Coming Back: Conversations On Life After Loss

Cathy Cheshire wants you to change your mind, AKA the thoughts you think about grief. This week, we're talking about the losses that challenged her to develop mindfulness, including the deaths of her two sons, and the belief that grievers can heal themselves when given the right tools to do so. We're covering what it feels like to be punished for telling the truth about your loss, learning to love the people who could not love us, and how grief work is essentially a practice of "giving people back to themselves." Also this week, I'm talking about the role of intuition in grief and updating you on a recent interview I did. Receive more information on the 2019 Bereavement Cruise when you fill out this form: http://www.comingbackcruise.com Cathy Cheshire's work: https://cathycheshire.com/ Support Coming Back on Patreon and join me for this month's LIVE Google Hangout: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher http://bit.ly

Seven years of non-stop losses drove Annah Elizabeth to ask, "What makes some people resilient and others crumble under the weight of grief?" That questioning led her to uncover her system of recovering from grief, The Five Facets of Healing. Today we're talking about how we spend the rest of our lives finding resolution for grief, how the second and third year of loss tend to be the hardest to cope with, and how not believing you're healing is a weird part of the healing process. Also this week, I'm announcing my upcoming Patreon Hangout and reserving some time to honor an amazing woman. Receive more information on the 2019 Bereavement Cruise when you fill out this form: http://www.comingbackcruise.com Listen to Darwyn Dave's tribute to his mom on Dealing with My Grief here: http://www.dealingwithmygrief.com/podcast/episode-129 Annah Elizabeth's work: http://www.annahelizabeth.com/ Support Coming Back on Patreon and join me for this month's LIVE Google Hangout: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscri

A suicide attempt was Barbara J. Hopkinson's wake-up call. In a brief moment, she realized she had a choice to make: live and dwell in her losses or choose the long, hard, road of resilience. This week, we're talking about Barbara's wide array of losses including her 21-year-old son, Brent, her 30-year marriage, and her right eye. We're covering how a lifetime of losses can all feel and look different, how debilitating grief can be, and how coming back is ultimately a choice. Also this week, I'm sharing the introduction of my upcoming book with my private Facebook group Permission to Grieve Launch Team—are you a part of it? Membership closes September 30. Join Permission to Grieve Launch Team on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ptglaunchteam Like Legacy.com's Facebook page to watch my live recap of Sorry for Your Loss: https://www.facebook.com/Legacycom Receive more information on the 2019 Bereavement Cruise when you fill out this form: http://www.comingbackcruise.com Barbara J. Hopkinson's work: htt

Sharon Ehlers has a logical mind, one that made her skeptical of energy work and healing when it crossed her path in the aftermath of two devastating losses by suicide. Now, eight years later, she owns and operates Grief Reiki, a business that helps people cope with the energy of grief—an energy that affects the body, mind, and spirit. Today we're talking about what Reiki is and how it can help a grieving heart, how Sharon is bringing Reiki on the 2019 Bereavement Cruise, and what skeptics can do to open themselves up to alternative practices like Reiki. Also this week, I'm sharing a gift: my private Spotify playlist for writing, meditation, and grief. Join Permission to Grieve Launch Team on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ptglaunchteam Listen to my writing playlist here: https://spoti.fi/2NSBiCQ Like Legacy.com's Facebook page to watch my live recap of Sorry for Your Loss: https://www.facebook.com/Legacycom Receive more information on the 2019 Bereavement Cruise when you fill out this form: http:/

Diane Speer was nine when she was cornered at a memorial dinner by her uncle, who unloaded the traumatic grief of losing his son onto her. From that day on, she was terrified of wakes and funerals. Today, the death her grandmother, the death of her mom, and three near-death experiences (NDEs) have cracked her open to her calling: helping people "transition" from life to death through mindfulness. We're talking about how grief makes us comfortable with death and loss, the role of intuition in grief, and how we can incorporate more self-care into our grief journey. Also this week, I'm watching, following, and reviewing the new Facebook Watch series about a young widow Sorry for Your Loss. Join Permission to Grieve Launch Team on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ptglaunchteam Like Legacy.com's Facebook page to watch my live recap of Sorry for Your Loss: https://www.facebook.com/Legacycom Receive more information on the 2019 Bereavement Cruise when you fill out this form: http://www.comingbackcruise.com

