Sexology

Welcome to episode 78 of the Sexology Podcast. Our guest today is Dr. Jennifer Weeks. In this episode, Dr. Weeks talks us about pornography addiction along with discussion on evidence-based treatments for out of control sexual behaviors. Also, we evaluate the differences between healthy and unhealthy reliance on pornography as a method for mood regulation.   Dr. Jennifer Weeks is the founder and director of Sexual Addiction Treatment Services, an out-patient treatment program for out of control sexual behavior. She has over twelve years experience treating all aspects of addiction, trauma and addiction, sexual addiction, and sex offenders. She is a Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist- Supervisor, Certified Advanced Alcohol and Drug Counselor, a Licensed Professional Counselor and has a Ph.D. in Psychology. Dr. Weeks is the author of the blog, Dr. Jen’s Recovery Readings as well as the prevention book, The New Age of Sex Education: How to Talk to Your Teen about Cybersex and Pornography in the Digital Age.  

Welcome to episode 77 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Marie-Claire Thauvette who talks to us about what inspired her to write the book "Honeymoon Playbook", why the book is helpful for couples who didn’t start off having good sex and learning to be open and communicative with your partner to allow for sexual improvements.    Marie-Claire Thauvette is a familiar face in the industry, and has been featured on many podcasts, summits, radio and television shows. Her new book “The Honeymoon Playbook” is a best seller in 3 categories, and with it has really helped new and not so new couples spice up their lives in and out of the bedroom.    She is also a successful entrepreneur, professional educator, and woman on a mission: to teach individuals and couples alike about the power of intimacy, sex and communication – and how to have FUN doing it. MC combines her over 30 years of teaching experience and her AASECT and ISEE Sexual Educator certifications to reignite passion in singles and couples.   

Welcome to episode 76 of the Sexology Podcast. Our guest today is Rebecca Wong, LCSW-R. Rebecca talks to us about why it is difficult to talk about sex with our partners, the need to spend time with our bodies and discover what feels good and how anxiety can affect performance in the bedroom.     Rebecca is a relationship therapist and consultant. She’s also the creator of Connectfulness, a research-based practice that encourages you to explore and embrace every aspect of your humanity – including everything that’s marvellous and all that’s messy.    Rebecca takes you on a deep dive into that middle place between the personal and the professional, between the places you explore in therapy and the work you do in coaching.     When you explore this fertile in-between space, you can make great things happen. When you truly see yourself, you create the ripple that allow you to be the change you wish to see in the world – and that invites everyone around you to do the same.    In this episode, you

Welcome to episode 75 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Sophie Lucido Johnson, who talks to us about her new book Many Love: A Memoir of Polyamory and Finding Love(s), what a polyamorous lifestyle looks like to her and the difference between polyamory and open relationships.     Sophie Lucido Johnson gets a lot of questions when she tells people that she’s polyamorous. Many Love is an intimate look at this often misunderstood practice: its history, its misconceptions, and Sophie’s personal transformation from serial monogamist to proud polyamorist.    After trying for years to emulate her boomer parents’ forty-year and still-going-strong marriage, Sophie realized that maybe the love she was looking for was down a road less travelled. In this bold, graphic memoir, she explores her sexuality, her values, and the versions of love our society accepts and practices. Along the way, she shares what it’s like to play on Tinder side-by-side with your boyfriend, encounter—and surmount—many types of je

Welcome to episode 74 of the Sexology Podcast. Our guest today is Dr. Lori A. Brotto, PhD. In this episode, Dr Brotto and I talk about using mindfulness to improve sexuality, how stress levels have impacted our sexuality and learning to use mindfulness in intimate situations.     Lori A. Brotto, PhD, is a clinical psychologist, a sex researcher, and the author of Better Sex through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire (Greystone Books, 2018). A member of various sexuality organizations, she is also Canada's Research Chair in Women's Sexual Health and an associate editor for Archives of Sexual Behaviour.    In this episode, you will hear:     The findings that Lori has found through her work and research in this area   How stress levels have impacted our sexuality   The importance to reduce our stress levels to improve sexuality   Learning to overcome and pass through the “honeymoon period” in a relationship   Why Lori became interested in sex and mindfulness  The ways in which

