My Life My Choice

Triage is a medical term that is used to prioritize the urgency in which a medical situations need to be dealt with. This entails visualizing what the end result will be if action isn’t taken based upon what is happening NOW.   Determination of urgency is measured using a prioritizing scale of 1- 3 or 3 - 1.  Requires immediate attention Can be delayed briefly Minimal intervention needed.   The term triage comes from the French verb trier, meaning to separate, sift or select.  Using this methodology you can apply the basic principle to your life and areas of your life that need to be looked at.  By creating your own personal triage, you can start looking at what needs to be addressed and then you get to choose in which order it’s done. Using the scale from 3 - 1 verses 1 - 3 closes the margin for error.  How?  By separating and selecting what’s not urgent, prevents you from being blindsided, by something you thought was a priority, only to find out later and to your detriment that it wasn’t. Ap

Saying NO can be the hardest two letter that you can ever utter, and the most empowering.  Saying no to your loved ones, to your children, husband and family and friends is monumentally challenging. Saying no to your employer and work colleagues is challenging also, but from a different stand point, but challenging none the less.  Saying no to people asking for charitable donations and no to the destitute, displaced and homeless asking for money, while standing on the corner with a hand written sign, has another set of challenges, all of which play havoc with your emotions.  Saying no to certain things can be a no-brainer.  No, you cannot have my left and right kidney!  No! I’m not giving you your car keys; you might not be aware of this, but you’re drunk. Within all of this, the irony here is, that the person you find it hardest to utter those two syllables to, and mean it, is yourself.  Saying no can hurt you too, because you know that it’s not what the other person wants to hear and they're hurting. Ther

This is a fact of life, which sometimes means, you have to implement with the ones that you love.  Within a relationship, family, friends etc sometimes, distance works best.  This should not be interpreted by you to mean that you won't and don't care.  Putting space, even mental space, in between you and people, places and things can sometimes be the wisest course of action for maintaining your sanity and health...and the relationship! Many people find this hard to do for a variety of reasons, however, I have found primarily, it’s because they feel guilty or a sense of duty that compels them to be up close and personal with whomever.   Sometimes you need to love the ones that you love from a distance it’s as simply complex as that. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and life coach and Olivia Lashley expressions coach and artist as we talk about loving the ones that we love from a distance.

"Why can't I be rich?  I hate having a cash flow problem" is something that many people have said in jest.  Although in jest,  the underlying spark that created the smoke screen was very, very, very real. The feeling of lack is real. If the law of attraction is right in I can have what I want.  I can manifest what I believe and dream of.  If the Universal Law is correct and all the other spiritual doctorines that are so casually bandied about, why do I have a constant cash flow problem? Understand why you don't have the funds that you are wanting is easy, it's what to do about it that may present a challenge. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and life coach and Olivia Lashley expressions coach and artist as we look at what you can do about creating the wealth that you are wanting.

“I didn’t think my marriage or my relationship would be like this or turned out like that,” are common phases that I hear, and, I hear them far too often.  Many people enter into an intimate long term, committed relationship expecting to experience, until death do they part, that first, “OMG! Sukie-Sukie now” high.  You know, that all encompassing zing you felt when you locked eyes  and lips on each other that set your pheromones pumping and hormones jumping.   It’s that unnamable thing that attracted you to him/her in the beginning.  Like all things in creation there are ebbs and flows and your relationship, whether married or committed, is not exempt from life’s natural momentum.  The name of this game is whether you can weather the storms and build the type of long term relationship you are wanting.  Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne as we do a little real talk about you, expectations and your committed relationships.

When life happens it can leave you feeling battered, bruised and to be totally frank, feeling broken. This can stem from divorce, betrayal, settling for less, separation, death, overweight, loss of income etc.  Note to self: There is a difference between feeling like it and it actually being that way.  Life does, in its infinite wisdom creates space so the soul can heal and know and expand and grow.  This is what life is all about. The experiences you create and what you do with those experiences.  Everything that happens for your life is supporting you in the creation or manifestation of what you say you are wanting. The day when you wake up asking yourself, “WTF has happened to my life” is when your sub conscious desires have come into the awakening of your full conscious mind.  Its arrival means it’s time for you to make a conscious choice about your life! Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne, Choice Expert and Life coach as we explore what this awakening means

Soul mate!  Having a clear understanding of what this term means can help put your life into perspective.  When thinking in terms of finding their soul mate, many people are looking for their dream version or mental movie of Mr. or Mrs. Perfect.  Ironically, for most, finding Mr. or Mrs. Perfect remains an elusive dream.  It can also mean that people settle for less than they are wanting in a relationship or that they choose to remain single.  From a spiritual standpoint would Mr. or Mrs. Perfect be your true soul mate?  And under your current belief system, who said that you are only eligible for one soul mate per life time?  Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and Olivia Lashley expression coach as we explore the meaning of soul mate and what that can mean for you.

