Divorce Exposed

Have you listened to the Cold Podcast? Its a true crime podcast that is well researched. It talks about the story behind the crime and the emotions the wife was going through. Marriage isn't easy, but when you are married to a narcissist, it can be difficult to know truth from abuse. When someone makes you feel you aren't good enough, you begin to believe it. When someone manipulates the situation it becomes difficult to sort the truth.  The story inside the Cold podcast happens every day. Many women make it but many don't. This episode is one womans story.  If you are in an abusive situation, get help. Your life matters..

EP 12 Its been awhile since our last episode, but we are back with some insights, observations and suggestions for staying married and surviving divorce. 

Episode 11:  Well, someone has to take fido in the divorce. Is it worth going to court over? If you have children, I think the dog should be with them.  I’m not a psychologist, but there’s a popular saying, a boy and his dog, and there is truth to that statement! INTRODUCTION What I really want to talk about today is how the pet can help you through your divorce. And I’m talking about my own situation because we lost our pet this week and this is my way of working through the grief. I cleaned the water bowl for the last time. Our last pet was Patches. He was a black lab with some greyhound in him and he was huge. He was my youngest sons 16th birthday present. Unfortunately, shortly after my sons birthday, my marriage fell apart, so the emotions are spinning today on so many levels. In all fairness, I think it’s important for me to say up front that I’m not a dog lover. I’ve had one the past 30 years mostly because of my kids, but I don't think I would have gotten a second dog after my first passed. DUSTY But

EPISODE 11 - NESTING: An innovative way to keep your children from having to go back and forth with visitation. It’s not for everyone, but I believe it’s a concept that we need to explore more and try to figure out ways to make it work. I understand that parents don’t always get along hence they divorce, but that’s not the children's fault. Why do they have to pack up every other weekend to go visit mom or dad? Why do they have to have their life disrupted because their parents couldn’t figure things out. Could this be one of the reasons why we have so many issues with millennials today? Parents are over compensating for the divorce. It’s complicated and there isn’t one right or wrong answer, but the parenting issue needs to be at the top of the divorce discussion. My guest is Cheri Morris who is a divorce coach with Dear Divorce Coach. She’s an attorney who pivoted her career into coaching, based on her own divorce. I love what she is doing and the approach she is taking. I’ll link to her contact information

What happens to your relationship with your in laws after the divorce? It’s one of those topics that doesn’t usually get discussed in the divorce negotiations but can be touchy and emotional after a divorce. I’ve experienced a good relationship and silence. This episode is intended to get you thinking. I’m not sure I have all the answers, but I have a few scenarios for you to ponder as you move forward post divorce. If you are going through difficult times and feel you need help, please reach out to someone, either a friend, family member or a professional and get support. I’ve listed some resources on the resources page of the website and encourage you to check there or reach out to your friends and family for referrals. Your life matters and getting help is the best thing you can do for yourself. I recently visited with my in-laws which is what inspired me to create this episode. They were so happy to see me. I am the daughter they never had. It makes my son happy that I visit them. If I was still married I

Getting divorced is difficult but understanding how to work with your attorney can make the process a little bit better. 

What happens to a marriage when a newborn enters the picture?  While there is nothing better than welcoming a new baby into the world, for many couples, it is a major life transition. Unfortunately, a new baby can also mean the end of a marriage for some.  In this episode of Divorce Exposed, I’m talking with Liz Kaufmann who works with couples when they bring home the new born, addressing issues that can ultimately save a marriage.  I met Liz through a speaking program that I am a part of and knew right away that I wanted her to be part of the Divorce Exposed podcast and share her wisdom.  I truly believe what she is doing adds so much value to a couple and we talk about some of the issues that people don’t even think about when they have children.  If you are aware of these issues and you can work through them, you can survive the infant stage in your marriage with a lot less tension and create the life you want with your family rather than hitting your head against the wall not understanding what is happeni

