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On this episode, join Lu, Dominic, Hazel and Roman as they debate common misconceptions about the opposite sex. Grab a snack and get ready to laugh and learn as they talk about issues that divide the sexes and how we can understand each other better. Topic areas include emotional expression, conflict, friendships, dating and much more.  TOPICS:  - Common misconceptions women have about men  - Why are guys perceived as selfish?  - Why do girls jump to conclusion before understanding the full picture?  - Why do girls overshare with their friends? - Why are guys more comfortable with expressing their emotions around  girls?  Instagram: @levelupwithluGet in touch: levelupwithlu@gmail.com

Dear women, stop building men. There is a clear difference between building someone and building with someone. Women are told to 'ride and die' and build and support their man. Fix-it Felicia is the girl who believes in struggle love and grinding with a man at his worst. Men are not raised to settle, they go for what they want. Lu chats about women settling in relationships  and enabling men to be lazy.  "Don't put your life on the backburner for nobody." - Lu Oni  TOPICS: - The Wig Wahala (trouble) - Fixing grown ass men - Building a man vs Building with a man - Tips to avoid losing your identity in a relationship. Instagram: @levelupwithluGet in touch: levelupwithlu@gmail.com

Is maturity synonymous with age?  Adults may have more experience, however, experience doesn't always make you mature. Some societies believe in the idea that you should respect your elders but should respect be earned? Lu and Ebube explore what it means to be mature, accepting other peoples way of thinking and other aspects of maturity in today's society. "Age is just a number. Maturity is a choice."  TOPICS: - Age vs Maturity - Michael's immaturity on Love Island - Respecting your elders  - Is today's generation more immature than the previous? - Signs of emotional maturity. Instagram: @levelupwithluGet in touch: @levelupwithlu@gmail.comEbube's poetry: @glimpse.of.my.soul

Disappointment  - sadness/displeasure caused by the non-fulfillment of ones hopes and expectations. The experience you feel when you consider what might have been in contrast with what is happening in the present.  Disappointments and failures do not define you. It can be good because it means you have a passion for something. It can be an opportunity to troubleshoot and grow. It helps us become stronger. Join Lu as she opens up about her experiences with disappointment and how to bounce back from L's.  "There can be no disappointment where there is no deep love." – Maritn Luther King.   TOPICS: - The psychology of disappointment - Steps to deal with disappointment and overcome L's. - The outrage over Halle Bailey's Black Little Mermaid  -  Upcoming summer festivals - Love Island's Michael and Amber. Instagram: @levelupwithluGet in touch: levelupwithlu@gmail.com

Your 20's are the defining decade of adulthood. 80% of life's most defining moments take place by about age 35. How you live this decade will play a role in the rest of your life.  It can be difficult to experiment and not feel like a failure if things go wrong.  Lu, Jem and Mo discuss the importance of being intentional in your 20's and how to make the most of this time. “Feeling better doesn’t come from avoiding adulthood, it comes from investing in adulthood.” ― Meg Jay.  TOPICS: - How to make your 20's count - The pressure to have your life together by 30 - How important are the people closest to you in determining your life's trajectory? - Friendships and serious relationships in your 20's - Diversity on Love Island  Instagram: @levelupwithluGet in touch: levelupwithlu@gmail.comBook recommended: The Defining Decade by Meg Jay

Society can often make singleness feel like a disease that needs to be cured. It can be hard to see everyone around you in a relationship. Everyone has their own person out there. Being single is a blessing and the best time to grow and achieve your goals without the distraction of another human being.  "Strong is choosing yourself, and choosing yourself every single time."  – Letwin K. TOPICS: - The taboo of colourism in the black community - How to navigate the dating scene as a Baby Girl - Is singleness a curse? - Do men or women enjoy being single more? - Making the most of singleness. Instagram: @levelupwithluGet in touch: levelupwithlu@gmail.com

Our lives are limited to the options we have. Having options allows you to create the life that is most suited to you.  It enables you to be more content as a lack of choices can often lead to discontentment. Lu and Roman explore the effects of options on a person's life and how you can create more options for yourself.  "A man with options is a man with power." –  Rollo Tomassi.  TOPICS:  - The power of having options in life - How to create more options for yourself - How to shoot your shot   - Avengers Endgame thoughts.Instagram: @levelupwithluGet in touch: levelupwithlu@gmail.com

Player - a person who fakes serious romantic interest to one person whilst having several similar relationships at the same time. The player knows the right things to say and seems like they have the right intentions.  Lu and Dabere expose the mind of players and why some people become this way. Knowledge is power after all. "Whenever you keep score in love, you lose." – Kamand Kojouri.  TOPICS: - The signs and mind of a player - What leads some to become players? - Why do some women play hot & cold? - How to avoid getting played. Instagram: @levelupwithluGet in touch: levelupwithlu@gmail.com

