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Have you ever looked back on a break-up or a big argument with your partner, and thought, “I knew something was wrong.”? Yeah, that’s hindsight for you. But what can do to avoid only... The post What We Can Learn from Hindsight appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We do this every year, and every year it’s a whirlwind. This week, we’re sharing our favorites from all the toys we used in 2020. Why? Because we love masturbation, sex, orgasms, and sexual... The post Our Favorite Sex Toys of 2020 | Kinking Up the Holidays appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Back in episode 13, we shared how we handle money within our power exchange relationship. Over the years it’s changed a LOT. So we thought we’d revisit the topic to share those changes. In... The post How We Handle Money in Our D/s Relationship: An Update appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We received a fascinating email about a promise made in a D/s relationship, and it got us thinking about the promises we’ve made and how we feel about “promises.” So let’s talk about it!... The post Making Long-Term Promises in D/s Relationships appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In this week’s episode, we take a listener question about BDSM collars and turn it into a larger discussion on compromise (yes, we’ve done that episode before). The dynamics of the question posed got... The post Deciding When to Compromise in BDSM and When Not To appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s episode was inspired by a recent public display of kink that went viral on Twitter and created a big conversation online about what’s acceptable and what isn’t in public. We have thoughts,... The post Public Displays of Kink appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Is there a difference between a kink and a fetish? What is that difference? Does that difference even matter. This week’s episode is a loose conversation to explore the definitions of those two words... The post Kinks vs. Fetishes appeared first on Loving BDSM.

It’s here! It’s here! Not just a special Thursday podcast but John Brownstone’s new shop: The Kinkery! This episode ran longer than we intended (typical, lol). A big portion of this episode is us... The post Special Episode: Introducing the Kinkery appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’ve talked about this in different episodes in the past, but it’s time to give it a standalone episode. Whether in an established power exchange relationship or meeting a new partner, not every kink... The post When Your Kinks Don’t Align appeared first on Loving BDSM.

It’s the start of October — aka Kinktober. We thought it would be fun and appropriate to talk kink. We’re going in hot with a big (and sometimes heavy) topic: edge play, danger, and... The post Understanding Edge Play and Risk in BDSM appeared first on Loving BDSM.

While we don’t get into all the causes for shame in this episode, we also understand that it’s a heavy topic. Feel free to ignore or come back to this one later, if needed.... The post Dealing with Feelings of Shame appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We had a rough weekend in our personal lives so took the easy way out for this week’s podcast episode. We asked y’all for questions on Instagram (at that handle Kayla hates). And y’all... The post BDSM Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’ve mentioned in multiple episodes some of the problems and challenges that happen in any relationship when you’re a “fixer” (as we are). This week, let’s talk about it in more detail! In this... The post On Being a Fixer in a D/s Relationship appeared first on Loving BDSM.

There are multiple ways of talking about submission, power exchange, and service (non-sexual and sexual). In this week’s episode, we take inspiration from a workbook by Luna Carruthers entitled Submissive Reflection: A Journey of... The post Reactive, Proactive, and Anticipatory Service appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s episode was inspired after we went on multiple rants about how much 2020 sucked, and someone said, “Uh, didn’t you buy a house this year? It can’t all suck.” And that’s when... The post Letting Hope and Joy Shine In When You Can appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s episode is a hot mess, y’all. We turned on the microphones even though we had no clue what we wanted to talk about — which we’ve maybe done once or twice in... The post A Chaotic Ramble: Celebrating 5 Years of Podcasts appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We seem to be on a roll turning old YouTube trends into podcast episodes. Yes, it’s a little strange, but it’s also a lot of fun! This week, we asked our Instagram followers to... The post Assumptions About BDSM, D/s, and Kink appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Part of being in a D/s relationship means working as a team, helping each other build something together. But sometimes, as individuals, we go through tough times and there’s no easy “fix” for it.... The post Feeling Helpless When You Can’t Help Your Partner appeared first on Loving BDSM.

John Brownstone was feeling under the weather late last week and into this week, so we took the week off from recording a podcast/live streaming. Instead of missing the week, we decided to share... The post Ranking Our Kinks appeared first on Loving BDSM.

If you see “tease” and immediately think “kinky fuckery fun,” you’re not alone. And yes, we talk about that, but we also talk about teasing as part of the relationship and how (some) kinksters... The post Teasing and Being Teased in D/s Relationships appeared first on Loving BDSM.