Beyond Bitchy: Mastering The Art Of Boundaries

I return to our look at foundations of good boundary work, after taking a slight detour last week to talk about women and boundaries. You’ll learn four signs that you might need to set a boundary: feeling anger, resentment (or victim-anger), out-of-control, overwhelmed, or getting feedback from other people that you’re overstepping limits or are a chronic boundary pusher. Recognizing these four signs, and assessing whether you want to set a boundary, is a great beginning to developing healthy, effective boundaries in every part of your life. Biggest Takeaways from Episode #5: You can’t control other people by creating boundaries for them, but you can create boundaries for yourself around you respond. My favorite definition of resentment comes from Pia Mellody: victim anger. When you feel resentful, it’s important to ask whether your boundaries have been violated. If not, then you’re not actually a victim. Taking on victimhood as an identity is disempowering and a losing strategy both individually and in rela