Beyond Bitchy: Mastering The Art Of Boundaries

Today’s episode is all about what's called “offending from the victim position.” It's such a crucial concept to understand when it comes to healthy boundaries that I am dedicating this episode to Pia Mellody, who coined the term. I’ll go into depth to explain what offending from the victim position means, as well as why it’s so problematic. I’ll also share some tips to avoid this boundary-less and problematic behavior. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #19: To offend means to cause to feel upset, annoyed, or resentful. Therefore, it’s a subjective experience. When you see yourself as a victim, you feel less-than, your self-esteem goes down, and you may feel a sense of powerlessness, shame, or pain. Because these are such negative feelings, a common response for many is to attempt to get back at the person or situation that you see as the cause of your painful feelings. While it’s tempting to retaliate or take revenge as a way to get your power back when someone offends you, it is not a healthy expression of aut