Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

Every October 31st, kids go wild - costumes, sugar, excitement - but what if that same energy is quietly shaping ADHD diagnoses? In this Doctor’s Desk episode, Justin and Kylie unpack a fascinating new study showing a 14% spike in ADHD diagnoses on Halloween day. They explore what this says about subjectivity in diagnosis, the risks of overlabelling kids, and how our environments - not just our children - might need rethinking. KEY POINTS: A new Harvard study found ADHD diagnoses rise 14% on Halloween compared to surrounding days. ADHD remains a subjective diagnosis — there’s no blood test or scan to confirm it. Why environment and maturity often explain behaviours mistaken for “disorder.” The real risks of misdiagnosis — medication, labelling, and self-perception. Why it’s time to look at what’s happening around kids, not just within them. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “There isn’t anything wrong with her — she just doesn’t fit the mould of wh

What happens when our kids spend nine hours a day on screens? Dr Justin Coulson sits down with world-leading researcher Professor Jean Twenge (author of Ten Rules for Raising Kids in a High Tech World) to unpack the hidden costs of our always-online culture — and how parents can reclaim calm, connection and control. From brain changes to “go touch grass” moments, Jean shares the science behind tech overload and practical rules that actually work. KEY POINTS: Why social media under 16 is a terrible idea — and why government regulation matters The shocking truth about teens’ 9-hour daily screen time How smartphones reshape childhood: less sleep, less play, less joy The “basic phone” revolution — why dumb phones might just save your child’s brain How to set firm rules (without becoming the enemy) Real-world freedom: why outdoor play is safer than scrolling The single biggest rule every parent should enforce tonight QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “In ten years

When your child has to come first—whether it’s up the stairs or at bedtime—it can drive the whole family mad. But there’s more behind that competitiveness than you might think. In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack what’s really going on when kids can’t handle losing, and how to guide them toward healthy confidence instead of constant comparison. KEY POINTS: Why competition and young kids don’t mix The developmental stages that make “winning” feel like a need, not a want How competence and self-worth get tangled together Simple strategies to help kids lose gracefully—and win kindly Why home should be a safe space to “win” without pressure QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “For me to feel good, I shouldn’t have to make you feel bad. That’s the problem with competition for young kids.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: What Your Child Needs From You by Dr Justin Coulson 10 Things Every Parent Needs to Know by Dr Justin Coulson ACTION

A world-first law is about to change how Aussie kids use social media — forever.From December 10, children 16 and under will be banned from holding social accounts. But what does that really mean for families? In this special extended episode, Dr Justin Coulson speaks with Julie Inman Grant, Australia’s eSafety Commissioner, about the new age-limit legislation — who it covers, how it will work, what fines apply, and what parents must do now to prepare. This is the definitive guide for every parent trying to navigate the online world — with calm, clarity, and confidence. KEY POINTS What the new under-16 social media ban actually includes (and who’s exempt) How eSafety will enforce compliance — and why parents won’t be penalised The five-step “layered safety” approach every platform must follow What’s being done to restrict online porn and explicit content The truth about “nudifying” apps and how schools can respond Simple ways to help you

Even parenting experts don’t always nail it. In this heartfelt “I’ll Do Better Tomorrow” episode, Justin and Kylie open up about those moments when good intentions go sideways — and what it really takes to repair connection with your kids. From tearful teenage meltdowns to awkward dinner-table confessions, this is an honest, hope-filled reminder that your love matters more than your mistakes. KEY POINTS: Why even the best parents get it wrong sometimes — and why that’s okay How to apologise with authenticity (without making excuses) The power of “creating a culture” of open, honest conversation Why repair matters more than perfection How strong family relationships let kids talk about anything Teaching teens accountability and empathy through your own example QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “My love for you is bigger than all the walkouts in the world.” — Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Parenting Revolution by Dr Justin Coulson ACTIO

A new study is making headlines — not because kids are on screens too much, but because many can’t stop. Dr Justin Coulson unpacks fresh research linking addictive screen use (not screen time itself) with anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts in teens. Learn what “addiction” really means, why it’s not an official diagnosis, and how to protect your child without constant conflict. KEY POINTS The latest data from the Adolescent Brain Cognitive Development Study shows addictive patterns of screen use — not hours online — are tied to poorer mental health. “Addictive” use means kids feel distress when not online, use screens to regulate emotions, or can’t stop even when it causes problems. There’s no official “screen addiction” diagnosis, but the behaviour patterns are real — and concerning. Justin shares practical strategies using the Three E’s of Effective Discipline to reduce conflict and foster healthy habits. Real-

It starts as a joke — “Mummy needs wine!” — but for many parents, that glass at the end of the day becomes more than just a meme. In this powerful and deeply honest conversation, Dr Justin Coulson talks with author and “Sober Awkward” podcast host Victoria Vanstone about her journey from party girl to sober mum — and how she broke free from the culture that told her alcohol was the answer. This episode will challenge how you see drinking, motherhood, and what self-care really means. KEY POINTS: How alcohol became part of Victoria’s identity — and why it took motherhood to question it The emotional and social pressures behind “Mummy Wine Time” culture Why drinking in front of kids sends powerful hidden messages The quiet shame of “normal” drinking habits — and what to do if you’re starting to question yours The rise of “sober curious” parenting and what it looks like in real life QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:“

Ever wish you could talk to your kids about the big stuff — without it feeling awkward or heavy? In this episode, Justin and Kylie show you how to make tricky conversations a normal (and even fun) part of family life. From friendship dramas to body safety, honesty, and screens, discover how to help your kids open up, think deeply, and learn to navigate life with confidence. KEY POINTS: How to start having “tricky talks” — even with 5- and 7-year-olds Why weekly conversations build trust and emotional safety Conversation starters that aren’t awkward or forced Turning everyday moments into teachable moments The ultimate question every parent should ask their child QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Let your kids know there’s no topic that’s off limits. When they trust you with the little things, they’ll come to you with the big ones.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: Relationship Rules and What Your Child Needs From You by Dr Justin Coulson Have a tricky parenting question

Your child smashes a TV. Or floods the bathroom. Or writes off the car. What now? In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack one of parenting’s trickiest questions: should our kids pay for the damage they cause? You’ll hear real family stories, a breakdown of natural vs logical consequences, and a powerful mindset shift that helps kids take ownership without shame — and keeps relationships intact. KEY POINTS Why “natural consequences” aren’t the same as punishment How to teach accountability without blame, guilt, or control The “OAR vs BED” principle: helping kids own mistakes and grow from them When (and how) to talk about reparations or paying for damages How to balance compassion, responsibility, and fairness QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Discipline isn’t about punishment. It’s about problem solving — together.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Happy Families Membership 10 Things Every Parent Needs to Know by Dr Justin Coulson Entitled [Upcomin

What happens when you pour condensed milk instead of coconut milk into your family curry? Justin’s kitchen disaster could’ve ended in chaos—but instead, it became a story of laughter, grace, and doing better tomorrow. In this heartwarming (and hilarious) episode, Justin and Kylie share their biggest parenting fails—from theme park terrors to dinner gone wrong—and reveal the secret ingredient that makes family life truly happy. KEY POINTS Why laughter is essential for a happy home How to turn small failures into powerful family memories The psychology of fear (and what a rollercoaster taught Kylie about courage) Justin’s sweet-but-sour curry disaster: a lesson in humility and humour The real reason “doing better tomorrow” matters more than getting it right today QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “If you want to have a happy family, you’ve got to laugh. Laughter makes family life happy.” — Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED Happy Families Pod

