Taking Control: The Adhd Podcast

There are signs in certain kinds of organizations that document the last time staff their experienced an incident. Any sort of incident that leads to work stopping counts, and as soon as it happens, the sign gets reset and everyone starts over at Day Zero. “This facility has worked [0] Days without incident,” the sign says. If there’s anything in our lives that can cause work to stop unpredictably, uncontrollably, sometimes even unconsciously, it’s ADHD. What do we do so that we can reset our own sign to Day Zero? This week on the show, Pete and Nikki take an incident response approach to ADHD with a focus on mindfully controlling what you can control, not lying to yourself, and moving forward. Every bad day has a day zero right around the corner. (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (03:16) - Sponsor: You. The ADHD Patrons (05:55) - Day Zero. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

The idea that individual ADHD symptoms exacerbate one another isn’t new to those of us living with the diagnosis. But what happens when symptoms collude to create cycles of behavior and responses? The results can be vastly more damaging than any individual symptom on its own. That’s the question that comes from a listener today: how do you navigate the procrastination-anxiety loop that emerges when hyperfocus and disinterest collide head on? This week on the show, Nikki shares background on the conditions that allow this sort of hyperfocus and procrastination to occur, and tools to shape a response before it happens again. Links & Notes Thank you for supporting The ADHD Podcast on Patreon! Understanding ADHD Hyperfocus — ADDitude Magazine ADHD, Anxiety, and Depression: The Diagnosis Puzzle of Related Conditions — ADDitude Magazine Decoding the ADHD Mind — ADDitude Magazine # (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast! (01:19) - Sponsor: YOU! (03:05) - The Procrastination-Anxiety Loop ★ Support this podca

Brett Terpstra is a software developer, author, and podcaster and his work has been the subject of Pete’s technology fever dreams for years now. Brett is also unusually candid about his experience living with ADHD and bipolar disorder and after years of processing in public, he’s managed to figure some things out… others, a mystery. This week on the show, Brett joins us to talk about his experience living and working with ADHD. He shares his experience in learning how to live with his shadow, and how to forgive when the shadow takes control. This is a show about the voices that we listen to, and those that we learn to avoid as we wake up and get moving with ADHD. Links & Notes Thank you for supporting The ADHD Podcast on Patreon! BrettTerpstra.com Brett’s Projects Marked 2 nvUltra • Searchable, Portable, MultiMarkdown Notes (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:10) - Listener Question Time! What did I do this weekend...? (04:57) - What are our favorite books? (08:25) - Sponsor: Audible (09:13) - In

It’s one of the most important routines you can manage. Getting it right means you’re impacting every area of your life in some way. You’ll feel better, you’ll think more clearly, you might even be better looking. OK, we can’t guarantee that last one, but you’ll feel better looking!What is this magic routine? It’s meal planning. Figuring out how to best strategize the food you bring into your home and creating smart habits around eating it is both challenging, and deceptively simple at once. But it turns out that if you’re working to build good living systems for your ADHD, you likely already have the skills you need to make meal-planning successful for yourself and your family!Links & NotesPaprika Recipe App for iOS, macOS, Android, WindowsInstantPot on AmazonNom Nom PaleoSoylentBlue Apron (00:00) - The ADHD Podcast — Meal-Planning (01:30) - Sponsored by YOU at Patreon.com/TheADHDPodcast (02:57) - Meal-planning and ADHD (04:54) - Soylent... when you've given up on food all together (06:46) - The Routine

Sure, we’re in the middle of our back-to-school series. But whether you’re heading back to school or just getting ready for the seasons to change, there’s never a better time to review your routines. From daily hygiene to writing that next report, this week on the show Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright take on the components of a great routine, and the mindset you’ll need to cultivate to make it stick. Links & Notes Thank you for supporting The ADHD Podcast on Patreon! Sponsor: Audible — sign up for a new account and get a free book on us! This month’s recommendation: The Checklist Manifesto by Atul Gawande. (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:26) - Sponsor: Audible (03:28) - Setting Up New Routines (07:36) - Begin with the end in mind (19:36) - Consistency (24:02) - Support The ADHD Podcast on Patreon ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

