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Right after we decided to make this week a question and answer episode, we thought of other ideas (funny how that works!). We received more questions than we wanted to answer in a single... The post Answering Listener Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM.

No real tips or advice in this week’s episode. We just needed space to be able to say that we’re not always okay (even though we’re doing FINE!!) and we wanted to make that... The post It’s Okay to Not Be Okay Right Now appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’ve talked about the importance of compromise before but always as part of other discussions — on teamwork, goal-setting, and disagreements. This week, we give it an episode all its own. Yes, compromise can... The post Compromise in D/s Relationships appeared first on Loving BDSM.

For the final minisode (for now?), John Brownstone and Kayla Lords are together, sharing bare-handed spanking tips. This episode assumes you know the basics — connect bare hand to bare butt. After that, what... The post Podcast Minisode 12: Bare-Handed Spanking Tips appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’ve talked about mental health and D/s relationships before. And Kayla is fairly open about her mental health in nearly every episode. After a recent bout of anxiety and depression, we’re talking about how... The post How Kayla’s Mental Health Makes Us Feel appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s minisode was inspired by how hard I roll my eyes when I heard about a “real” Dominant or a “true” Dominant and what they supposedly do or don’t do. Instead, let’s talk... The post Podcast Minisode 11: Things Good Dominants Do appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Your kinky boundaries and limits (hard and soft) can change at any point for all kinds of reasons. So let’s talk about it. In this episode: Black Lives Matter — donation, resources  Thanks to... The post Changing Boundaries and Limits appeared first on Loving BDSM.

It’s easy to feel like every submissive in every D/s relationship crawls or kneels, in their kinky fuckery or as a sign of submission. This isn’t true for a variety of reasons, including because... The post Podcast Minisode 10: Alternatives to Crawling or Kneeling appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’ve talked about mindfucks a lot over the years, but we’ve never devoted an entire episode to the topic. That’s about to change! In this episode: Black Lives Matter — donation, resources  Thanks to... The post Mindfucks appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Part of this week’s episode will sound similar to last week when we talked about gratitude. Why? Because one of the things you should say regularly in your D/s relationship is “Thank you.” But... The post Podcast Minisode 9: Things to Say in Your D/s Relationship appeared first on Loving BDSM.

There’s the fantasy of our BDSM life or power exchange relationship, and then there’s the reality. When our expectations aren’t realistic, we spend our time disappointed or disillusioned. In this week’s episode, we talk... The post Managing Your Expectations in Your D/s Relationship appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Gratitude is a big deal to both of us. It helps keep resentment at bay and makes it easier to take care of each other, even in times of stress or when we just... The post Podcast Minisode 8: How to Show Gratitude appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We talk about communication ALL THE TIME, but rarely in one episode. This definitely isn’t everything, but if you struggle with communication, this may help you out a bit. In this episode: Announcement: Friday... The post Our Top Tips for BDSM Communication appeared first on Loving BDSM.

There’s no single style of D/s relationships. Not everyone wants 24/7, and not everyone wants something sexual. In this quick episode, we run down a few common styles or “ways” of setting up your... The post Podcast Minisode 7: Different Styles of D/s Relationships appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Dom drop (or top drop) happens. Just as submissives undergo the highs and lows of their BDSM experience, so do Dominants. In this week’s minisode, we share a few reasons why it can happen.... The post Podcast Minisode 6: Why Dom Drop Happens appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Erotic humiliation aka humiliation play isn’t for everyone. And even people who enjoy it, don’t enjoy all aspects of it. If you’ve heard of it but don’t know what it is, or you’re interested... The post Podcast Minisode 5: Erotic Humiliation Basics appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This episode is completely inspired by a few Twitter threads/conversations we’ve seen recently, mostly by kink educator Ignixia. She’s been tackling some serious misconceptions in BDSM, and that got us thinking about the things... The post Busting BDSM Myths and Misconceptions appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We get asked all the time for ideas on what kinds of things you can do in a long distance D/s relationship, sexual and non-sexual. This week’s episode is a quick rundown of different... The post Podcast Minisode 4: Tasks in Long Distance Relationships appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We use the term “cheering up” but another good word could be “pleasant distraction.” These are the moments when you get your partner to come out of their bad/worried/tense mood for a moment and... The post On Cheering Each Other Up appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In this week’s minisode, I’m breaking down the big three safety philosophies in BDSM. If you’re trying kinky things or exploring power exchange with a partner, you need a safety strategy. Pick the one... The post Podcast Minisode 3: Safety in BDSM appeared first on Loving BDSM.