If you ever feel like there’s never enough time — this episode is your deep breath. Justin and Kylie unpack the idea of “time abundance” — how to slow life down when the to-do list never ends. From the psychology of feeling rushed to practical ways to reclaim calm, this is your permission slip to stop racing and start living with more space, energy, and joy. KEY POINTS Most of us undervalue our time — we tick off easy tasks instead of what truly matters. Protecting your time doesn’t mean saying no to family; it means saying yes intentionally. Feeling time-rich comes from being mindful in the moment, not just managing the clock. Giving your time to others actually makes you feel like you have more time. Buy yourself back time when you can — small choices (like grocery delivery or help with chores) reduce pressure and create calm. Scrolling isn’t rest. True breaks come from presence, connection, and purpose. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “You don’t buil

Teens are forming emotional bonds — not just online, but with AI companions. In this episode, Dr Justin Coulson talks with Brown University psychologist Dr Jacqueline Nesi, author of Techno Sapiens, about the fast-growing world of AI “friendships” and what they mean for kids’ mental health. They also unpack Jackie’s latest research revealing how often teens check their phones — and how it’s shaping their moods. It’s a must-listen for parents navigating the blurred lines between connection, distraction, and dependence in the digital age. KEY POINTS 72% of teens have used an AI companion; over half use one regularly. AI chatbots are designed to keep kids engaged — often prioritising screen time over wellbeing. For some vulnerable kids, AI chats can feel like friendship or therapy — but they aren’t replacements for real connection. Australia’s new social-media age-limit laws may help, but implementation and design flaws remain. Teens c

It’s happening in classrooms everywhere — groups of 10- and 11-year-old girls suddenly identifying as lesbian or non-binary. Parents are confused, scared to say the wrong thing, and desperate to understand what’s driving it. In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack the growing trend of early identity labels, how sexualised content and peer influence shape confusion, and what parents can do to respond calmly, wisely, and with compassion. This conversation isn’t about labels — it’s about protecting childhood and keeping connection strong through one of the hardest parenting conversations of our time. KEY POINTS: Why clusters of identity declarations in tweens are often driven by social contagion, not self-discovery. How pornography, anime, and online content are confusing kids about sexuality. The crucial difference between a physiological response and actual orientation. Why automatic affirmation can harm — and what supportive curiosity looks like. Setting firm, lovin

Exam season is here — and with it, a tidal wave of pressure, late nights, and panic. But what if we’ve got it all wrong? In this short, punchy episode, Justin and Kylie Coulson share six powerful reminders to help your teen (and you!) survive exam stress with perspective, calm, and even joy. From why your ATAR doesn’t define your worth to why sleep, exercise, and connection matter more than cramming — this is the reality check every parent needs right now. KEY POINTS: You are not your ATAR: Exams don’t measure intelligence, potential, or worth. Brains need breaks: Good sleep, nutrition, and exercise fuel real learning. Remembering requires forgetting: Relearning builds stronger memory. Connection over cramming: Fun, laughter, and time with loved ones reduce anxiety. Take a gap year: Exploration and “range” lead to deeper purpose and long-term success. Perspective is everything: In two years, none of this will matter as much as it feels now. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:&ldq

Ever had your child melt down because it’s time to leave somewhere fun? In this heartwarming episode, Justin and Kylie share the tearful goodbyes, the bike crashes, and the surprising wisdom that came from an 11-year-old who just didn’t want the holiday to end. It’s a story about empathy, growing up, and remembering that sometimes… we all just want to stay a little longer. KEY POINTS: Why revisiting familiar places can be deeply meaningful for families How empathy—not logic—helps calm big emotions in kids The hidden benefits of letting grandparents “spoil” their grandkids Why parents (even parenting experts!) still have emotional moments of their own How shared stories can defuse tension and strengthen connection QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Empathy and perspective are powerful. They stop you from getting mad at the kids and help you join them in their suffering.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: 10 Things Every Parent Needs to Know — Dr Justin Coulson The H