Your internal dialog isn’t always kind when critiquing the many things that you feel have gone wrong or right in your life.   In fact, a lot of the time the dialog is downright negative, even when it’s couched with fake loving ownership.   Not only is this not helpful in finding solutions to your problems and answers to the question that you have about your life and where to go with your life, it also creates other things that we must deal with.  Namely lack, limitation, fear, illness, anger, stagnation etc.    Today’s show has been inspired by an article I recently read, written by Madison Sonnier: 7 Things to Remember When You Think You’re Not Good Enough.  In our show today we will be discussing 10 self coaching points that will remind you that you have been and always will be more than enough.  How to implement them and the benefits you may experience. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and life coach and Olivia Lashley expression coach and artist as we explore these 10 points.

Many people invest a lot of time, effort and money in building their retirement plan or 401K.  Many spend a lot of time systematically building for a future that will eventually cease to exist.  This is a wonderful thing to do, because if you are not worried about finances and the financial “how am I going to’s” in life, you are free you to explore another portfolio, which is equal in value to your current retirement plan or 401K.  Your spiritual portfolio is your exit strategy from this dimension called life.  Building it takes time, effort, strategic planning, understanding and of course the risks associated with your choices.  Building your spiritual portfolio is all about where you choose to place your energy once you've decided what you are wanting to experience.  And of course, the return on your investment, ROI that you are expecting. Choice=Risk=ROI.  Bring to your awareness that you can create your spiritual portfolio that is just as powerful as your financial portfolio is fun, exciting and rewarding

It has been written; it has been said; you have been told; it has been shown to you by you that “Ye are Gods.”  No matter the religion, the spiritual doctrine from fundamental to new thought, to Metaphysical to New Age there is one message that is the same.  And that message is that you are one with God or your chosen deity.  That fact, and it is a fact that you have come from or have been created by God or your chosen deity makes you a part of your creator.  Just like your parents and your children, or things that you have created, they are a part of you.  No they are not you, yet they are a part of you that can never be separated.  You are a part of that, which has created you, that which has supported you in coming into being or form.  And that gives you the right, to stand up and claim your heritage, and know that Ye Are Gods. Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and Olivia Lashley expression coach and artist for what will be a thought provoking episode of “My Life My Choice.” Psalm 82:6 “I have s

In today's show we will be discussing living your life from a spiritual, metaphysical or new thought perspective.  We’ll touch on many different subjects today: Energy, color, meditation, word power etc, all of which are invaluable for you having a greater understanding of who you are and what you are capable of achieving.   Life is a wondrous thing and to be lived to the fullest potential. Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and coach and Olivia Lashley expression coach and artist as we share our wisdom, views and understandings.

With everything that you have going on in your life, all the choices that you have to make, it’s understandable that you can feel like there are a billion spiraling  things you have to do.  And, in truth, there are.  Yet, you’re unsure about what it is that you must to do or how to do it or even if it makes sense to do it.  Your life choices are just like the pieces of a gigantic jig-saw puzzle.  Sometimes you have to slot the piece in to see if it fits and even then you have to be 100% sure that it does.  Because sometimes the piece will look like it fits perfectly, yet when you go to build on it you find that it’s not the right piece after all.  Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and life coach and Olivia Lashley, expression coach and artist as we take a look at life and how best to work the puzzle.

One of the most self destructive things you can do is to talk negatively to self about self, followed by other people, places and things.  Negative self talk is like gossip on steroids.  It’s toxic!  It’s poisonous and harmful in ways that most do not understand.  Your spoken word is all that you have.  You are the sum total of the words that you speak to self and the words that you speak to others.  Your words are creating your life.  While life may be called an illusion because it comes and goes, you, creating your illusion through the power of your spoken word is very real.  And to that end, it is imperative that you begin the process of controlling your internal dialog.  Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and life coach and Olivia Lashley expression coach and artist as we explore ways to stop negative self talk.

