Big Picture Relationships

Threads of connection can transform your relationships. When you regularly watch for them, you will be amazed at how often they show up. www.alainajo.com

Alternate Title:  "What to do when thoughts or beliefs no longer work for you."Everyone needs these ideas and this language in mind for the growth that life brings.alainajo.comSupport the show

"There is so much power in understanding the bigger picture and feeling a little more personal connection the things we are expected to do."alainajo.com

"The power of your ability to connect to each other is paradoxically based upon how full each of you are. You have more to give your partner, and you’re also more ready to receive their efforts when you’re already at a healthy baseline."www.alainajo.com

Which version should I remember? The one full of discomforts and disappointments, or the one full of highlights and amazing things? www.alainajo.com

If you were all alone on a deserted island, who would you be? 'Cuz the secret to genuine confidence and happiness is to be that person NOW. Quit hustling for approval, and let's figure out how to show up today.alainajo.com

Alaina explains 3-and-a-half important points to know about boundaries and a magical way to set boundaries that preserves - and maybe even enhances - relationships. www.alainajo.com

How big is the universe, and how big is your heart, for granting exemptions or extending kindness toward things you don't understand or agree with? Is it possible there are solutions to moral or ethical dilemmas that you can't even comprehend?www.alainajo.com

Body boundaries can be tricky. It takes practice to a) recognize physical boundary crossing when it's actually happening, and b) push back on others and risk embarrassment or "getting in trouble." But the ability to do both of these things is critical.www.alainajo.com

"Trauma isn't limited to the things that first come to mind when you hear the word. We all have smaller events or patterns that trigger us into a response pattern; let's use an EMDR story today to explore an option for healing from trauma."www.alainajo.com

"Your admissions of weakness, humorous stories of awkwardness, and showing up as an imperfect human allows others to do the same.  Is there any better gift you can give?"www.alainajo.com

"Parental guilt is out of control these days. Today I'm going to call out 3 places that trigger mega-doses of mom guilt so you can recognize it, name it for what it is, and remember that it's optional. You don't have to pick it up."www.alainajo.com

“Your job as a committed partner is to ride the waves with the person you love, regardless of where they go. Because ultimately, none of these waves last. And you simply end up with each other.”www.alainajo.com

"It should be said...that the idea that parents can control the destiny of their children by doing all the right things - by providing children with every lesson and every experience, by buying them the right toys and saying the right words and never spanking or publicly scolding them - is... self serving." - Judith Harris.www.alainajo.com

"I'm not going to pep talk you into thinking that very real struggles are a 'piece of cake' if you'd only shift your perspective. But it's our messy reality as humans that connects us; let's talk about that."www.alainajo.com

"Even in your busy life I bet that there are higher, holier, more meaningful motivations behind a lot of the things you do and why you do them. Take the time to notice them, to ponder them. Think about the meaning of your routines and let that meaning fill you up." alainajo.com

"What if it's super easy to enjoy these school-aged kids for a REASON? What if their sweetness it gives you a leg up on your future parenting *if* you use this time to your advantage?"www.alainajo.com

"The deepest question is this: How responsible are you for your partner’s choices? And what can you do to affair-proof your marriage?" Today we'll look at some real-life ways to make your life affair-proof. www.alainajo.com

A new way to think about boundaries that just might change everything. www.alainajo.com

"Maybe we *need* to dip down into that valley of apathy or sadness or melancholy in order to appreciate what it feels like when we have our magic. So appreciate those days when you're not all you should be. Lean into them - they can actually boost you to greater heights."alainajo.comSupport the show