Love Via Hashem

It’s easy to be about the negative. We need to be about the positive. Tell them what you like about them often, and focus on the good. “Honey, we need to talk” is something that we instinctively know as a troublesome phrase. This human that I married never uses it to talk about the good that I’ve good … or do they? So, how do you keep it positive? By mindful awareness of the previous points - the fact that you must put effort into a relationship in order to make it work. Like a job, you’ve got to show up and put in those hours. Knowing and Being known … they need to know you in various and positive ways, as well as you them. Find out the small details and expand upon it to harness the observables in a beautiful way. For example, you notice a birthmark that you hadn’t seen before…. Wow … complement them on it then, and/or in the future. We need our eyes act as actors of blessing, and not for comparison all the time, or to judge. By thoroughly searching for how we can uplift, edify, and praise the beauty, cha