Welcome to episode 73 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Stephanie Buehler PsyD, CST-S, who speaks to me about the common challenges couples face during pregnancy, why many women are scared to have sex during pregnancy and recommendations on how to approach and improve communication on these sensitive subject matters.    Stephanie Buehler PsyD, CST-S, is an internationally recognized licensed psychologist and AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor. Dr. Buehler is director of the Buehler Institute, where she provides sex and relationship therapy as well as continuing education programs.    She is also part of Hoag for Her Center for Wellness, where she specializes in helping women overcome painful sex, as well as helping high-risk breast cancer patients. She has published on sexuality for both professional and lay audiences, including her books What Every Mental Health Professional Needs to Know About Sex, 2nd Edition and Sex, Love, and Mental Illness: A Couple's Guide to Staying Co

Welcome to episode 72 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Alice Little who is the number one booking legal sex worker in the United States, she is 4ft 8 and works at the Moonlite Bunny Ranch.       Alice writes advice articles for She Knows Media and has been a guest on the Tim Ferriss Show. She has been interviewed and featured by CNN, ABC’s Nightline, Re nery29, Quartz, Shane and Friends, and other podcasts and news outlets. She is a proponent of sex positivity and women’s rights and has marched for equality. Alice is also one of the founders of the “Hookers for Healthcare” movement, petitioning the government for effective health care that works for everyone.    Alice frequently sees couples in and out of the bedroom, coaching them on how to enhance their relationships, increase the quality of their communication, and help bring intimacy back into their interactions. She hosts a weekly vidcast titled ‘Coffee with Alice,’ where she discusses sex work, fields questions, and aims to inform on all thing

Welcome to episode 71 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Robert Cox who talks to us about the developing rape culture in our society, how we can combat objectification of men and women and the need for rape victims to know it’s ok to reach out and talk about their experiences.   Robert Cox is a therapist in private practice in Liberty, MO.  He specializes in the treatment of Trauma, Addictions and Autism.  Robert creates a podcast providing psycho-education and mindfulness training called Mindful Recovery. In addition, he is a guest blogger on the Huffington Post.      In this episode, you will hear:   What is rape culture and who does it protect?  Roberts experience of defending his daughter for wearing “in appropriate” clothing in school   Why we shouldn’t protect anyone who has abused or raped women, even if they are close friends or relatives   Making sure we don’t invalidate people’s experiences   How men need to take more responsibility for their hormones and actions   How we can

  Welcome to episode 70 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Robert Kandell who speaks to me about non-monogamous relationships, the pros and cons of being in a non-monogamous relationship and advice on how to approach this topic with others.   Robert Kandell has 18 years’ experience in helping men find themselves. Through the practice of absolute approval in his teaching, he sees those parts that are hidden in their shadows. These are the fetishes, hurts, or hidden desires. He draws them out with a firm but loving hand so what was once hidden can now become internal power.   An expert in interpersonal communication and relationship, he has helped thousands of students become happier, have better relationships, more sex, and a more balanced, energized life. Working with Robert is not for the faint of heart. He has been described as “part football coach, part loving dad and part slightly crazed drill sergeant.  In this episode, you will hear:   How Robert became interested in this area   The pr

    Welcome to episode 69 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. M. Max Ezzati M.D., FACOG who speaks to us about the common misconceptions around fertility treatment, how struggles with infertility can have an impact on sexual relations and recommendations for couples currently going through this process.   Dr. Ezzati is a fertility specialist and reproductive surgeon at Palo Alto Medical Foundation, affiliated with Sutter Health in the Bay Area in Northern California. Dr. Ezzati received his medical degree from Tehran University in Tehran, Iran. After medical school, Dr. Ezzati moved to England to pursue specialty training in obstetrics and gynecology at the teaching hospitals of the University of Cambridge and the University of London, where he also served as a clinical lecturer.  In 2007, Dr. Ezzati moved to the United States and completed his internship and residency at Georgetown University Hospital/Washington Hospital Center, in Washington, D.C. Following his residency, he completed a fell