Boys are falling behind in reading — and the consequences are staggering. In this episode, we share an excerpt from Your Kid’s Next Read podcast with Allison Tait, Megan Daley, Matt Stanton and Dr Justin Coulson unpacking the crisis in boys’ literacy. From screen addiction to motivation, we explore why reading has lost its spark for boys — and how parents can bring stories back to life at home. You can listen to the full conversation here: Boys and Reading. KEY POINTS: Reading rates are plummeting across the board — but boys are struggling most. The literacy gap between boys and girls now equals a full academic year by Year 9. Why screens are hijacking boys’ brains — and how to reset attention spans. The 3 ingredients that make kids want to read: autonomy, competence, and connection. Why dads matter most — boys become readers when they see men reading. The power of reading with your kids, not just telling them to read. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “For boys to

Pasta. Chips. Nuggets. Repeat. If your neurodivergent child lives on a diet of white and yellow foods, you’re not alone. In this episode, Dr Justin Coulson sits down with paediatric dietitian Karina Savage to unpack why fussy eating is so common in autistic and ADHD kids — and what you can actually do to help them expand their diet without battles, bribes or tears. You’ll learn how to lower pressure, build trust around food, and make progress (even if it’s just one new bite at a time). KEY POINTS Start where your child’s at. Understand the sensory, anxiety, or familiarity issues behind food refusal. Safe foods first. Keep trusted foods on the plate, and gently introduce “test foods” nearby (but not touching). No pressure, no panic. Play with food, don’t police it — mealtimes should feel safe, not stressful. Tiny changes matter. Shift from white to wholemeal, add fibre, and celebrate every small win. Watch additives. Processed colours and preservative

Few things break a parent’s heart like leaving your toddler at childcare while they cry, scream, and beg you not to go. Is this the same as “cry it out”? Is it harming their development—or just part of growing up? In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack the science of separation anxiety and share practical, compassionate strategies to ease drop-off stress—for your child and for you. KEY POINTS Why toddler separation anxiety is different from cry-it-out sleep training The role of support networks, emotional development, and cognition in how kids cope Two critical signs that reveal if your child is actually okay When to worry: What ongoing distress might really mean Practical strategies: routines, comfort items, quick goodbyes, and positive pick-up rituals QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Separation hurts—but if your child settles quickly, connects with others, and greets you with joy at the end of the day, you can breathe easier. They’re okay.” RESOURCES MENTIONED

From December 10, kids under 16 will no longer be allowed to hold social media accounts in Australia. It’s a world-first move that has parents divided, teens anxious, and platforms on edge. In this episode, we break down what the ban reallymeans for your family, how it will actually be enforced, and why it might be the biggest parenting shift of the decade. KEY POINTS: What the new minimum age legislation actually does (and doesn’t do) How platforms like TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, and Snapchat will change for under-16s Why the responsibility sits with tech giants—not parents or kids The staggering fines for platforms that fail to comply Why strong parental vigilance is still essential, even with new safeguards How families can prepare for the “cold turkey” social media cut-off QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:“Legislation can move the needle, but it won’t change everything. That’s up to us as parents.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: eSafety Commissioner’s FAQs on the

When you’re knee-deep in tantrums, sticky fingers, midnight wake-ups and endless “whys?” it feels like survival mode. But what if these exhausting, messy, maddening moments are the very ones you’ll ache for later? In this episode, Justin and Kylie reflect on the chaos they once wished away - and now find themselves missing. A heartfelt reminder to savour the small stuff, even when it drives you crazy. KEY POINTS The everyday frustrations parents secretly miss when kids grow up. Why sleepless nights, sticky floors, and endless questions carry hidden beauty. The bittersweet shift from chaos to quiet as kids get older. How perspective transforms what once felt like drudgery into cherished memories. The importance of soaking up the messy, noisy, imperfect moments while you have them. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "I wish I loved it more when I was in it, but I just didn’t have the perspective." RESOURCES MENTIONED HappyFamilies.com.au – for more parenting resources. You can r