If you’ve ever tried to engage in a discussion of your ADHD with a busy professor and run into frustration, you’re not alone. This week, we asked a group of instructors what they would like to hear when working with ADHD students and the results were puzzling, frustrating, dare we say disappointing? But there’s room for hope thanks to some enterprising student services folks and a general spirit of educators that really do want the best for their students. This is an episode about confronting lack of experience in a slow-moving educational system and an effort to get what you need out of your educational career. Thank you for supporting The ADHD Podcast on Patreon! (00:00) - Welcome to the ADHD Podcast (01:43) - Find the Show (02:02) - Opening Question: How do you handle online courses with ADHD (08:20) - Sponsor: You! At Patreon.com/theadhdpodcast (09:47) - The Faculty Perspective (14:42) - Three Lessons (18:54) - A dose of optimism (21:33) - The Research (25:06) - Recommendations from Student Services: How

Asking for help is hard, sure. But have you ever stopped to ask why it’s hard for you? See, asking others for support is hard for each of us in a different way. Maybe we live with the anxiety that others will judge us for not being competent in some are or another. Maybe we believe they’ll think we’re not as smart as they are, or as they thought we were. Maybe we struggle with the logistics of asking for — and taking advantage of — help from another. Until you figure that out, you’re going to have a tough time marching into your office of disability services to ask for the support you deserve as you make your way through school with ADHD. This week on the show, Nikki and Pete take on the myths and misunderstandings about ADHD accommodations in college, starting with the old saw, “accommodations make for an unfair advantage.” But that’s not all! You’ll end with a guide to the sort of language you can use to reach out to your instructors and professors to explain your needs, advocate for yourself, and set yours

Grace Friedman was diagnosed with attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) at twelve years old, wrote her first book about it at 15, and now she’s an advocate for young people with ADHD and founder of the ADDYTeen.com community. Dr. Sarah Cheyette is a pediatric neurologist and expert in working with kids with ADHD. Together, they have written Winning with ADHD: A Playbook for Teens and Young Adults with Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder and they’re here to talk with us about their journey on the show this week. Links & Notes ADDYTeen.com SarahCheyette.com Winning With ADHD: A Playbook for Teens and Young Adults with Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder — Amazon.com ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

It's the last episode of our trip through time and what better way to wrap up our July break than with a message from social skills expert Caroline Maguire in her first appearance on the show: never forget the art of the "Polite Pretend" people... it'll save your bacon! Thank you for supporting The ADHD Podcast on Patreon! Do social situations exhaust you? Do you feel like your brain is working in overdrive to keep up with your environment? According to our guest this week, that’s a common refrain for those living with ADHD. Caroline Maguire is a coach, author, teacher, and speaker with a special focus in social skills supporting kids and parents of kids with ADHD. She’s here today to talk with us all about reading between the lines and the challenges that ADHDers face when it comes to understanding the unspoken complexities of social interaction. It’s time to master the “Polite Pretend!” Links & Notes Caroline Maguire ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Dr. Doug has been on our list to get back on the show seemingly since he first joined us. We're thrilled to say he's on the way! But that won't be until a little later in the fall. Until then, take a trip back in time to his last appearance and hear what he has to say on ADHD Inattentive Type! Thank you for supporting The ADHD Podcast on Patreon! — https://patreon.com/theadhdpodcast Doug Herr is back with us all the way from Nashville to talk about ADHD Inattentive Type. ADHD inattentive represents one of our most frequent subjects for questions and one we haven’t covered specifically. Dr. Doug takes on questions on treatment, motivation, talking with schools and special ed teams, writing, reward systems and so much more. Links & Notes Find Dr. Doug Herr Register for ADHD Accountability Coaching before April 17! ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Every day is a great day to check in on your relationship with your partner, and with ADHD, sometimes you can use a pretty clear reminder to do so. That's why today is ALSO a great day to check back in on this episode with our relationship guru Melissa Orlov from 2017! Thank you for supporting The ADHD Podcast on Patreon! — https://patreon.com/theadhdpodcast In this year’s Take Control ADHD survey, we received questions on managing your love life while managing ADHD by the bucket. Whether you’re in a new relationship, dating, or in a well-seasoned marriage, there is always room to improve that emotional connection and no matter your ADHD status, if you want it, you should have a thriving love life too! This week on the show we’re deeply honored to welcome the fantastic Melissa Orlov. She’s a marriage consultant and leading expert in how ADHD affects relationships. On top of that, she’s an award-winning author of books including, The ADHD Effect on Marriage, and The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD. She’s

James Ochoa has been on the show four times in the last few years, but all his appearances point back to this episode from 2017 in which he outlined his "Emotional Distress Syndrome" for ADHD. It was transformational for us in how we approach conversations of ADHD and we hope this refresher is equally useful for you this fine July! When we first read his book, Focused Forward: Navigating the Storms of Adult ADHD, we became fast fans of James Ochoa. He writes candidly about his experience living with ADHD, struggling with ADHD, overcoming the hurdles of ADHD. But beyond that, he’s a counselor himself, working with the complex tapestries that are adults with ADHD. Today, we’re thrilled to be able to welcome James to the show to share a little bit about his own journey and to introduce us to one of the central themes in his work: the ADHD Emotional Distress Syndrome. We’re sure you’ll want to find out more about James and encourage you to pick up his book — easy and truly eye-opening reading! Links & Notes

We're starting our July break, is that a reason to skip the podcast? Of course not! Jane gave us some great tools to deal with the stories we tell ourselves and we thought this would be the perfect way to time travel through podcast history while we're away! Does the internal chatter of ADHD really sound all that different than that of those who don’t live with it? Our guest today has been working among other leaders in the field to help find those Gremlins in our heads and quiet them down, making room for the benefits that come with the positive voices and stories we write about our own contributions to the world around us. Jane Massengill has been coaching adults with ADHD for the past 20 years, helping them learn to put the brakes on their internal chatter long enough so that they can begin to experience their bright spots instead of focusing on their dark spots. She is the Director of The Gremlin-Taming Institute, and speaks to audiences of all kinds on the benefits of learning how to listen to yourself.

It’s our last episode before the annual July break, and what a wonderful person we have to introduce you to this week to talk about shame, our relationships, and the daily practice of getting back up on the horse with ADHD. Dr. Michelle Frank is a clinical psychologist specializing in providing diagnostic and treatment services to individuals with ADHD. We love her work because of her focus on strengths-based approaches in helping clients learn how to live successfully with ADHD. She has extensive experience working with college students, adults, and families and she has a book hitting shelves July 1, 2019 which she co-authored with Sari Solden — A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD: Embrace Neurodiversity, Live Boldly, and Break Through Barriers — and she’ll tell you all about it today. Links & Notes Thank you for supporting The ADHD Podcast on Patreon! Follow Michelle on Instagram “A Radical Guide For Women with ADHD” — The ADHD Blog for Women A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD: Embrace Neurodiversity,

Are you a runner? Or are you a person who runs? Are you a gardener? Or are you a person who mows the lawn? Figuring out the difference between what we do and who we are is tricky business for all of us as we move through life. With ADHD, the idea of presenting a cogent identity to the world flies out the window. It’s dependent on so many factors — context, focus, weather, anything that can set off our attentional sails in new directions — that all to often the person we see in the mirror is less a function of who we see staring back at us than it is what that person happens to be doing or thinking about at that moment. This week on the show, we take on this question of identity and offer a way to frame how you want to be seen in the world thanks to the writing of a billionaire. Plus, we take on a question from the community about how to approach online education with ADHD. Links & Notes Thank you for supporting The ADHD Podcast on Patreon! Read the transcript for this episode Legion: The Many Lives of St