Welcome to episode 68 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Renelle E. Nelson who is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. She has been providing therapy for over 10 years. In this episode, she speaks to me about her thoughts on a listener’s email worrying her husband might be gay, discovering your own body and pleasures and actionable steps that can be taken to improve your sex life.   Renelle knows that you are facing a lot of challenges right now from dealing with Anxiety, Depression and even disbelief. You may also have been given an ultimatum in your relationship. Relax and take a deep breathe, now come in and let’s talk about your concerns. At Kaleidoscope, her passion and goal is to help you develop the skills that are needed to address the challenges that you are currently faced with. Whether you are dealing with communication issues, lack of desire or Infidelity, it is important for you to know you don’t have to go through this alone. If there is a pr

Welcome to episode 67 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Erica Garza who talks to us about her book Getting Off, the connection between sexual shame and addiction and the story of her recovery from sexual addiction  Born in Los Angeles to Mexican parents, Erica Garza has spent most of her adult life traveling and living abroad. She currently lives in Los Angeles with her husband and daughter. Erica’s essays have appeared in Salon, Narratively, BUST, Marie Claire, Good Housekeeping, Refinery29, Bustle, Alternet, Vivala, HelloGiggles, the Los Angeles Review, and Australia’s Mamamia and The Motherish.   She has appeared as a guest on BBC Radio 4, Thom Hartmann’s The Big Picture, and August McLaughlin’s Girl Boner Radio. In 2010, she earned her MFA in Creative Nonfiction at Columbia University. Her memoir on sex addiction, Getting Off, is her first book.   Her addiction follows and transforms with her in each point in her coming-of-age, which spans the transition from dial-up to digital in the 1990s and

EP66 - Joy of intimacy with Rabbi Manis Friedman   Welcome to episode 66 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Rabbi Manis Friedman who speaks to me about his book The Joy of Intimacy, the difference between sex and intimacy, how pornography has degraded intimacy and how giving each other space can improve intimacy.   World-renowned author, counselor, lecturer and philosopher, Rabbi Manis Friedman uses ancient wisdom and modern wit as he captivates audiences around the country and the world. He hosts his own critically acclaimed cable television series, Torah Forum with Manis Friedman, syndicated throughout North America. Over 150,000 copies of his provocative yet entertaining tapes, both audio and video have been sold.   Rabbi Friedman’s first book, Doesn’t Anyone Blush Anymore? published by Harper San Francisco in 1990, was widely praised and is currently in its fourth printing. Rabbi Friedman is a noted Biblical scholar, recognized for his sagacious grasp of Jewish mysticism and a professionally ran

Welcome to episode 65 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Debra Wickman M.D. who talks to us about holistic sexual medicine, the wheel of sexual experience and how it works and the best way to bring up sexual issues with your physician. Dr. Debra Wickman is a gynecologist with more than 20 years of experience. She completed a fellowship in Female Sexual Medicine at UCLA, and is also trained as a sexuality counsellor. Her model of diagnosis and treatment incorporates programs that uniquely educate, empower, and encourage personal growth, sexual discovery and healing for women. The programs look beyond a singular medical, pharmaceutical, or behavioural therapy, and instead integrate all approaches from a mind-body perspective. Central to her model is a holistic sexuality approach, using her training as a gynaecologist to link the physical aspect of healing with the mental, emotional and spiritual facets to treat the whole sexual being.            Her research interests include exploring effects of sexu

Welcome to episode 64 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Stacy who appeared in EP07 of the podcast. In this episode, she speaks to me about how our sexuality changes we get older, practices we can use to alleviate discomfort around sexuality as we age and how sex can be better when we're older as we've become more confident with ourselves and our identity.    Dr. Stacy got into the field of Clinical Sexology because of her passion for helping people better connect and experience the best sexual intimacy with themselves or with their partner(s).  She holds a Doctorate degree in Human Sexuality in addition to a Masters in Clinical Sexology and is a Certified Sex Coach. She is a member of WASC (World Association of Sex Coaching), including ACS (The American College of Sexologists) which shows that she has the earned top credentials in my field. She also has a BA in Psychology and is a Registered Diagnostic Medical Sonographer and Vascular Sonographer.   She has been a c

