of sexually under-evolved men is tied to our view of women in general? Do we consider the value and/or even the ramifications of being in a sexual relationship with a woman above and beyond the physical sex act? Even if 'crazy p*ssy is the best p*ssy', what does 'best' even mean in that context? How can knowing the difference between sexuality and sex energy help matters? How much has societal influence on m

Co-Host Julie Ferman (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/ferman) My guest is a well-known matchmaker who I should have had on the show ages ago, in large part because in many ways she's like my sister from a different mother. She's hilarious, unoffendable and agrees with me on most of the dating and relationship stuff we talk about around here. So with a wild woman like Julie on the mic, you know we needed to bring the noise with a great topic. Therefore, in this show we're covering how both men and women always seem to be too busy to date nowadays. What's the deal? Do people really get way too wadded up in their careers, friends and other adventurous pastimes such that they never get around to sharing life with someone else...even for a couple of hours? Is it that porn and social media have replaced real people? Is it that nowadays we can't even be bothered with anyone else anymore in general? Or wait...is it really all about making excuses? After all, as soon as two busy people meet and fall for each other, the

Co-Host Ruari Fairbairns (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/beer) We as men tend to have a complicated relationship with alcohol. My guest, Ruari Fairbairns is well aware of that. That's why even though he's a professional advocate for drinking less, he comes from a completely different perspective than the tee-totaller activists out there who would seem to label anyone with a beer in their hand as an alcoholic. Indeed, despite the catchy title of his practice, One Year No Beer, Ruari still occasionally pops the top himself. If that sounds hypocritical, it's not. His is no heavy-handed, all-or nothing stance. Rather, he brings the unique message of encouraging us as men in particular to change our relationship with alcohol. In his educated opinion, over time alcohol robs us of our mental and physical health to a degree we don't even realize. Once we give ourselves a break from it, we start thinking and feeling better...causing us to WANT to drink less (if at all), instead of feeling as if we're being strongarmed

Co-Host Richard Strother (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/strother) My guest Richard Strother calls himself The Widower's Wingman. And indeed, after he lost is wife tragically several years ago, Richard noticed there was very little valuable information out there for men who had lost their significant other, specifically as it applied to potential new relationships with women. But lest you bail out of this episode because that specific issue doesn't affect you, it turns out Richard has a lot to offer about getting back out there after any previous relationship ends, whether that's because of breakup, divorce OR widowhood. So then, should you really just simply 'get back out there'...or wait like a full year or whatever to do so like many recommend? And on a related note, why is it so frustrating to get all that advice from well-meaning friends and relatives right after your loss? And I mean, why should any man even want a new relationship after a special one ends? It's not like you're really going to get a 're

Co-Host Dana Shergill (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/dana) My guest refers to herself as a 'kinky wellness coach', and she's quite sure most of us as humans are a lot naughtier, sexier and yes--even kinkier--than we give ourselves credit for, let alone admit. So with that in mind, you can already guess that Dana Shergill is outspoken, unashamed and downright unoffendable. And that combination always makes for a great show, especially when we're welcoming a female guest. So on with it, then...what does a kinky wellness coach actually do for a living? What does Dana mean when she says kinkiness is an outlet for aggression, imagination and attention? Why is that so important? And wait a minute...isn't 'aggression' a dangerous term to use when applied to men and sexuality? Meanwhile, when it comes to sex, does any flavor other than vanilla classify as 'kinky'? And can it possibly true that women are every bit as naughty and potentially kinky as men are? If so, what's holding them back from expressing it? Pornogr

Co-Host Ryland Hormel (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/hormel) My guest made the bold decision to emerge from post-Covid Northern California on a two-year quest to both experience true freedom and capture it both on film and in print. After talking first-hand to hundreds of people, the end result is his new book When Do You Feel Free?: Voices Across America. Ryland Hormel joins me on this episode for a man-to-man discussion on how we as men tend to define freedom. But wait...is that how we should define freedom? How have men's views on freedom changed within the last generation or so? Truth be told, many men haven't just simply lost their sense of freedom, they've begun to wonder if freedom is even what they really want. So how about it, then...when DO you feel free? What exactly is Ryland's 'freedom equation'? What does Ryland mean when he claims 'freedom as a feeling'? How is freedom integrally related to choice? Why is overcoming fear so important to feeling free? If we as men tell ourselves we're not allow

Co-Host John Lovell (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/warrior) My guest John Lovell is well-known to many as The Warrior Poet, a Special Forces vet known and loved both for his 2A advocacy and his equally formidable dad jokes. One of the many subtopics of his new book, The Warrior Poet Way, is how today's post-modern men can benefit from returning to ancient wisdom. According to John, that's where we'll find both practical answers to portraying masculinity as well as primal elements of sexual attraction. Tune in as we discuss how wisdom, strength, and significance are old-school masculinity, dating back to primal roots. Why exactly has society been neutered, apparently absolving men from the need to provide and protect? Why is today's emerging masculinity movement so compartmentalized? What is the real reason men and masculinity are under scrutiny whereas femininity isn't? What is the deeper significance of fatherhood--and even of leaving a legacy--that many men miss? John celebrates the need for men to be 'dan

Co-Host Nic Long (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/nic) My guest is 2-time USA Olympian Nic Long, who happens to have made his name in the sport that's nearest and dearest to our hearts here at Casa McKay. That's BMX racing, of course...and Nic happens to be my first-ever BMX related guest. So why now, at episode 362? Well, IMAO there is no better example than BMX of an environment where the older, respected experts tend to give so much back to the younger kids. And after a survey I took online, I was thrilled when Nic was voted one of the most influential pros out there in this area. As such, there's absolutely no better man to help cover this all-important topic that has been on my radar screen for a couple of years now. So...when you become a father and have kids, you instinctively give back to them. But we as men tend to have a yearning inside to also give back beyond the four walls of our own homes, especially to the younger generation. After all, every one of us who successfully grew up to be adult men wh

Co-Host Emily McKay (https://www.deservewhatyouwant.com) Every couple thinks and behaves differently. You've probably thought and behaved differently depending on which woman was your girlfriend at a particular time in history. But for sure there are, well...'standards' that tend to rule any polite, public conversation about how men and women typically are when they're a couple, and what's 'normal'. So then, what IS 'normal'? Is there really such a thing? And if so, is that really what's BEST in a particular relationship...especially for YOU and your significant other? After all, sometimes 'normalcy' is unhappy. What kind of feelings should a couple have for each other? Can initial attraction and 'chemistry' possibly be a bad or dangerous thing, as some so-called experts say? On the other hand, is there any merit to the idea of 'learning to love each other'? And how do 'normal' couples behave? Is it healthy to 'fight', as some dating coaches have suggested? Or should you always be 'shiny and happy' instead? S

Co-Host Justin Stenstrom (http://mountaintoppodcast.com/elitelife) It's absolutely true that men don't worry about aging, nor do we care how we look nearly as much as women. But then, we hear from older women about how they're looking for younger men nowadays...all because men their own age are tired, cranky, sick and drink too much. Well, my returning guest is the Elite Man himself, Justin Stenstrom, who nowadays talks more holistically about Elite LIFE in general than simply Elite Manhood. Even though Justin is a bit younger than I am, he had already been getting weird symptoms and scary health warnings...all without even knowing where they were coming from. And here's the thing. Once we as men start down that path of apathy toward our health, we have less energy and get more depressed. As you may already know, that leads to a vortex of physical and psychological destruction that often leads to an early grave. And yet, because we're men, we'll rarely ask for help. We'll also let symptoms get worse and worse

Co-Host Steve Favis (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/robot) With all the talk about AI nowadays, it's inevitable that our focus turns to the concept of augmenting--or even replacing--relationships with women with relationships with robots. After all, your robot lover will never cheat on you, refuse sex, or be emotionally needy...let alone abusive. There would be no complaining about how much you drink and how much time you spend with your friends video gaming. And as an added bonus, 'she' will even clean your house, do the laundry and make you a sandwich. As much of a MGTOW paradise as this sounds, is this a good thing? Our instincts tell us not, even though the aforementioned benefits seem like an easy-button bonanza. So what's the deal? Are we just resistant to potential change, or should we listen to our instincts? My guest, Steve Favis, not only runs a robotics company, he holds the major US patents for humanoid robots and has already been actively building them for several years now. For starters, he's he

Co-Host Antonio Neves (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/antonio) After a long career in television media, my guest co-host Antonio Neves now runs groups for men. He is also the author of Stop Living On Autopilot. Tony had the 'highlight reel' lifestyle on social media, but in reality his life was a mess...and headed south. He may have continued on that trajectory, except he got a break...he found and joined a community of men. How is such a community of men life-changing? And why is it different than going out and getting a beer with a buddy? What does Tony mean when he says, 'You need a man to call you up instead of calling you out'? Why is getting advice from an anonymous Internet group not nearly as valuable and effective as meeting with a much smaller group of guys in real life? What is the somewhat 'hidden' psychological barrier that tricks men out of building alliances and relationships with other dudes? Is there a specific reason why we can't count on our wives and girlfriends to meet the same need in ou

Co-Host Mike Domitrz (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/respect) It seems whenever you turn on the tv or get on social media, someone is complaining again because they feel disrespected. Often the context is men and women feeling slighted--or even wronged--by the other gender. So how about it...do we have a respect problem between men and women nowadays? If so, what contributed to that? Well, my returning guest Mike Domitrz (rhymes with 'Amish') is no respecter of persons when it comes to one gender's claim of disrespect over another. Instead, he respects EVERYONE, and the first order of business in this episode is to explain WHY. And yes, you can indeed rest assured that this is not going to be another man-bashing parade. In fact, it's quite the opposite. By the end of this episode you'll not only emerge empowered to respect women without getting bulldozed, but also BE respected by those very same women. What's reasonable for a man to expect in terms of sexual respect from a woman? What is the one tendency in h

Co-Host Polina Solda (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/pyramid) The term "Mr. Right" is typically used by women, isn't it? But let's face it, if you're a man who wishes to deserve what he wants, that means in order to get the woman who's right for you into your life, you're going to also have to be the man who's right for her. My returning guest is dating coach for women extraordinaire Polina Solda, who brings back both her considerable wisdom and her Russian accent for your listening pleasure. And in the long and storied tradition of Russian straightforward opinion, she begins by--in her words--"destroying" the biggest myth out there when it comes to being "Mr. Right". Next, she presents the toolkit she uses for determining personality and relationship style, especially as it pertains for gaining insight into the kind of partner we are most attractive to and compatible with. Interestingly enough, it was developed by the Soviets, and therefore practically unknown to the Western world. So what does Polina have t

Co-Host Elliott Katz (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/katz) My returning guest is the author of several books for both men and women on relationships, especially pertaining to long-term success. He's the right guy to help cover an important topic that has been on my radar screen for a long time now, which is being the patriarch of one's family. What does that even mean? And does it necessarily have to be tied to the negative Feminist stereotype of 'The Patriarchy'? Could it be that most red-blooded women really WANT you to be the leader of your family...even your extended family? We know men should provide and protect, but what is the caveat to that if you really want to be respected by your family? Why is it so many men can be leaders at work, but fail at being the leader at home? As it turns out, there are undeniable traits and characteristics of a true family patriarch. What are they? On the other hand, how do perfectly good, decent men take themselves out of the running for being the family patriarch, even

Co-Host Robbie Kramer (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/kramer) 'Instagram has become such a phenomenon in dating, that if you're a single guy and not using it, it's really, really hard to compete.' That's a quote from my returning guest and dating expert Robbie Kramer, who has enough social media expertise to know. But wait a minute, is this about competing with thousands of other schmucks for the attention of bikini-clad IG 'influencers' with hundreds of thousands of followers? Truth be told, it's more about YOUR Instagram posts. And even if you don't have thousands of followers, there's a right way to use the platform, and it's counter-intuitive for most men. The hint there is attempting to use Instagram as a dating app in and of itself would usually be a HUGE mistake. So then, what should you do with IG instead? What can a man do to break through all the noise on Instagram and get the right attention from the right kind of women? How do you use it to build your social circle and your personal power, not jus

Co-Host Kimmy Seltzer (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/seltzer) My returning guest is a style consultant and a dating strategist, so who better to join me for this long-overdue show about how to make a brilliant first impression? Well, it might surprise you, but Kimmy Seltzer hasn't always been the queen of style. In fact, like many of us, she went through a devastating breakup that sent her into the doldrums. It was only after what I jokingly renamed her 'moment of redress' that she realized how far just a little bit of self love could go. Nowadays, of course, she's all about empowering others to make a big splash when meeting others. Kimmy explains how she went from thinking 'inside out' as a therapist to giving due credit to working from the 'outside in' as well. Is it really so bad to compare a good first impression to product marketing? What is 'enclothed cognition'...and is it anything like 'costumed confidence'? What's the one thing you can do that's not only fall-out-of-bed easy, but actually FUN to ma

Co-Host Peter McGraw (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/solo) Two episodes ago, we talked about how society is apparently keeping us single. This time, Dr. Peter McGraw returns to ask what's necessarily wrong with that? Even though more than fifty percent of American adults are single, there's still somehow a stigma associated with it. However, Peter isn't only among that majority of single adults, he's happily unhitched. And if you think about it, if the stereotype about us as men is how we go out of our way to avoid marriage, where's the bad rap coming from? Well, prepare for some shocking news from Peter, because despite his own personal optimism, most singles even nowadays really do wish they were in a relationship. Or do they only think they wish they were in a relationship? How can we know the difference as pertaining to our own life? And if it's true we happen to be in the relative minority who actually want to stay single, how do we go about living that dream the way Peter does? So, is marriage really a