Most of us get married thinking it will last forever…..and then reality sets in…we change, we grow and so often, we stop doing it together. Some couples manage to work through the tough times and some couples throw in the towel Today we are talking with Dr. Katherine Morris who’s practice focuses on men in their 50’s and 60’s going through divorce. In this episode she shares her insight around divorce and we discuss the 8 common pitfalls for men to avoid as they are going through divorce. Some of these pitfalls can also apply to women, but since she focuses on men in her practice, the conversation today stays on that track. In addition to Dr. Morris, we have Dan with is who is one Dr. Morris’s clients. You’ll hear him chime in a few times throughout the conversation with his insights on this topic. After we stopped recording, Dan and I were talking and he mentioned that men age 50 have the highest rate of suicide. In his opinion, one of the contributors is divorce and men not feeling like they have anything l

Welcome to divorced exposed where we provide insights for staying married and inspiration for surviving divorce. Most of us get married thinking it will last forever…..and then reality sets in…we change, we grow and so often, we stop doing it together. Some couples manage to work through the tough times and some couples throw in the towel - or at least one person does - and at some point, the big D word enters the picture. At divorce exposed, we want to provide insights for staying married and inspiration for surviving divorce. My name is Debbie DeChambeau and I am your host…. Today’s episode is for someone thinking about getting divorced or who might have just found out that their spouse wants a divorce.  Today we are talking about getting legal advice so that you know your legal rights and  how to find an attorney. Before I get too far into the episode I wanted to let you know a couple of things. First, I’ve started a FB group that I hope you will join. I’ve linked to it in the show notes or you can find it

Today I’m bringing you a brief episode because today is National Ex Spouse Day. Yes, it’s an actual day…and it’s April 14th If your marriage didn’t work out….you’ve got an X – the question is do you celebrate them or do you loathe them? Not all are good, not all are bad.  I’ve seen some great ex spouses, and I’ve seen some terrible ones.  I unfortunately got stuck with two bad ones, but we’ll focus on the positives. What makes a good ex?  I’ve got five ideas for you to consider Someone that you can stay friends with or at least friendly with – (lori / Ricky as the example) Someone you can be civil with Someone who helps and encourages you – Someone who helps out with the children Lastly, celebrating your ex by not being jealous when they get into another relationship Hopefully we can all aspire to being a great ex spouse,  letting go of our hurt, anger and pain and moving on.  Remember, there is a reason we fell in love enough to get married in the first place.  Focus on that and you might find a reason to

This episode is for someone thinking about getting divorced or who is in the middle of a divorce. I want to share some insight on your parenting arrangement and why putting your children first matters. It’s just an idea and it might not work for you but maybe you can take the idea and mold it into something that is a little bit different and does work for you. The inspiration for this episode is from separate articles on 2 couples that are also public figures and what we see publicly about their divorce. I thought what they were doing was worth a conversation. Of course, mixed into this episode are my thoughts on what they are doing and the impact it is having on their children. You'll find a link to the articles in the resource section below. Fun Information: Join our FB group.  Click here for the link or see the resources section below.  We have a FB page and a FB group. Join us on both. I’d love to keep the conversation going in the group and get your thoughts on the ideas that I bring up in this podcast.

Most of us get married thinking it will last forever…..and then reality sets in…we change, we grow and so often, we stop doing it together. Some couples manage to work through the tough times and some couples throw in the towel - or at least one person does - and at some point, the big D word enters the picture.  At divorce exposed, we want to provide insights for staying married and inspiration for surviving divorce. In this episode, we will focus on the stay at home parent. I know if you are just getting married, thinking about divorce seems completely far-fetched.  As much as I want to believe your marriage will last forever, statistically, that’s probably not going to happen. So preparing yourself for the ‘what if’  is a smart thing for you to do.  And if you have been married and are thinking about getting remarried, you know EXACTLY what I’m talking about. Before we get started, I wanted to let you know that I’ve started a FB group to keep the conversation going.  I mentioned it in episode 2 and we are

Not many people can say that all of their mom's and dads have been married at least 3 times. It's how I grew up. When they were all alive, I had 8 parents. I often say I'm a 'product of divorce' because I grew up in a world where most parents stay married. While today it isn't as uncommon for parents to marry  2-3 times, 40 years ago it wasn't as common. In this episode you will learn about the host of Divorce Exposed and why this is a podcast that will help you survive divorce.  My true hope is that you find this podcast before you get divorced and find insights for staying married.