The Baggage Reclaim Sessions

In episode 31 of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, Natalie explains why procrastinating isn't about laziness, talks about the myriad of emotions you experience when an absent/estranged parent is ill, and why some so-called mutual agreements really aren't mutual. This week's listener question is about reclaiming your dignity after sex on an early date doesn't turn into a relationship and Natalie shares what she's learned this week about fear of change. The book Get Things Done by Robert Kelsey http://amzn.to/1ZF7Qwl that I mention in the first segment about procrastination.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 30, Natalie dedicates the show to answering listener questions. Can I stand up to my disrespectful colleague? This listener was told to "shut up" by someone who she thought was a friend and they did it in front of everyone too. 
 Should I send a 'keep me in mind for the future' letter to my ex? Her widower workaholic long-distance boyfriend has broken it off to date a woman closer to home and her therapist has suggested that due to the circumstances, that she should send him a letter telling him to get in touch if his situation changes. 
  I can't get a job and I feel like a failure in comparison to my 'successful' siblings. This is one of those situations that really exemplifies the vicious cycle of a self-fulfilling prophecy. Living with her dysfunctional family who patronise and insult her plus going out with a 'successful' younger guy plus 'successful' siblings plus her friends having jobs is convincing her that she has every reason to think that she's a failure.  Do I think too much? A commen

In episode 29, Natalie talks about finding the middle ground between expecting people to be 'perfect' and not having standards and boundaries in your relationship. She also shares on her recent experiences with hypnotherapy and how that influenced her taking a break, plus she talks about people who are judgmental and critical but it can be difficult to put your finger on because they're also so 'nice'. This week's listener question is, 'How do I stop being piggy in the middle with my parents and my sister?', and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. The New Year episode that I refer to in the second segment (re some of the reasons for going to hypnotherapy) is www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/17 Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 28, Natalie talks about life plans, emotional availability, and why it’s not fair when people shame us for not wanting to be friends or not being ready to move on just yet. This week’s listener question is about boundaries and ultimatums and Natalie shares what she’s learned this week about ‘overreacting’. In the first part of the show, Natalie builds on episode 27 where she shared what she learned about her need for a life plan and explores why we might not have one and includes suggestions for increasing awareness of our priorities. Download Creating Your Personal Life Plan by Michael Hyatt http://bit.ly/mhlifeplan The backstory to me thinking about life plans in episode 27 https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/27 More on ‘mise-en-place’http://n.pr/1ptmytV In the second part of the show, Natalie explains emotional unavailability and the key fears behind it as well as ten key questions for understanding your own availability. Download “10 Key Questions To Open Up Your Awareness About Your Emotional A

In episode 27 of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, Natalie talks about No Contact and Low Contact at work, fear of failure and why she’s glad she stopped looking for what she used to look for. This week’s listener wants to know if the guys she’s dating are “too emotional” and Natalie shares what she learned about drifting and the need for at least a little bit of life planning. In the first part of the show, Natalie gives a brief overview of No Contact and Low Contact and shares her own experience which was part of the inspiration for her book, The No Contact Rule. She offers up 7 tips for navigating low contact at work which you can also download: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/27download More about The No Contact Rule Book: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/NC You can also download 10 Irrational Fears About No Contact: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/27download In the second part of the show, Natalie explains how having a parent or key influencer who pushes you to the best and who tells you that failure isn’t an

In this episode, Natalie questions whether we can really blame someone's inability to commit on whether they're just not that into us. Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl http://bit.ly/mrfbg In the second segment, where each week Natalie helps listeners to better understand their emotional baggage and grow in self-awareness, she explores our relationship with time, namely why some of us have a habit of being late and why some of us are so scared of it. Post on the blog about lateness: http://bit.ly/1fymR1H In the third segment, Natalie talks about the myth of 'overnight success' and why it's important not to discard other people's journeys. This week’s listener needs some tips on sticking to her boundaries and values. 30-Day Project: Embrace Healthy Boundaries http://bit.ly/EmbraceBoundaries Natalie also shares advice from her 6 and 8-year-old daughters on being clear on NO. The book I mention is the wonderful, The Little Girl Who Lost Her No by Amy M. Starkey http://amzn.to/1L7xeIT  Email: podcast@baggagere

In this episode, Natalie explains the key reasons for the breakdown of a relationship and how bottom line, they're all the same reason—incompatibility. Understanding Why Some Relationships Don’t Work Out http://bit.ly/18WdqFx In the second segment where each week Natalie helps listeners to better understand their emotional baggage and grow in self-awareness, she explains some of the reasons why we get being triggered by birthdays. I discuss how to uncover what the baggage is behind an issue in episode 2.  In the third segment, Natalie talks about how we can all be a bit more tolerant when it comes to our minor irritations with loved ones and how we sometimes forget that we have our irritating ways too! This week’s listener needs some tips for calming herself down where she gets into a state of thinking and feeling awful things about herself. Download  7 Steps For Calming Yourself Down When You’re In A Negative Self-Talk Spiral: http://bit.ly/7stepscalm Check out the How To Self-Soothe Quick Guide I mentioned:

In this episode, Natalie offers up some suggestions for dating as a single parent, explores the difference between help and support, and explains The Debit and Credit Trust System. This week’s listener wants to know how to cope with turning 30 when everyone else has gotten married etc, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. In the first segment I mentioned Episode 1, you can find it on iTunes or listen here: https://bit.ly/BRSessions1 I also talk about: No Contact Rule book: https://bit.ly/NoContactRule Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl: https://bit.ly/MrUnavailable The Debit and Credit Trust System: https://bit.ly/BRTrust  and http://bit.ly/BRCommit  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie delves into the tricky subject of name-calling and swearing at someone in an argument and whether this is really ‘OK’, plus she shares three key admissions - admitting where you’ve made a mistake, admitting what you don’t know, and admitting what you’re pretending not to know - that keep us human and humble, and she explains some of the benefits of affirmations including sharing some of her personal experiences of them transforming how she was feeling. This week’s listener wants to know how to deal with a partner that shuts down discussion and Natalie shares what she’s learned this week. Free resources referred to in this episode: Unsent Letter Guide: http://bit.ly/NatsULG Feelings Diary: http://bit.ly/FeelingsDiary Affirmations “I am safe. I am secure. All is well”, “I trust my higher self. I listen with love to my inner voice. I release all that is unlike the action of love”. “I always deserve love, care, trust and respect”. You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay http://amzn.to/240R

In this episode, Natalie talks about why we get stressed out by Valentine’s Day and includes suggestions for putting things back into context plus she talks about why trying to get someone else to change won’t fix the problem, as well has how to keep a gossiping in check . This week’s listener question is about letting go after realising that even though a few years have gone by, you’re not over your divorce, plus Natalie shares what she learned about the need to take care of her inner child so that she isn’t always ‘serious’.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie explains why you shouldn't write off the year if it hasn't started out as you envisioned, why some of us struggle with decision-making and what we need to make healthy decisions as well as why the early stages of dating is guesswork. This week's listener question is about how to recover from being told by two exes that they're not sexually attracted to her, plus Natalie shares what she's learned about her resistance to certain types of planning.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie questions whether a couple would really get divorced over leaving a glass out after reading a blog on the subject (http://bit.ly/MustBeThisTall), as well as explaining the 8 types of inner critic and their individual motivations and irrational fears, plus she offers up 6 magic words for that certain someone that wants to dump their responsibility on you. This week's listener question is about what to do when you want to confront an issue that needs confronting but the other person refuses and has 'ghosted' you, plus Natalie shares about what she learned about intuition when her daughter was ill recently.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie explains why someone else’s partner isn’t the person for you, why change and happiness isn’t going to come from following rules that you’ve made based on guilt and fear, and why you can’t keep talking about intentions or how someone can’t help something, when they keep doing the same thing and they control themselves with others. This week’s listener question is from someone who wants to know why she hasn’t completely closed the door on a breakup from two years ago, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week when she got acknowledgment and an apology over 20 years after the original event.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie explains why sarcasm backfires sometimes and why you need to be mindful of using it on dates, as well as talking about how to let go of ‘woundedness’, and why consistent actions of self-esteem will reap more rewards than sporadic efforts. This week’s listener question is about how to strive for an equal relationship after a divorce from unhealthy marriage plus Natalie shares what she’s learned this week.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this new year special, Natalie takes you through her 2015, sharing the lessons she learned from her bumpy but also joyful ride. In the second part of the show she talks about new year’s resolutions and why they need to matter in some way if they’re going to have any chance of sticking, and in the third and final part, she closes out with some final words about the year and looking ahead. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie explains why people who treat others as a means to an end have a booty call mentality, talks through regret and why it’s connected to our inner critic, and explains Show Pony Parenting. This week’s listener question is about what to do when it appears that a friendship has fizzled out after a bust-up, plus, Natalie shares how faffing about what to do over Christmas has been a reminder about how we only commit by getting the ball rolling as a result of making decisions and taking steps.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie explains how indecision over our boundary lines can cause us to accept the unacceptable, why we don’t need to keep overspending to prove our worth, and explains the connection between a short-term mentality and commitment issues. This week’s listener question is about what to do when you’ve been on a date or few and are not that interested, plus, Natalie shares why she’s OK with taking her time to process stuff (even if others aren’t). Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks why some people find long-distance relationships attractive because it allows them to limit their vulnerability, why broaching a conversation with a parent where you paint a picture of what you went through in the past can be a springboard seeing and hearing each other more clearly and shares tips for dealing with a bullying coworker. This week’s listener question is about what to do when you’ve decided not to trust all women (or all men) after getting burnt in a relationship plus, Natalie shares what she’s learned from listening to her body. Download The Unsent Letter Guide mentioned in the second segment from baggagereclaim.co.uk/downloads Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks why it’s a bad idea to be an emotional airbag, the factors that influence how long it will take for you to get over a breakup, how the core theme from challenges can become a personal mantra for success. This week’s listener question is about what to do when you diverge on a core value in a good relationship plus, Natalie shares how her recent trip to San Francisco has reminded her of how thankful she is for the Baggage Reclaim community.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about the 12 weeks of self-esteem torment which runs from mid-November until just after Valentine’s day, why having a type causes you to have a blind spot, and a key reason why some people struggle to reply to texts immediately. This week’s listener question is about whether it’s ever OK to fake it in bed plus, Natalie shares how standing up for herself and resigning from her position of class rep for one of her daughter’s classes has been a reminder about knowing when to fold and staying true to your values. You can read more about the 12 weeks of self-esteem torment here: http://bit.ly/setorment Read more about toxic type here http://bit.ly/YMo0p9 plus if you have a long-established pattern of unhealthy relationships, check out The Pattern Breaker: http://bit.ly/thepatternbreaker Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership