Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

Want better bedtime routines? Start with wake-up time. In this eye-opening episode, we reveal why your morning routine is the secret weapon for achieving peaceful nights. Backed by fascinating neuroscience from Stanford's Andrew Huberman and real-world success stories, you'll discover how morning sunlight triggers a cascade of sleep-friendly hormones that can transform your family's entire day-night cycle. Plus, learn why letting your teens sleep in might actually be sabotaging their sleep schedule and how early risers show up to 23% better performance in morning classes. Quote of the Episode: "Exposure to morning sunlight triggers a cascade of hormones that regulate the entire day-night cycle." Key Insights: Your wake-up time sets your body's internal stopwatch for the entire day Teenagers naturally produce melatonin later than adults but still need 9-10 hours of sleep Weekend sleep-ins create a "mini jet-lag" effect that makes Monday mornings harder Morning sunlight exposure activates melanopsin-containing

When the afternoon chaos of activities, homework, and commitments leaves everyone exhausted and frustrated, it's not your organisational skills that need work—it's your approach. Justin and Kylie reveal their game-changing strategy for transforming family schedules from overwhelming to manageable, including the one question that changes everything: "Does the schedule serve you, or do you serve the schedule?" Key Points: Why traditional scheduling often fails families The importance of regular family meetings How to experiment with different routines When and why to scale back activities The value of involving children in schedule decisions Quote of the Episode: "Does the schedule serve you, or do you serve the schedule?" - Justin Coulson Key Insights: Life is a series of experiments Children often recognise when they're overcommitted Family meetings give everyone a voice Routines need regular adjustment The best schedule is unique to each family Resources Mentioned: "Rethi

Forget sticker charts and pocket money—the key to getting kids to help around the house isn't about rewards or punishments. Discover why making contribution fun transforms resistance into enthusiasm, and learn the simple system that's getting kids excited about helping at home. Key Points: Traditional chore charts often create resistance Linking chores to pocket money typically backfires Making contribution fun transforms participation Togetherness is the key to successful engagement Timing and clear endpoints matter  Quote of the Episode: "Our kids don't want to feel like our slaves... but they do need to contribute and participate in making the house function and work." Key Insights: People tend to overestimate their own contributions while underestimating others' Forced contribution creates resistance Music dramatically changes the experience of helping Clear time limits increase participation Autonomy in choosing how to contribute matters Resources Mentioned: 10-minute

New research reveals that the "convenient" pre-packaged school lunches are actually the most expensive option - and the least healthy. Discover the simple menu system that saves money, improves nutrition, and gets kids excited about their school lunches. Key Points: 90% of Australian kids take packed lunches to school Average lunch box costs $4.50 Pre-packaged foods cost more than fresh options 40% of kids' lunches are filled with pricier, less healthy options Menu system eliminates daily decision fatigue Quote of the Episode: "Our family has single-handedly kept a wheat farmer's business going for the last 20 plus years with all those lunches, that probably half of which ended up in the bin." Key Insights: Creating a menu system reduces waste and costs Getting kids involved increases likelihood of eating Laminated menus with checkboxes make planning easy Budget constraints can be framed as opportunity for change Advanced planning eliminates morning stress Resources Mentioned: Flinde

  The School Morning Hack That Changes Everything: A Slice of Advice on Getting out the Door Stress FreeThe secret to peaceful school mornings isn't what you do in the morning at all. Discover the simple evening ritual that transforms chaotic school mornings into manageable moments of connection, and why this one change makes all the difference. Key Points: The critical importance of evening preparation Why decision-making is the biggest morning time-waster How to implement the "hotel menu" system for meals The value of creating margin in your morning Why rushing signals the wrong message to children Quote of the Episode: "Love is spelled T-I-M-E, but if that's how you spell love, what does 'hurry up' spell to a child?" Key Insights: Morning chaos often stems from too many decisions being made in the moment The hotel continental breakfast menu system eliminates morning food decisions Creating margin allows for meaningful connection and reduces anxiety Evening preparation includes pare

Justin interviews Pulitzer Prize winner Charles Duhigg about his groundbreaking book "Super Communicators." Discover the science behind meaningful family conversations and learn practical strategies to transform how you connect with your children and partner. Key Points: Understanding the three types of conversations: practical, emotional, and social Why fixing problems isn't always the answer How our brains sync during meaningful conversations The power of deep questions versus shallow ones Why family interruptions might be healthy Quote of the Episode: "We tend to remember the conversations that are connection, as opposed to just information exchange." - Charles Duhigg Key Insights: The importance of matching conversation types (practical vs. emotional) How to transform common questions into deeper connections The value of perspective getting over perspective taking Why acknowledging awkwardness helps difficult conversations Best Questions Shared: "What was the most surprising thing that happened today

One-on-one time transforms parent-child relationships, but finding that time can seem impossible. Discover the revolutionary monthly date system that's helping parents create deeper connections with each child—and why being truly present matters more than what you actually do together. Key Points: Monthly one-on-one dates based on birth date Importance of intentional planning vs spontaneous moments Value of side-by-side conversations Impact of being fully present vs autopilot parenting How structured time leads to deeper conversations Quote of the Episode: "The definition of love is bearing witness to one another's lives." Key Insights: Advance planning makes experiences more meaningful Side-by-side activities encourage natural conversation Removing distractions deepens connection Multiple possible futures reduce anxiety about paths Intentional time creates space for vulnerable conversations Resources Mentioned: Laura King's research on "best possible future self" Monthly birthday date system conce

