The Baggage Reclaim Sessions

Natalie delves into why accepting just the bare minimum (or less!!) in our relationships is problematic and explains why that person who appeared to make so much effort 'in the beginning' doesn't anymore.  

In the first episode of 2022, Natalie shares her ideas about what self-esteem is and why we don't need to overcomplicate things when we decide to 'improve' our relationship with ourselves.   

In the final episode of 2021, Natalie shares a little on surprising herself by going to therapy this year and how 2021 pushed her to new, deeper places.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie delves into what's going on when we try to find out whether someone we've just met (or have only just started a relationship with) is emotionally available.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Why might we be able to debate and have disagreements at work or in certain situations but panic and shut down or become defensive with loved ones? Natalie delves into why we feel threatened by disagreement and difference and how to start breaking the habit.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

With the 20:20 vision of hindsight, we often recognise our blessings in disguise. But at the time, whatever we're going through can suck, and Natalie talks about the importance of allowing ourselves to feel instead of bypassing our feelings and forcing ourselves to be 'grateful' or look on the bright side.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie shares how she learned to stop taking responsibility for other people's baggage and how this inspired the show's central question: What's the baggage behind it?

Natalie explains why learning to be unconditionally obedient skewed our perception of negative consequences and why it's time to update our thinking so that we stop scaring ourselves out of taking care of us.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop    

Natalie talks about how our resistance and discomfort about asking for help or support reveals our reliance on being The Strong or Supportive One.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

We've texted or hung out with someone several times, why do we think know them already? Natalie shares why intensity causes us to mistakenly extend trust.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie talks about the thoughts and feelings we default to when certain people disappoint, annoy or upset us and how these can help us have a more honest relationship, both with ourselves and this person.     Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Being able to get things off our chest is crucial to our wellbeing and part of our intimate relationships, but sometimes we chat out our business to the wrong people! Natalie shares some of the reasons people respond unfairly or unkindly when we share our problems with them.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie dives into the importance of approaching our interactions and relationships with a 'mutual mentality' so that we don't devalue, exploit and short-change ourselves.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie explains why downplaying the truth or significance of something—minimising—whether it’s who we are and what we need or other people’s asks, expectations or behaviour, leads to big problems.     Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Plenty of us are a little bit too used to blaming ourselves for other people's feelings and behaviour and determining that we're not 'good enough'. But not everything is about us, and in this week's episode, Natalie breaks down the trouble with inverted narcissism.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Sometimes our habit of trying to control the uncontrollable creeps into our relationships. Natalie delves into this tricky subject, sharing some surprising examples as well as advice for how to become more aware of the habit.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie talks about how and why we put ourselves under pressure about taking care of ourselves and shares tips for breaking this perfectionism habit so that we don't have unrealistic expectations of self-care that cause us more harm than good. This is the last episode of the summer, and Natalie will be back on September 10th 2021.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

When we've just started talking to, dating or going out with somebody and feel anxious about something, it's not uncommon to do a spot of columboing, snooping around their profile to see if they're following 'hot' or 'sexy' people or even their ex. Natalie talks about how we can wind up putting ourselves between a rock and a hard place with our columboing and what we can do when we don't like our discoveries.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie talks about why being drawn to one particular thing in romantic partners can prove to be a major blind spot. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop    

It's easy to assume that the reason you're still thinking about someone (or something) because it means you're still crazy about them, mad with them, or that you're still invested in the situation. Actually, there's another reason why, and Natalie breaks this down in this week's episode.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop