Coming Back: Conversations On Life After Loss

After "unhitching" herself from her high-conflict marriage, Sunny Joy McMillan ran... FAR. After three years of running, she was hit with massive grief for her ex-husband and the life she no longer lived. We're talking about the losses we create ourselves (like chosen breakups, moves, and job changes) and how you can never really outrun grief. Plus, she's offering all of my Grief Growers a FREE copy of her book, Unhitched: Unlock Your Courage and Clarity and Unstick Your Bad Marriage. Also on the show this week, I'm letting you know it's okay to grieve the people, places, and things that are wrong for you. Sunny Joy McMillan's work and FREE book: http://www.goldenoversoul.com/ Join me live on Facebook Monday 5/28 at 1:00 Central. Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher http://bit.ly/2m08eJr YouTube http://bit.ly/2m1JWil GooglePlay http://bit.ly/2lWQmiG TuneIn http://bit.ly/2F469Fl Cont

Coming Back turns 1! I'm celebrating my first year as a podcaster and inviting you to my exclusive, hour-long Facebook LIVE party on Wednesday, 5/16 in The Grief Growers' Garden. Join me live on Facebook Wednesday, 5/16 at 7:30pm Central in The Grief Growers' Garden: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thegriefgrowersgarden/ Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher http://bit.ly/2m08eJr YouTube http://bit.ly/2m1JWil GooglePlay http://bit.ly/2lWQmiG TuneIn http://bit.ly/2F469Fl Continue the conversation on grief and loss in my private Facebook group, The Grief Growers' Garden: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thegriefgrowersgarden/ To ask a question or leave a comment for a future show, leave a voicemail at 312.725.3043 or email shelby@shelbyforsythia.com, subject line, "Podcast." Because even through grief, we are growing. http://www.shelbyforsythia.com/

Julia Samuel was fed up with people mentally and emotionally attacking themselves in midst of their grief. So she wrote Grief Works, a book that not only normalizes grief, but reminds us that we all grieve differently. This week, we're talking about the uniqueness of English grief, the reality of feeling grief as an energy in our bodies, and Julia's Pillars of Strength that hold up grievers in the midst of the storm. Also on the show, I'm covering a listener request: anticipatory grief—grieving before a loss occurs. Julia Samuel's work and book: https://griefworks.co.uk/ Join me live on Facebook Monday 5/14 at 1:00 Central. Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher http://bit.ly/2m08eJr YouTube http://bit.ly/2m1JWil GooglePlay http://bit.ly/2lWQmiG TuneIn http://bit.ly/2F469Fl Continue the conversation on grief and loss in my private Facebook group, The Grief Growers' Garden: https://www

An everyday activity turned into a nightmare for Megan Devine who watched her partner, Matt, drown during one of their usual "quick dips" in the river. Her community, Refuge In Grief, and new book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief & Loss in a Culture that Doesn’t Understand, are powerful beacons for grieving hearts. We're talking about the librarians that live in our brains, the importance of having a will, and the switch from "doing for" a loved one versus "doing in honor" of a loved one. Also on the show, I'm giving you permission to forget in the aftermath of loss. Megan Devine's work and book: http://www.refugeingrief.com/ Join me live on Facebook Monday 5/7 at 1:00 Central. Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher http://bit.ly/2m08eJr YouTube http://bit.ly/2m1JWil GooglePlay http://bit.ly/2lWQmiG TuneIn http://bit.ly/2F469Fl Continue the conversation on grief and loss

Funeral Director Caleb Wilde has seen beauty in death. This week, he shares how he would like to die. Caleb Wilde's work: https://www.calebwilde.com/ Season 3 of Coming Back returns May 2, 2018! In the meantime... Enter my giveaway to win two copies of The Grief Recovery Method Handbook® by supporting Coming Back on Patreon. Winner will be selected at random from the list of all active patrons as of 4/30/2018. Winner will receive two paperback copies of The Grief Recovery Method Handbook, a set of three Coming Back podcast stickers, and a handwritten thank you note. Make your pledge here: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Ask Me Anything LIVE on Google Hangouts Sunday 4/29 at 7:00 Central when you pledge $33/month or more on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: iTunes https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher http://bit.ly/2m08eJr YouTube http://bit.ly/2m1JWil GooglePlay http://bit.ly/2lWQmiG TuneIn http://bit.ly/2F469Fl Continue the conversation on gri