Welcome to episode 63 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Liz Dube who talks to us about painful sex during intercourse, potential causes that might lead women experience painful intercourse and the link between sex and power in sexual harassment.  Liz Dube – Is a Sex and Relationship Therapist, Speaker, and Blogger who is passionate about helping others increase intimacy and sexual satisfaction in their relationships. She loves speaking on any topic related to sex and intimacy and she has a private practice in Long Beach & Huntington Beach, CA where she helps men, women, and couples get empowered about sex. Men and women often have unrealistic expectations about sex that make them feel inadequate and create a performance focus to sex that leaves them bored, frustrated, and unsatisfied. Liz works with her clients to move past negative, destructive sexual messages, to stop tolerating mediocre sex, and get empowered and excited about having fun in the bedroom and achieving their full sexual potential

Welcome to episode 62 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Erika Miley, M.ed., LHMC . In this episode, Erika shares with us why many people experience shame around sexuality, and some of the signs that shame might be getting in the way of good sex.   Erika believes in the true power of compassion for the self and for others. Her aim is to be an ambassador of compassion for you and how you can become more compassionate with yourself.     She works with clients from adolescents to adults on various issues including depression, anxiety, sexuality, couples, relationship issues, families. She also works with those who are in monogamous relationships or non-monogamous relationships.    Erika prides herself in her ability to create a safe and welcoming environment for all of her clients. Erika's practice is a LGBTQIA friendly and kink friendly. She also offers coaching and encouragement for new therapists looking to start their own businesses.    She has specific training in sexuality issue

Welcome to episode 61 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Amy Marsh who speaks to us about using hypnosis for management of sexual concerns, the types of people who are a good fit for hypnosis being used around sexuality and five ways erotic hypnosis can help couples.   Amy Marsh, EdD, DHS, CH, CI is an AASECT-certified sexuality counselor and clinical sexologist and a certified hypnotist and hypnosis instructor. She holds Doctor of Education (EdD) and Doctor of Human Sexuality (DHS) degrees from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She is on the advisory board of the World Association of Sex Coaches and teaches two courses for SexCoach U. Her interest in sexuality and reproductive health dates from her teens, when she worked as a pregnancy counselor in a feminist free clinic.    As a hypnosis instructor, Dr. Marsh teaches a 150-hour, online course in Hypnosis for Sexual Concerns. She also teaches workshops to people who want to learn the gentle arts of romantic and erotic hypnosis

Welcome to episode 60 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is John Webber, LMFT. In this show, John talks about looking at relationships through the lens of evolutionary psychology, monogamous relationships v non- monogamous relationships and why many therapists don't talk about sexuality. John is an existential-humanistic therapist rooted in a psychodynamic approach. He believes that a great deal of the issues that bring individuals, couples and families into counseling stem from the need to regulate emotions, accept feelings and decide how they choose to meet them. He promotes the therapy room as a safe, non-judgmental place in which clients can discuss their thoughts and feelings and explore more healthy paths for their lives. John and his wife are raising three teens. This rich family experience, along with the challenges all families face, guides his work. He has enjoyed volunteering as an assistant scoutmaster (BSA), and as a coach of boy’s and girl’s baseball and softball teams. In his free time

Welcome to episode 59 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Steve Bodansky. In this episode, Dr. Bodansky talked about the concept of extended massive orgasm, the barriers for women around enjoying sexual intercourse and keeping the sexual spark alive when in a long-term relationship.   Steve Bodansky together with his wife Vera have been teachers of Sensuality for the past 35 years. They met in 1980 and were married in 1983. Steve received a Masters in Molecular Biology at SUNY at Albany in 1979 and a Doctorate at More University in Sensuality in 1992 with an emphasis on female orgasm. He first studied and then taught at More U. thru 1992. Vera started doing one-hour orgasms demonstrations in 1980 and also received her doctorate in Sensual studies in 1992.   Steve became certified to do these demonstrations in 1987. They developed another orgasm school in 1992 after leaving Morehouse called The Welcomed Consensus where they taught for 5 years and certified 5 new students into becoming teachers and d