Meg-john And Justin

We chatted a bit about what's been going on for us personally this year. Then we went through some of the podcasts titles we've done this year (both here and on our Patreon)to see whether we have taken our own advice or not. After that we chatted about what we'd like to do with the podcast and our plans for 2020. Here are a couple of our other New Year's Eve related podcasts https://soundcloud.com/megjohnjustin/are-you-struggling-with-new-years-resolutions https://soundcloud.com/megjohnjustin/we-watch-when-harry-met-sally And don't forget that every other podcast is for Patrons. You can subscribe to these from just $1 per month at patreon.com/megjohnandjustin Happy New Year! Meg-John and Justin xxx

This week on the podcast we spoke about our feelings after the recent UK election, and about how people might cope in the aftermath of cultural events like this which can leave us feeling very precarious indeed.

In this show we talked about how you can be accountable when a friend or other person in your life comes to you to say that they’ve been hurt in some way by your behaviour or choices. Head to our website https://megjohnandjustin.com/relationships/how-to-be-accountable for a blog post with all the links

This week on the podcast we addressed a listener’s question about how we might go about knowing whether we are on the asexuality spectrum or whether our lack of sexual attraction is due to trauma in our life which perhaps we should address. See the full blog post and further links at our website megjohnandjustin.com

Back in June we did a couple of episodes about how to make friends. We thought we’d follow up with one for our Patrons about being intentional in ongoing friendships, and one for everyone about friendship endings.

This time on the podcast Meg-John interviewed Elsie Whittington. Elsie is a researcher at Manchester Met Uni who did her PhD on consent and studies youth sexuality. For the podcast episode Elsie and MJ decided to focus on awkwardness because this was such a big theme in Elsie’s research that it ended up being a whole chapter of her thesis.

This week on Meg-John & Justin we podcasted about when to go to therapy. We covered the signs that therapy might be useful, what to expect from therapy, what it opens up and closes down, and how to engage with therapy once you get there. We’re using ‘therapy’ here to cover therapy, counselling, coaching, and these kinds of related practices where you sit with somebody - usually one-to-one - and talk about your life.

This podcast we cover what journaling is, why people might do it as a form of self-care or self-reflection, and the different ways you can go about it. https://megjohnandjustin.com/you/journaling/

We chat about how to break up the band and how to manage endings. We also chat about our favourite band break ups in history. (Sorry about the annoying buzzing noise during it. That was Justin's neighbour's buzzer.)

The last two weeks on the podcast we tackled the subject of self-love, or loving ourselves. Last week we focused on what self-love means, why we often struggle to do it, and why it’s important. This week we talk about how you can go about bringing self-love into your life. More at our website https://megjohnandjustin.com/you/self-love/ If you are missing our weekly podcasts, you need to sign up to our Patreon. Every other podcast will be for subscribers only and our tiers start at $1 http://www.patreon.com/megjohnandjustin The more of you subscribe, the more we can do with our podcasts.

The next two weeks on the podcast we tackle the subject of self-love, or loving ourselves. This week we focus on what it means, why we often struggle to do it, and why it’s important. Next week we talk about how you can go about bringing self-love into your life. For the blog head to our website megjohnandjustin.com If you are wondering why we're quieter than usual on this feed, it's because we have another podcast feed for our Patrons. To subscribe to that (based on your ability to pay) head to patreon.com/megjohnandjustin MJ&J

This is a brief preview of our Four Weddings and a Funeral watch along episode. Available now in full from our new(and affordable)Patreon patreon.com/megjohnandjustin Thanks!

Sex discrepancies or sexual incompatibility refers to having different levels of desire in a relationship: one person wanting sex more or less than the other/s. It can be about wanting different types of sex too - which is connected, but we’re focusing more on levels of desire for sex in this podcast. Head to our website for a really excellent blog on this too.

(We recorded this a few weeks ago - in a pub) This week on the podcast we unpack NRE: How it differs from a crush, what it closes down, and what it might open up - if we think about it differently. NRE refers to the kinds of excited, fizzy, loved-up, kiddy, somewhat obsessed, feelings we can have at the start of a relationship: usually a romantic and/or erotic relationship. It’s similar to the ‘honeymoon period’: the sense that the early days of a relationship might be particularly loving, romantic, passionate, and easy, compared to the rest. ‘Falling in love’ might capture something similar to NRE: the idea it is a crazy time of hot, rollercoaster emotions. Here's the excellent blog post for it https://megjohnandjustin.com/relationships/new-relationship-energy-nre/

And here's the second part of our 'How to Make Friends' podcast. In this one we try to be a bit more practical and reflect on some of the things we can do to make friends and to make it easier for others to do the same. We chat a bit about our origin story too. For more check out the blog https://megjohnandjustin.com/relationships/how-make-friends/

How to make friends: Part 1, why it’s tricky [I reuploaded this episode because the last two minutes were cut off. Sorry about that. Justin] This is a two-parter podcast and blog post about how to make friends. We realise at Meg-John & Justin we often follow a similar structure whatever we’re talking about which goes something like this: This stuff is really hard because wider culture gives us all the wrong messages about it and neoliberal capitalism likes us to individualise all our struggles and think there’s something wrong with us So finding it super tough is 100% understandable and normal and don’t give yourself a hard time Here’s how you might do this thing in a different way to normative culture which could work better Here’s some things to watch out for And by the way remember that it’s super hard and understandable that you don’t find it easy or get it ‘right’ all the time. Go gently with yourself So this podcast goes something like… Part 1 Making friends is really hard because there’s no scrip

We went to see the Kiss My Genders art exhibition at London's Hayward Gallery in the Southbank Centre last Friday and we had a chat about what we thought about it. We think it's an important show and well worth seeing. More details about it here https://www.southbankcentre.co.uk/whats-on/130821-kiss-my-genders-2019

Following from our ‘horny all the time’ podcast, this podcast explores what we might do if we are wanting to be more horny. Read more about this at our blog https://megjohnandjustin.com/sex/wanting-to-be-more-horny/

This time on the podcast we talked about an emotion that doesn’t get much coverage: joy. In wider culture there’s often a sense that it’s only okay to experience and express ‘positive’ emotions like happiness and joy (although we don’t spend a lot of time thinking critically about these feelings). That’s why when people ask how we are the default response is often something like ‘good’, ‘fine’ or ‘mustn’t grumble’. Visit megjohnandjustin.com for the blogpost.

This episode we responded to a listener question about PDAs. They were particularly concerned about how to navigate PDAs in a non-monogamous relationship: to what extent is it acceptable for their partner to be physically affectionate with another partner in a social situation when they are also around? Check out the website for a blog post about this too