Kerry Egan believes our love for deceased loved ones doesn't end—it changes. Do you agree? Kerry Egan's work: http://kerryegan.com/ Season 3 of Coming Back returns May 2, 2018! In the meantime...  Enter my giveaway to win two copies of The Grief Recovery Method Handbook® by supporting Coming Back on Patreon. Winner will be selected at random from the list of all active patrons as of 4/30/2018. Winner will receive two paperback copies of The Grief Recovery Method Handbook, a set of three Coming Back podcast stickers, and a handwritten thank you note. Make your pledge here: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia FREE! Join me LIVE in Seattle for a Coming Back podcast meetup Monday 4/23 from 4:00-6:00 Pacific on the 7th floor patio of the Fourth and Madison Building: https://www.facebook.com/events/1766567910029917/ Ask Me Anything LIVE on Google Hangouts Sunday 4/29 at 7:00 Central when you pledge $33/month or more on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: iTunes https://apple.co/2CMqhh

Joshua Black talks about the healing power of bringing grief dreams to the masses. Joshua Black's work: http://www.griefdreams.ca/ Season 3 of Coming Back returns May 2, 2018! In the meantime...  Enter my giveaway to win two copies of The Grief Recovery Method Handbook® by supporting Coming Back on Patreon. Winner will be selected at random from the list of all active patrons as of 4/30/2018. Winner will receive two paperback copies of The Grief Recovery Method Handbook, a set of three Coming Back podcast stickers, and a handwritten thank you note. Make your pledge here: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia FREE! Join me LIVE in Seattle for a Coming Back podcast meetup Monday 4/23 from 4:00-6:00 Pacific on the 7th floor patio of the Fourth and Madison Building: https://www.facebook.com/events/1766567910029917/ Ask Me Anything LIVE on Google Hangouts Sunday 4/29 at 7:00 Central when you pledge $33/month or more on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: iTunes https://apple.co/2CMqhhE

Candyce Ossefort-Russell shares her favorite book for starting conversations about death and dying. Candyce Ossefort-Russell's work and free grief e-book: http://www.deepcenterforgrowth.com/candyce-counseling/ Season 3 of Coming Back returns May 2, 2018! In the meantime... Enter my giveaway to win two copies of The Grief Recovery Method Handbook® by supporting Coming Back on Patreon. Winner will be selected at random from the list of all active patrons as of 4/30/2018. Winner will receive two paperback copies of The Grief Recovery Method Handbook, a set of three Coming Back podcast stickers, and a handwritten thank you note. Make your pledge here: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia FREE! Join me LIVE in Seattle for a Coming Back podcast meetup Monday 4/23 from 4:00-6:00 Pacific on the 7th floor patio of the Fourth and Madison Building: https://www.facebook.com/events/1766567910029917/ Ask Me Anything LIVE on Google Hangouts Sunday 4/29 at 7:00 Central when you pledge $33/month or more on Patreon! https:

Darwyn Dave finds comfort in the physical objects his father left behind. Darwyn Dave's work: http://www.dealingwithmygrief.com/ Season 3 of Coming Back returns May 2, 2018! In the meantime...  Enter my giveaway to win two copies of The Grief Recovery Method Handbook® by supporting Coming Back on Patreon. Winner will be selected at random from the list of all active patrons as of 4/30/2018. Winner will receive two paperback copies of The Grief Recovery Method Handbook, a set of three Coming Back podcast stickers, and a handwritten thank you note. Make your pledge here: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia FREE! Watch me LIVE with Sharon Ehlers on Grief and Healing Corner on Tuesday 4/3 at 8:30 Central: https://www.facebook.com/griefreiki/ FREE! Join me LIVE in Seattle for a Coming Back podcast meetup Monday 4/23 from 4:00-6:00 Pacific on the 7th floor patio of the Fourth and Madison Building: https://www.facebook.com/events/1766567910029917/ Ask Me Anything LIVE on Google Hangouts Sunday 4/29 at 7:00 Cent