Why Your Kids Should Risk Breaking Their Arm Today Discover why letting your kids take physical risks - even ones that could land them in the doctor's office - might be exactly what they need for healthy development.   Key Points: Physical challenges help children develop resilience Many schools have removed risky play equipment like monkey bars Stanford research shows parent reactions shape children's mindsets Developmentally appropriate risk is essential for growth Modern "safetyism" may be harming children's development   Quote of the Episode: "When we treat all adversity as inherently negative, we do a tremendous disservice to our children and their ability to develop adaptive coping mechanisms." Key Insights: Babies look to parents' facial expressions to gauge danger Physical challenges often lead to better academic and social outcomes The difference between harmful trauma and beneficial stress How "safetyism" creates more fearful children The importance of scaffolding risk appropriately &n

Understanding the right type of conversation can transform family communication and deepen connections with our children. Justin and Kylie explore insights from Pulitzer Prize winner Charles Duhigg's book "Super Communicators". Key Points: Understanding the three types of conversations: practical, emotional, and social Why fixing problems isn't always what our children need How to identify which conversation your child wants to have The importance of asking "Why am I talking?" (WAIT) When connection matters more than correction Quote of the Episode: "We tend to remember the conversations that are connection as opposed to just information exchange." - Charles Duhigg Key Insights: Most memorable conversations are ones where children do the talking Parents often default to "fix-it" mode when children need emotional support Simple questions can reveal what type of conversation is needed The power of asking "How can I help?" or "What do you need?" Personal Stories Shared: Justin's "professor moment" with his

How to support children through their fears and phobias - whether it's buttons, beards, or anything in between - without escalating their anxiety. Key Points: Children's fears, no matter how irrational they seem, are genuinely frightening to them Trying to have rational conversations with emotional children is counterproductive Telling children they have "no choice" increases anxiety rather than reducing it Creating emotional safety must come before addressing the fear itself Gentle exposure combined with patience is more effective than forced confrontation Quote of the Episode: "Your child is not being difficult. He is experiencing a difficulty. There's a really big difference there." Key Insights: The importance of validating feelings before problem-solving Why social normalisation often helps naturally reduce fears How creating distance between stimulus and response can help The value of giving children agency in finding solutions Why parent-led solutions are often sufficient without therapy Resources

Justin and Kylie explore eight bold predictions for parenting and family life in 2025, covering everything from emerging parenting styles to AI's impact on education and the challenges facing young men.  Key Predictions1. **The Rise of Lighthouse Parenting**   - Moving away from helicopter and free-range parenting extremes   - Parents act as steady guides while children navigate independently   - Balanced approach between oversight and autonomy2. **AI in the Living Room**   - Explosion of AI use in everyday parenting   - Personalized solutions for family challenges   - Interactive parenting resource for various needs   - Notable energy consumption implications3. **AI Revolution in Education**   - Traditional schools facing paradigm shift   - Move from standardized to personalized learning   - Emphasis on AI literacy and critical thinking4. **Homeschooling Growth**   - Increasing mainstream adopti

Australia's most decorated Olympian, Emma McKeon, shares intimate insights about her journey from young swimmer to Olympic champion, revealing the crucial role her parents played in fostering success without pressure. Her story provides a masterclass in supporting children's sporting endeavors while maintaining joy and balance. Key Points: The importance of enjoyment over achievement in youth sports How parental support without pressure builds self-determination Managing early-morning training and self-motivation Balancing multiple activities during teenage years Transforming competition anxiety into positive energy Quote of the Episode: "They never pressured me either way to swim or not to swim... They just wanted me to enjoy what I was doing and be happy in what I was doing, find something I was passionate about." Key Insights: Success comes from internal motivation, not external pressure The value of maintaining multiple interests and activities How to handle failure and setbacks constructively The impo

Can a little “selfishness” make you a better parent? Join Kylie and Justin as they share relatable parenting mishaps, with a reminder that taking care of yourself is a gift to everyone around you. Key Points: The value of a "do nothing" holiday Finding permission for personal time How parenting changes across different children The impact of slowing down Quote of the Episode: "We've been trained for so long to believe that taking time out for ourselves is selfish. And we've got to change the narrative." - Kylie Coulson Key Insights: Younger children often get different versions of their parents Taking time for yourself makes you better for everyone else Growth and maturity in parenting benefit all children differently Sometimes doing nothing is exactly what families need Action Steps: Give yourself permission for personal time Recognize different seasons of parenting Look for ways to connect with older children Create space for new family traditions Resources Mentioned: happyfamilies.com.au