Food isn’t the only nourishment that is needed to keep the body healthy.  You also need to feed and nourish your mental, emotional and spiritual self.  This doesn’t only come from the eating of food, it comes from the thoughts we choose to think.  And yes, what we think is food and our thoughts feed our mental, our emotional and our spiritual self.  And, it also feeds the physical body.  Hence the sayings, “you are what you think!  And, you are what you eat!”  Mind food and body food only differ in vibrational frequency.  One is more dense then the other, yet still they are both food.  They both are designed to feed, support and sustain us.  So, what does it look like to feed and nourish you; not just the physical you! All of you!?  Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and life coach and Olivia Lashley expression coach and artist as we look at how to feed the mind, body, emotions and spiritual self.

Returns on investments (ROI) are amazing.  People play the stock market; they have 401K’s or RIA’s all under the guise of making more money than they started out with.   People gamble on anything from the fastest horse to win the Derby, to how small was the smallest recorded snow flake.  People purchase homes, cars, clothes, shoes, electronics, holidays/vacations, augmentation surgeries and on and on.   This risk taking associated with all the above mentioned and then some, is all done with an expectation of a profitable return on their initial investment.     What return on your investment for your life are you looking for?  So, my questions to you are simple this ”what risks are you prepared to take for your health, spiritual wealth or well being, peace of mind, to live your dream, to be the embodiment of your life’s purpose?”  What is the  life ROI that you are wanting? Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and life coach and Olivia Lashley expressions coach and artist as we look at life and ROI’s.

Everyone has an opinion about what you should or should not be doing.  What you could or could not have done and of course, what would or would not be best for you.  People are forever telling you that you must let go of this or that.  Or you should hold to this or that. They give this information to you freely, lovingly and sometimes, not so lovingly.  And yet, give it, they do.  And to what end?  How much do other people’s opinions of you matter and therefore influence the way in which you are choosing to live your life? Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and life coach and Olivia Lashley expressions coach and artist as we discuss opinions and the role they play in your life.

Death is something that we all will experience, whether it is a loved one, friend, acquaintance, colleague or your chosen icon.  When they make their transition it impacts your life in a major way, simply, because you must transition too.  And transition can be painful, especially when we are speaking about the permanency of death and how it changes our view of life.  So what do you do with the pain and sorrow when it seems to overwhelm you?  Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and life coach and Olivia Lashley expression coach and artist as we look at the sensitive subject of death, pain and what we can do to support ourselves.

When your life looks and feels like a hurricane, tsunami, tornado and an earthquake has simultaneously ripped through it, you may be asking yourself, “Why does everything in my life go wrong?  This pertains to relationships, health, finances, home, job, weather, politics, global warming, your car and even the dog…everything.  “Why does everything in my life go wrong? is a fair question to ask yourself.  However, that’s not the question that will give you the answers to move forward in your life.  Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and life coach and Olivia Lashley expression coach and artist as we explore what this may mean and the best questions to ask yourself.

Psst!  Ladies! Today’s show is for you. It amazes me, every time I use this phrase Pull Up Your Big Girl Panties the response I get is a little laugh, or a big laugh, a smile , a nodding of the head or a combination of all the above.  The one thing all responses have in common is this; all the women understand the true meaning behind the phrase, Pull Up Your Big Girl Panties.  I can literally hear and visually see their brains engaging giving themselves, as Coach Jesse would say, “a check up from the neck up!”  Pull Up Your Big Girl Panties is a supportive life coaching platform for women who are serious about making changes, permanent and positive changes in their lives…NOW!  Bottom line, it’s knowing how to convert the BS in your life into rich fertilizer to get what you want and we are going to show you how. Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and life coach and Olivia Lashley expression coach and artist as we talk about what this supportive life coaching platform offers women wanting to make chang

It’s really easy to become someone else’s good or bad opinion of you.  Ouch! You may not think so, but we do this all the time.  And we do this because we want to belong, because we are seeking approval, because we don’t know what we are wanting for self or we don’t know how to manifest what we want. And that is a dangerous place to be in, as it leaves you open and vulnerable to creating in your life things that you don’t want.  Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and life coach and Olivia Lashley expression coach and artist as we explore this subject.