Do you ever find yourself stuck in research mode? Are you overwhelmed with options? Do you resent regret? If you’ve ever found yourself living in fear of making decisions, you’re not alone. It can be a debilitating cycle knowing that you’re facing the same questions over and over again either because you can’t make a decision, or you can’t live with the decisions you’ve made. This week on the show, Nikki puts on the coaching hat to walk us through some of the questions that can help you walk out of decision paralysis and conquer your fear! Links & Notes Thank you for supporting The ADHD Podcast on Patreon! Fear — PsychologyToday.com Episode Transcript (00:00) - The ADHD Podcast (00:30) - Announcements: July Break, Summer Coaching, and more! (02:30) - Support The ADHD Podcast on Patreon! (05:28) - Overcoming the Fear of Making Decisions ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

The ADHD diagnosis can be as confusing as it is illuminating, unlocking doors in yourself you never knew to be closed. Just as it is a journey for you as you learn to live with these new words that suddenly describe you, it is as much a journey for those who love you. Parents, siblings, and others who care about you will experience a range of emotions as they, too, learn about your diagnosis. This week on the show, inspired by a listener request, Nikki and Pete are taking on how to talk to your loved ones after you receive your ADHD diagnosis and give you some tools you can use to frame the conversation to work toward shared understanding and growth. Links & Notes Episode Transcript (00:00) - The ADHD Podcast (01:44) - Listener Letter! (05:12) - Support The ADHD Podcast on Patreon (06:36) - Talking to loved ones after diagnosis (11:55) - The nature of 'fault' (13:28) - Truth and Fact, Education ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

ADHD Coach Caroline Maguire is back! She’s a coach, author, teacher, and speaker with a special focus in social skills supporting kids — and parents of kids — with ADHD. She’s just about to celebrate the release of her new book, Why Will No One Play with Me?: The Play Better Plan to Help Children of All Ages Make Friends and Thrive and we’re thrilled she came back to share the story of the book, and why social skills are so critical for kids and adults alike in healthy development. Her book is scheduled for launch in September, but follow the links below to be notified of availability or pre-order now. Links & Notes Thank you for supporting The ADHD Podcast on Patreon! Episode Transcript Why Will No One Play with Me?: The Play Better Plan to Help Children of All Ages Make Friends and Thrive by Caroline Maguire Pre-order Now Learn more about Caroline Maguire Caroline Maguire on Facebook (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:22) - Support The ADHD Podcast (02:59) - Introducing Caroline Maguire (04:48)

Adult diagnosis of ADHD is, by all our evidence on this show, an enormously liberating thing. We learn so much about ourselves, put a clear and cogent frame around our experience, that we can truly change the way we relate to the world around us. There's baggage that comes to this experience late in life, however: many of us live in a culture that puts outsized value on achievement and success in the young. There's a brewing conversation on the value of late bloomers, particularly but not exclusively in the US, and it's time to talk about the values that come along with blooming late — and what other late bloomers can learn from those who've been blooming late with ADHD all along. Welcome to the club, late bloomers. Glad to have you. Links & Notes Thank you for supporting The ADHD Podcast on Patreon! Rich Karlgaard on WAMC Late Bloomers: The Power of Patience in a World Obsessed with Early Achievement by Rich Karlgaard Why Late Bloomers are Undervalued — TEDxFargo Dr. Elkhonon Goldberg (00:00) - Welcome

For many of us, our relationship with Dr. Edward Hallowell, M.D., Ed.D., started with his best-selling 1994 book, Driven to Distraction. He's the author of 20 books on various psychological topics and is a highly recognized international speaker on ADHD, focus, productivity, and beyond. He’s the founder of The Hallowell Centers, and has been featured as a guest expert across the media landscape, not to mention he’s a terrific host of his own podcast, DISTRACTION, which focuses on, you guessed it, the struggles and distractions of this amped up world. Dr. Hallowell joins us today to talk about self-esteem. It’s a subject that creeps in and out of our community regularly with questions that angle on our perception of self, our sometimes flagging love and appreciation of ourselves, and who better to help us assess self-esteem and the ADHD role in our self-perception than one of the premier leaders in our field and the ADHD experience. Links & Notes Because I Came from a Crazy Family: The Making of a Psychia