Body Image refers to a person's emotional attitudes, beliefs, and perceptions of their own body. Research on 5,165 girls aged 10 - 17 in 14 countries, found that only 46% of girls globally had high body esteem, while the figure was even lower in the UK (39%). A survey of 5000 fully grown women found that 74% of women get uncomfortable when they see their bodies in the mirror. A negative body image is affecting both young girls and women. Lu, Angel and Edie have a chat about body image, Brazilian Butt Lifts and modern society's beauty standards.  "Your body isn't a temple, it's a home you'll live in forever. Take care of it." – Colin Wright.  TOPICS: - Can you have plastic surgery and still love yourself? - Does the media encourage a homogeneous beauty standard?  -  Is there diverse representation of body types in the media? - What makes you feel better about your body? - A letter to our 16 year old selves. Instagram: @levelupwithluGet in touch: levelupwithlu@gmail.com

The average UK couple spends £32,273 on their wedding. Some believe women just want to rush into marriage, ignoring the financial implications... That the ceremony is for the woman. However, who benefits more from marriage, men or women? Lu and Patrick tackle this question as well as topics related to fitness, long-term relationships and mental health.  "Slow progress is better than no progress."  TOPICS: - Who benefits more from marriage? - Should you change how you look for a partner? - Personal journey with fitness and routine -  Fitness and long-term relationships - Workout motivation tools - How to take care of your mental health Instagram: @levelupwithluGet in touch: levelupwithlu@gmail.com Patrick's food blog: @gout.parfaitBooks: Power of Habit, Why We SleepYouTube Channels: Koboko Fitness, Tony Gaskins, AskChazzEllis, Matthew HusseyApps: GoogleFit, BodySpace, MyFitnessPal

Confidence is not an attribute, anyone can condition their mind to be in that state. Self-belief is a prerequisite to confidence. You cannot achieve anything if you don't believe in yourself. Lu breaks down the blueprint to confidence and how the 4 Tires of Confidence impact a person's overall confidence.  “Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” –  Lao Tzu.    TOPICS: - Spring resolutions check-in - Definition of confidence & self- belief - How can confidence transform your life?  - The cycle of confidence and 4 tires of confidence  - How to develop confidence  - The art of not giving a damn what people think. Instagram: @levelupwithluGet in touch: levelupwithlu@gmail.comHeadspace Bundle: https://www.spotify.com/uk/headspace/student/

The ambitious woman has often been seen as a source of fear and confusion to society. Society is not completely comfortable with women having great dreams and success. Some cultures raise their girls to believe that their identity is defined through their roles and relationships.  Lu and Isabelle discuss ambitious women, the female identity and if women can have it all. Also, they share their unique view of African Aunty Feminism. ⁣⁣⁣"Marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support but why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same? We raise girls to see each other as competitors not for jobs or accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing, but for the attention of men." – Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie.  TOPICS: - Why does society fear the ambitious woman? - Examples of ambitious women in society - Why do women lose their identity in relationships and motherhood? - Can women have it all? - Traits we can learn from successful women.  Instagram: @levelupwithlu⁣⁣⁣Get in

Valentine's Day is around the corner. The floral industry is prepping for its busiest day of the year. Dinner, spa and hotel reservations are all booked up. People scrambling around  stressed because they haven't planned ahead. Is Valentine's Day overrated? Should romance only be expressed on February 14th? ⁣ Lu and Dabere discuss love, lessons and exes.  “Being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure.” – Bob Marley. TOPICS:- The story behind Lu and Dabere's friendship - Valentine's day- Lessons in love- Is love harder to find in 2019?- Three things we learnt from our exes- Things we refuse to settle on in future relationships- How to level up from a break up. Instagram: @levelupwithlu⁣Get in touch: levelupwithlu@gmail.com

Self-love is an important aspect in the journey of personal growth. The more you value and respect yourself, the better the life decisions you'll make are. Self-love means something different to each person. We all have our own self-care routines and methods of showing love to ourselves. Join Lu, Jemma, Patrick, Tinaye and Morenike as they explore the importance of self-love. “How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you” – Rupi Kaur. TOPICS: - The meaning of self-love - How to practice self-love - Thoughts/Behaviours that don't serve us well and hold us back - Patrick's driving test attempts - The Baby Pastor Instagram: @levelupwithlu⁣Get in touch: levelupwithlu@gmail.com

We live in a society where comparison is widespread. Part of being social beings means we use comparison to understand and connect with the world around us. However, comparison can quickly become a recipe for disaster. How can we harness the power of comparison for good? “Comparison with myself brings improvement, comparison with others brings discontent.” – Betty Jamie Chung. TOPICS: - The Comparison trap - Instagram's role in comparison culture - ABCDE guide to stop comparison - Nigerian cultural pressures - Wunmi's thrift store adventures.⁣⁣⠀ Instagram: @levelupwithlu⁣⠀Get in touch: levelupwithlu@gmail.com

Welcome to the Level Up With Lu podcast.⁣This is a personal growth podcast with a mission to help you live your best life, know your worth and love yourself.⁣ Are you ready to transform your life this year and join me on a journey of elevation in all areas? “Don't make resolutions without an action plan. The key to success is right in your hands” – J. Allen Shaw.   TOPICS: - Podcast introduction and Lu's personal growth journey - New Year's resolutions - Things we are saying bye to in 2019  - The Level Up Strategy  and how we can use it to reach our goals this year. Instagram: @levelupwithlu⠀⁣⁣Get in touch: levelupwithlu@gmail.com