Linda Findlay's daughter, Aubrie, lived for exactly two hours and nine minutes. Aubrie's time on the earth was incredibly short but the impact she left on Linda was profound. What began as a support group to heal from her devastating loss morphed into an aftercare service for funeral homes and a series of books, followed by Linda's biggest undertaking yet—the Bereavement Cruise, now in its third year. She's on a mission to show grievers that joy and grief can coexist. Today we're talking about how rituals change as years go by, how important it is to acknowledge our losses (even when no one else will), and how the Bereavement Cruise got its start! Also on the show, I'm sharing my biggest project to date—a book called Permission to Grieve. Join Permission to Grieve Launch Team on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1742657842450595/ Receive more information on the 2019 Bereavement Cruise when you fill out this form: http://www.comingbackcruise.com Linda Findlay's work: https://www.mourningdiscoveries.com

I asked breakup coach Chelsea Leigh Trescott a hot button question: "Do you believe people are better off alone?" Chelsea Leigh Trescott's work and podcast: http://breakupward.com/ Season 4 of Coming Back premieres next week on September 5, 2018! In the meantime... Enter my giveaway to win a copy of Grief Works and You Are Not Alone by supporting Coming Back on Patreon. Winner will be selected at random from the list of all active patrons as of 8/31/2018. Winner will receive a copy of Grief Works by Julia Samuel and You Are Not Alone by Debbie Augenthaler, a set of three Coming Back podcast stickers, and a handwritten thank you note. Make your pledge here: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Receive more information on the 2019 Bereavement Cruise when you fill out this form: http://www.comingbackcruise.com Subscribe: Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher http://bit.ly/2m08eJr YouTube http://bit.ly/2m1JWil GooglePlay http://bit.ly/2lWQmiG TuneIn http://bit.ly/2

Sometimes it's the little things we miss the most. This week, Michele Neff Hernandez talks about why she misses her husband, Phil, every time it rains. Michele Neff Hernandez's work: https://www.soaringspirits.org/ Camp Widow: https://www.campwidow.org/ Season 4 of Coming Back premieres September 5, 2018! In the meantime... Enter my giveaway to win a copy of Grief Works and You Are Not Alone by supporting Coming Back on Patreon. Winner will be selected at random from the list of all active patrons as of 8/31/2018. Winner will receive a copy of Grief Works by Julia Samuel and You Are Not Alone by Debbie Augenthaler, a set of three Coming Back podcast stickers, and a handwritten thank you note. Make your pledge here: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Ask Me Anything LIVE on Google Hangouts Monday 8/27 at 7:00 Central when you pledge $33/month or more on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Receive more information on the 2019 Bereavement Cruise when you fill out this form: http://www.comingba

Music isn't created in a bubble. Hear how Ruth Ungar drew spiritual inspiration from Dolly Parton's "Coat of Many Colors." Ruth Ungar's music + The Mammals: http://www.themammals.love/ Season 4 of Coming Back premieres September 5, 2018! In the meantime... Enter my giveaway to win a copy of Grief Works and You Are Not Alone by supporting Coming Back on Patreon. Winner will be selected at random from the list of all active patrons as of 8/31/2018. Winner will receive a copy of Grief Works by Julia Samuel and You Are Not Alone by Debbie Augenthaler, a set of three Coming Back podcast stickers, and a handwritten thank you note. Make your pledge here: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Ask Me Anything LIVE on Google Hangouts Monday 8/27 at 7:00 Central when you pledge $33/month or more on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Receive more information on the 2019 Bereavement Cruise when you fill out this form: http://www.comingbackcruise.com Subscribe: Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spo

Working with grief and death calls for a day off. Here's what doggy caretaker Kim Skarritt would do with a day to herself. Kim Skarritt and Silver Muzzle Cottage: http://silvermuzzlecottage.com/ Season 4 of Coming Back premieres September 5, 2018! In the meantime... Enter my giveaway to win a copy of Grief Works and You Are Not Alone by supporting Coming Back on Patreon. Winner will be selected at random from the list of all active patrons as of 8/31/2018. Winner will receive a copy of Grief Works by Julia Samuel and You Are Not Alone by Debbie Augenthaler, a set of three Coming Back podcast stickers, and a handwritten thank you note. Make your pledge here: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Ask Me Anything LIVE on Google Hangouts Monday 8/27 at 7:00 Central when you pledge $33/month or more on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Receive more information on the 2019 Bereavement Cruise when you fill out this form: http://www.comingbackcruise.com Subscribe: Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/2