Inside Out 2 isn’t just a movie—it’s a parenting masterclass on navigating the beautiful chaos of adolescence! Justin and Kylie Coulson explore the profound parenting insights from Inside Out 2, discussing teen brain development, emotional complexity, and why this film offers valuable understanding for parents. Key Points: Teen brain development and the "construction zone" phase The role of anxiety in adolescent decision-making How emotions work together (or sometimes don't) Why perfect isn't possible or desirable The importance of embracing all experiences, both good and bad Quote of the Episode: "Life is supposed to be joyful. It's just that it can't stay that way all the time." - Justin Coulson Key Insights: Understanding teen brain development through visual metaphors How anxiety can both protect and hinder The exhaustion of trying to maintain constant positivity Why difficult experiences contribute to wholeness The complexity of managing multiple emotions Research Referenced: Dr. L

Emma McKeon, with 14 Olympic medals, knows what it takes to excel without burning out—and she credits her parents for getting the balance just right. In this episode, we dive into Emma’s upbringing to uncover strategies for encouraging kids to pursue their passions with joy and self-determination. From transforming performance anxiety into a secret weapon to helping children develop discipline on their own terms, this conversation offers invaluable insights for every parent. Tune in to learn how to support your child’s journey—whether they’re a budding athlete, artist, or simply exploring what they love.Key Points:- Finding the balance between encouragement and pressure- The role of self-determination in achievement- How to support children through performance anxiety- Why giving space for autonomy leads to better outcomes- The importance of maintaining joy in activities Personal Stories Shared:- Annie's piano journey from age 3 to 17- Kylie's telegraph pole experience and anxiet

Ever feel like you’re stuck in the loop of “How was your day?” and hearing “meh” in response? Justin and Kylie share research-backed strategies for having meaningful conversations with your children, including five core questions that build emotional intelligence and resilience. Learn why timing and technique matter more than the questions themselves, and discover how these conversations can significantly reduce anxiety and depression in children. Key Points:- The power of well-timed, meaningful conversations- How conversations build executive function and emotional regulation- The connection between parent-child discussions and mental health- Why traditional questions often fail to engage kids- The importance of timing and technique in family discussionsResearch Highlights:- Harvard's Center on the Developing Child: Back-and-forth conversations build executive function- Minnesota longitudinal study: Regular meaningful conversations improve emotional intelligence- Arizona St

Justin and Kylie kick off 2025 with a powerful discussion about resetting family life using their WISE Family Reset framework. After experiencing burnout in 2024, they share personal insights about slowing down and making intentional changes for the year ahead.Quotes of the Episode: "We're not striving for perfection. We're striving for small, incremental changes." - Justin Coulson"It's not about getting more things done. It's about getting the right things done." - Greg McKeownKey Points:- The challenge of feeling constantly busy but not productive- How burnout affects family dynamics and personal wellbeing- The importance of creating space for personal reflection- Introduction to the WISE Family Reset frameworkThe WISE Family Reset Framework:Work out what matters* Create personal space for reflection* Understand individual and family prioritiesImplement tiny changes* Start with small, manageable adjustments* Avoid overwhelming yourself with too many changes at onceSync as a team* Get everyone involved in th

Ever wondered how to go beyond the tinsel and treats of Christmas to create a truly holy and meaningful celebration? Justin and Kylie Coulson take you on a journey through the "Three Levels of Christmas," offering heartfelt ideas and inspiring stories to bring joy and purpose to your family’s holiday season. Whether it's singing carols, setting up nativity scenes, or reflecting on deeper spiritual themes, this episode is full of inspiration for making Christmas a time of connection, love, and purpose. In this episode: Understanding different perspectives & beliefs Creating a Christ-centred Christmas The three levels of Christmas: Level 1: Santa Claus, gifts, & festive indulgence Level 2: The nativity story & spiritual reflection Level 3: Celebrating Jesus' life & message Ideas for making Christmas more meaningful, including carolling, nativity scenes, & giving back Stories from listeners about their faith-centred Christmas traditions Related Links: Christmas Day and Divorced Fa

Does Christmas gift-giving feel more like a burden than a joy as you try to find a balance between gift-giving and avoiding entitlement? Dr. Justin Coulson and Kylie discuss how to preserve the magic of the season while avoiding the trap of indulgence and entitlement. In this episode: Finding perspective Reflecting on the true meaning of Christmas Having zero agenda—relationships, games, joyful moments What to do when Christmas is hard Focusing on others—emphasising giving, kindness, and family traditions over materialism The Secret to Happiness? Giving.—Elizabeth Dunn research Related Links: How to Unspoil your Kids this Christmas [Webinar] Find us on Facebook or TikTok Subscribe to the Happy Families newsletter Leave a voice memo here or email your questions/comments to podcasts@happyfamilies.com.auSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

"Are we there yet?" Long family road trips can definitely be painful, BUT they can also be a great opportunity for some quality family time! We share a list of some helpful road trip games to keep everyone entertained. I-spy Spotto I went to the shops and I bought The alphabet game Car cricket Old MacDonald Had A Farm The Goanna Gang Bingo This Is The Song That Never Ends Peel The Avocado The Fart Game Stay quiet or else! Find us on Facebook or TikTok Subscribe to the Happy Families newsletter Leave a voice memo here or email your questions/comments to podcasts@happyfamilies.com.auSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.