Beyond Bitchy: Mastering The Art Of Boundaries

Are you ready for the third part of my series on the talking boundary? This one is all about a specific process from the work of Pia Mellody: the Talking Format. This strategy is a roadmap around how to share information with another person, and is ideal for challenging conversations. If you’ve ever found yourself struggling with how to express yourself effectively in a difficult interpersonal situation, don’t miss this episode!   Biggest Takeaways From Episode #134: The Talking Format consists of three parts: Tell the other person about the data you observed to give a concrete example of the issue you’re raising. Explain what you thought, perceived, or made up based on the data. Share the emotions that you feel around the situation. When you’re using the Talking Format, make sure you have enough physical space to say what you want to say. Pay attention to what your body is telling you. The purpose of sharing is to be known and foster intimacy, not to blame, shame, control, criticize, or manipulate. If yo