When Debbie Augenthaler's husband died, his friends asked to do something special to honor him. Debbie Augenthaler's work and book: http://www.debbieaugenthaler.com/ Season 4 of Coming Back premieres September 5, 2018! In the meantime... Enter my giveaway to win a copy of Grief Works and You Are Not Alone by supporting Coming Back on Patreon. Winner will be selected at random from the list of all active patrons as of 8/31/2018. Winner will receive a copy of Grief Works by Julia Samuel and You Are Not Alone by Debbie Augenthaler, a set of three Coming Back podcast stickers, and a handwritten thank you note. Make your pledge here: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Ask Me Anything LIVE on Google Hangouts Monday 8/27 at 7:00 Central when you pledge $33/month or more on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Receive more information on the 2019 Bereavement Cruise when you fill out this form: http://www.comingbackcruise.com Subscribe: Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.

Megan Devine was not ready to memorialize her partner, Matt. Megan Devine's work and book: http://www.refugeingrief.com/ Season 4 of Coming Back premieres September 5, 2018! In the meantime... Enter my giveaway to win a copy of Grief Works and You Are Not Alone by supporting Coming Back on Patreon. Winner will be selected at random from the list of all active patrons as of 8/31/2018. Winner will receive a copy of Grief Works by Julia Samuel and You Are Not Alone by Debbie Augenthaler, a set of three Coming Back podcast stickers, and a handwritten thank you note. Make your pledge here: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Ask Me Anything LIVE on Google Hangouts Monday 7/30 at 7:00pm Central and Monday 8/27 at 7:00 Central when you pledge $33/month or more on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Receive more information on the 2019 Bereavement Cruise when you fill out this form: http://www.comingbackcruise.com Subscribe: Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k S

It's the end of Season 3 of Coming Back! I'm sharing some final thoughts with you from this season's episodes as well as some upcoming events, including another double-book giveaway! Enter the giveaway by supporting Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Winner will be selected at random from the list of all active patrons as of 8/31/2018. Winner will receive one paperback copy of Grief Works, one paperback copy of You Are Not Alone, a set of three Coming Back themed stickers, and a handwritten thank you note. Receive more information on the 2019 Bereavement Cruise when you fill out this form: http://www.comingbackcruise.com Ask Me Anything LIVE on Google Hangouts Monday 7/30 at 7:00pm Central and Monday 8/27 at 7:00 Central when you pledge $33/month or more on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia FREE! Check out my debut on Sunny in Seattle 1150 AM KKNW: https://bit.ly/2zGZyBP Subscribe: Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher htt

Chelsea Leigh Trescott broke up with a life that wasn't serving her. After leaving home for college, Chelsea found herself in the thick of depression, anorexia, and a string of long-distance relationships—triggered by the massive fear of not living up to others' expectations. Learning to face her loss of identity, connection, time, and self-respect led her to start Breakupward, a movement and coaching practice that encourages men and women to "break up" with the beliefs and people that no longer serve them. We're talking about cutting ties with addiction and disorder, the slow practice of becoming (one day at a time!), and how grief gives us more access to life. Also this week, the relationship between grief and sex—why some people have sex while grieving... and why some people don't. Receive more information on the 2019 Bereavement Cruise when you fill out this form: http://www.comingbackcruise.com Chelsea Leigh Trescott's work and podcast: http://breakupward.com/ Join me live on Facebook Monday 7/16 at 1:00

Michele Neff Hernandez, founder of Soaring Spirits International, wasn't panicked when she found out her husband was hit by a car on his regular bike ride. He was strong and capable. But when he died, her life and the lives of her children were turned upside down. This week, Michele is sharing a suitable alternative to the dreaded, "How are you?," telling a touching story about how her kids continue to grieve, and reminding us of the power of finding loss stories that look like our own. Also on the show, permission to be happy after loss. Receive more information on the 2019 Bereavement Cruise when you fill out this form: http://www.comingbackcruise.com Michele Neff Hernandez's work: https://www.soaringspirits.org/ Camp Widow: https://www.campwidow.org/ Join me live on Facebook Monday 7/9 at 1:00 Central. Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher http://bit.ly/2m08eJr YouTube http://bit.l