It's the end of Season 2 of Coming Back! I'm leaving you with my take on this season's "theme" and lots of exciting upcoming events, including a giveaway of two copies of The Grief Recovery Method® Handbook. Enter the giveaway by supporting Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Winner will be selected at random from the list of all active patrons as of 4/30/2018. Winner will receive two paperback copies of The Grief Recovery Method® Handbook, a set of three Coming Back themed stickers, and a handwritten thank you note. Ask Me Anything LIVE on Google Hangouts Sunday 3/25 at 8:00 Central and Sunday 4/29 at 7:00 Central when you pledge $33/month or more on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia FREE! Watch me LIVE with Sharon Ehlers on Grief and Healing Corner on Tuesday 4/3 at 8:30 Central: https://www.facebook.com/griefreiki/ FREE! Join me LIVE in Seattle for a Coming Back listeners meetup 4/23 from 4:00-6:00 Pacific on the 7th floor patio of the Fourth and Madison Building:

Candyce Ossefort-Russell went from having a healthy husband to a dead husband in a matter of two months. A bizarre heart-consuming virus was at the root of it all, taking Candyce's husband out of her life forever on Valentine's Day, 1992. Her loss drove her to become a therapist where she sits with others in their darkness and does a boatload of research on the biological science of grief and grieving. This week we're doling out facts for grievers and the people who love them, and talking about handling a grief anniversary on Valentine's Day. Also on the show, I'm talking about recapturing your creativity after a loss. Candyce Ossefort-Russell's work and free grief e-book: http://www.deepcenterforgrowth.com/candyce-counseling/ Join me live on Facebook Monday 3/19 at 1:00 Central. Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: iTunes https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher http://bit.ly/2m08eJr YouTube http://bit.ly/2m1JWil GooglePlay http://bit.ly

Darwyn Dave has been dealing with his grief since the age of 10, when his father was shot and killed in the convenience store that he owned and ran. Grief has given Darwyn lots of lenses on life enabling him to see many, many sides to topics like technology, family history, and gun violence. Today we're talking about how grief gives us perspective... and keeps giving us perspective for the rest of our lives. Also on the show, I'm talking about how acknowledgment is not enough—we must take action in order to grow from our grief. Darwyn Dave's work: http://www.dealingwithmygrief.com/ Join me live on Facebook Monday 3/12 at 1:00 Central. Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: iTunes https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher http://bit.ly/2m08eJr YouTube http://bit.ly/2m1JWil GooglePlay http://bit.ly/2lWQmiG TuneIn http://bit.ly/2F469Fl Continue the conversation on grief and loss in my private Facebook group, The Grief Growers' Garden: https://

It's so important to feel our shit. But Katie Scoggins had no idea HOW important until multiple car accidents gave her two concussions and a permanently altered brain. We're talking about how hard it is to let go of our "always in control" mentality and why we need to break down our resistance to difficult, raw, and unexpected emotions. Also this week, I'm doing my most swear-word-filled top of the show yet, called "I'm an Asshole; You're an Asshole: Forming Proper Apologies in Grief." Katie Scoggins's work: http://www.katiescoggins.com/ Join me live on Facebook Monday 3/5 at 1:00 Central. Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: iTunes https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher http://bit.ly/2m08eJr YouTube http://bit.ly/2m1JWil GooglePlay http://bit.ly/2lWQmiG TuneIn http://bit.ly/2F469Fl Continue the conversation on grief and loss in my private Facebook group, The Grief Growers' Garden: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thegriefgrowersgarden/

Hospice chaplain and author Kerry Egan lost her father... and her mind. Her dad's loss led her journeying, and she hiked the Camino de Santiago. Her postpartum psychotic break led her inward, where she learned powerful lessons about what's real and what isn't—and why we should validate others' experiences no matter what we believe. Both losses cultivated her ability to be present with others' pain in her work as a hospice chaplain and called her to write two books: Fumbling and On Living. Also on the show, I'm reading a listener email about the importance of letting grievers make their own meaning and finding grief motifs on TV. Ask Me Anything LIVE on Google Hangouts Monday 2/26 at 8:00 Central when you pledge $33/month or more on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Kerry Egan's work: http://kerryegan.com/ Join me live on Facebook Monday 2/26 at 1:00 Central. Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: iTunes https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.f

Caleb Wilde is not your average undertaker. In fact, he's a sixth-generation funeral director who uses his innate introversion, empathy, and fascination with theology to "be the heart when hearts are broken." He relays his observations in his new book, Confessions of a Funeral Director. We're talking about how capitalism makes us "death amateurs," how grief is a form of worship, and how Caleb feels about bringing his son to work. Also on today's show, I'm talking about crafting an escape plan for your grief. Ask Me Anything LIVE on Google Hangouts Monday 2/26 at 8:00 Central when you pledge $33/month or more on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Caleb Wilde's work: https://www.calebwilde.com/ Join me live on Facebook Monday 2/19 at 1:00 Central. Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: iTunes https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher http://bit.ly/2m08eJr YouTube http://bit.ly/2m1JWil GooglePlay http://bit.ly/2lWQmiG TuneIn http:

Karin Holmes miscarried her baby after just six and a half weeks of pregnancy. Her miscarriage and the trauma of a necessary D&C plunged her into the crashing, lonely isolation of an invisible loss where she blamed herself for failing her baby and couldn't figure out how she was supposed to grieve. She's speaking on the uniqueness of miscarriage, what NOT to say to a mother who's miscarried, and her book, How to Survive a Miscarriage. Also this week, I'm talking about how once we grieve, we can't un-grieve... and the idea of grieving with your heart open. My interview with Darwyn M. Dave on Dealing With My Grief Podcast: http://www.dealingwithmygrief.com/podcast/episode-98 Karin Holmes's work: https://karinholmes.com/ Sands Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Newborn Death Support: http://www.sands.org.au/ Join me live on Facebook Monday 2/12 at 1:00 Central. Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: iTunes https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitche

Kimberly Wilson's first major loss occurred in 2012 when her beloved Gramma died. But she was brought to her knees three years later, with the loss of her dog, Louis the Pug. We're talking a lot about importance—the importance of taking time and space to process loss, the importance of memorializing and remembering the ones we love, and the importance of taking REALLY good care of yourself in the midst of grief. Also on the show, I'm highlighting how pet loss is different from—and sometimes more heartbreaking than—the loss of our human relationships. The Grief Recovery Method for Pet Loss: https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/grief-support-groups The Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement: https://www.aplb.org/ Kimberly Wilson's work: http://www.kimberlywilson.com/ Tranquilosophy: Grieving Mindfully: http://www.kimberlywilson.com/mindfulness/tranquilosophy-grieving-mindfully/ Loving Le Pug: Tools for Grief: http://www.kimberlywilson.com/well-being/loving-le-pug-tools-for-grief/ Join me live on Facebook Mon

Fellow grief millennial Morgan Brown was frustrated with people's responses to her grief over her mom's sudden death. She channeled her frustration into regular blog posts that became the foundation for Death Dialogue—her ongoing art installations, workshops, and conversations about death with people who are still living... and her encouragement of conversations on life with those who have died. We're talking about her popular touring phone booth project called "Conversations I Wish I Had" and how frustration with others' grief coping skills can be channeled into fuel to connect with others. Also this week, I'm talking about giving ourselves permission to miss someone no matter how long they've been gone, how long your relationship lasted, or the type of relationship you had. Morgan Brown's work: https://www.deathdialogue.com/ Join me live on Facebook Monday 1/29 at 1:00 Central. Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: iTunes https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://

Joshua Black's life changed forever after a dream of his departed father. He is now a leading researcher on grief dreams, something many grievers have but don't talk about. We're upacking his turbulent relationship with his father, how he views death after having grief dreams, and touching on what all of us can do to become better dreamers. Also on the show, I'm talking about the totally normal phenomenon of becoming aware of your own mortality after a loved one dies. Ask Me Anything LIVE on Google Hangouts Sunday 1/21 at 7:00 Central when you pledge $33/month or more on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Joshua Black's work and my guest appearance on Grief Dreams Podcast: http://www.griefdreams.ca/ & https://griefdreamspodcast.podbean.com/e/episode-52-shelby-forsythia/ Join me live on Facebook Monday 1/22 at 1:00 Central. Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: iTunes https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher http://bit.ly

Harriet Cabelly's dream of the perfect child was shattered when her daughter was diagnosed with neurological deficits at just nine months old. "Why me?" became her mantra. Another medical crisis in her daughter's life challenged Harriet to practice exercising her muscle of resilience and that defining moment in her life laid the foundation for her new book, Living Well Despite Adversity. Also on the show, I answer a listener question about how age determines how we grieve and how much about death and loss we can comprehend as children. The Dougy Center's Guide, "Developmental Responses to Grief": http://bit.ly/2Fn1Sgd When Children Grieve book: http://bit.ly/2EvTTw9 Harriet Cabelly's work: http://rebuildlifenow.com/ Join me live on Facebook Monday 1/15 at 1:00 Central. Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher http://bit.ly/2m08eJr YouTube http://bit.ly/2m1JWil GooglePlay http://bit.ly/2l