Beyond Bitchy: Mastering The Art Of Boundaries

After last week’s episode on the topic of women and boundaries, we’re returning to our deeper dive into each step of the 5-Step Boundary Solution process. This episode will focus on Step 4: Taking Action. If you haven’t already heard the first three steps of the 5-SBS, go back and listen to Episodes #10-12. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #14: When you're planning what action to take, you need to know whether you have a contract (agreement) with another person, or whether it’s just an expectation. Mistaking expectations for agreements can lead to disappointment, frustration, or worse. Demands and requests are on a continuum. On one end, we get our needs met in a very passive way. At the other extreme we make demands. There’s a fine—but important—difference between a non-negotiable boundary, which expresses what you are going to do, and an ultimatum, which is a demand. When you want to make a request, there are best practices. First, choose a time when both of you are relatively calm and undistracted, and noti