Musician Ruth Ungar found out about her dear friend Hubie's death on Facebook of all places. This was her first taste of sudden, earth-shattering loss. We're talking about the healing power of "good clean dirt," what it was like for Ruth to find out about Hubie's death on Facebook (while she and her husband were on tour), and how music creates a beautiful space for all of us to grieve. Plus, I'm sharing The Mammals' magical song inspired by Hubie's death, "When My Story Ends." Also on the show this week, I'm answering a listener question about navigating hospice care for the first time. Receive more information on the 2019 Bereavement Cruise when you fill out this form: http://www.comingbackcruise.com Episode 36: On Living (and Fumbling) with Kerry Egan: http://www.shelbyforsythia.com/podcast/36 Hospice Foundation of America: https://hospicefoundation.org/ Hospice FAQ: https://www.vitas.com/resources/hospice-care/hospice-faqs-everything-you-need-to-know Ruth Ungar's music + The Mammals: http://www.themammals

Marni Henderson and her sons had just 15 months to make memories and say goodbye after her husband was diagnosed with a brain tumor. Today, we're talking about Marni's decision to pull her sons out of school to spend time with their dying father, what it's like facing big milestones after loss, and one of my favorite books—Second Firsts—that led Marni to get trained as a Life Reentry Practitioner. She's also talking about the annual widow's retreat she leads that's going to Belize this year! Also this week, I'm giving you a grounding question to ask yourself in the aftermath of loss: What is still true about me? Receive more information on the 2019 Bereavement Cruise when you fill out this form: http://www.comingbackcruise.com Marni Henderson's work: http://www.coalescediscovery.com/ Join me live on Facebook Monday 6/25 at 1:00 Central. Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher http://bit

Tara Caffelle lost her ex-husband to suicide in 2015. His death was just one of four others she experienced that year. This week, we're talking about navigating a year of losses, crafting a disclaimer for your grief, and where our loved ones live in our bodies. We're also discussing Tara's brand new book, Grief: A Love Story. Also on the show, I was marinating in suicide this week after the public coverage of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain's suicides and came face-to-face with an uncomfortable truth of mine: I don't understand suicide. I'm talking about why I don't understand suicide and why it's crucial that we listen to people who are suicidal. Receive more information on the 2019 Bereavement Cruise when you fill out this form: http://www.comingbackcruise.com Tara Caffelle's work and book, Grief: A Love Story http://taracaffelle.com/ Join me live on Facebook Monday 6/18 at 1:00 Central. Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/2CMqh

Kim Skarritt runs Silver Muzzle Cottage, a nonprofit where senior, disabled, and hospice dogs are reminded how much they're loved before they die. We're talking about the compassion fatigue that often plagues caregivers, how Kim and her volunteers say goodbye to loving dogs over and over and over again, and the legacy that Kim wants to leave on the earth when she dies. Also this week, I'm announcing my role as a featured presenter on the 2019 Bereavement Cruise! Receive more information on the 2019 Bereavement Cruise when you fill out this form: http://www.comingbackcruise.com Kim Skarritt and Silver Muzzle Cottage: http://silvermuzzlecottage.com/ Join me live on Facebook Monday 6/11 at 1:00 Central. Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher http://bit.ly/2m08eJr YouTube http://bit.ly/2m1JWil GooglePlay http://bit.ly/2lWQmiG TuneIn http://bit.ly/2F469Fl Continue the conversation on grief

On an ordinary Monday morning, Debbie Augenthaler's husband, Jim, died suddenly in her arms. On that day, she not only lost her husband, best friend, and life partner, but her dream of having children him, their future plans, their home, and their circle of still-married friends. This week Debbie and I are talking about the layered losses that show up after a major loss occurs, the gifts that loss grants us that we can use to help others, and her new book, You Are Not Alone. Also on the show this week, I'm answering a listener email about being afraid to die the same way her father did—doing what he loved. Debbie Augenthaler's work and book: http://www.debbieaugenthaler.com/ Join me live on Facebook Monday 6/4 at 1:00 Central. Support Coming Back on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shelbyforsythia Subscribe: Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/2CMqhhE Spotify http://spoti.fi/2CMr16k Stitcher http://bit.ly/2m08eJr YouTube http://bit.ly/2m1JWil GooglePlay http://bit.ly/2lWQmiG TuneIn http://bit.ly/2F469Fl Continu