The Baggage Reclaim Sessions

The original episode that went live on 27/09/16 has been replaced. In this episode of Why Did We Break Up? Natalie shares some universal lessons that apply to all breakups.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie shares tips for ensuring that you don’t undervalue you when it comes to salary or charging the right rate/price with clients, knowing when to fold, and means ‘mean’ goals versus end goals. This week’s listener dilemma is about how to deal with shady friendships and Natalie shares what she’s learned this week. Links from the show The Vicious Cycle of Undervaluing Yourself http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-vicious-cycle-of-undervaluing-yourself/ Knowing When To Fold http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/knowing-when-to-fold The Justifying Zone http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-justifying-zone Betting On Potential—Are you gambling on a relationship capacity that doesn’t exist? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/betting-on-potential-are-you-gambling-on-a-relationship-capacity-that-doesnt-exist/ The Blinkest app (note, I am not affiliated with Blinkist in any way) A couple of posts about boundaries and friendship http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/we-have-to-let-our-friendships-evolve/ and ht

In the latest episode of Why Did We Break Up?, Sandy and Rick got off to a flying start after being introduced via a mutual friend. They saw each other a few times a week, seemed to thoroughly enjoy each other's company, and were making plans for future dates. Then Rick received some bad news one night and asked to hang out with Sandy. While there, he got way friskier than she was comfortable with, so she slowed things down only for him to leave rather abruptly. They spoke again a couple of days later and then poof, he was gone. Sensitive to the fact that he was going through a rough time, she called him a few more times but he never returned her calls. You might want to check out my posts on ghosting and u-turns: What’s the Craic With Ghosting? (And no, it’s NOT the same as No Contact!) http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/whats-the-craic-with-ghosting-and-no-its-not-the-same-as-no-contact/ We Need To Talk About: ‘Ghosting’ In The Early Stages of Dating http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/ghosting-in-the-early-s

In this episode, Natalie talks about how to start building your self-esteem, why you shouldn’t get too hung up on your ex moving on before you or with someone you think is ‘better’, and why there’s no need to tell someone you don’t like them. This week’s listener question is about whether we have a right to feel heartbroken over a relationship that never happened, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. 100 Days of Baggage Reclaim book: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/100daysbook Articles on Baggage Reclaim related to ‘Why them and not me?’ When you’re afraid they’ll become a better person in a better relationship, without you http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/what-keeps-you-up-a-night-pondering-whether-theyre-a-better-person-in-a-better-relationship-without-you/ He’s with someone else – Why her and not me? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/hes-with-someone-else-why-her-and-not-me/ 'Why him/her and not me?' Not everything is about us! http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-himher-and-not-me-not-everything-is-ab

In the latest episode of Why Did We Break Up?, Molly and Steven met in their late teens at the start of their careers and 14 years, 2 kids, marriage and a business that they had to declare bankruptcy on, Steven has announced that he needs some time out to be on his own and figure out who he is, only to rent himself an apartment and begin a series of flings followed by two girlfriends. Feeling rejected, replaced, and rather confused about what is going on, Natalie helps Molly see what is really going so that she can grab her freedom and build her life on her own terms. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about finding making new friends daunting and shares tips for being more open to it, plus she shares 10 questions for discerning whether your partner is emotionally available, and shares a couple of comments from listeners about what they learned from holidaying on their own, something she talked about in episode 42. This week’s listener question is about how to broach the subject of taking things slowly with sex, and Natalie shares what she’s learned this week. You can download the, Is Your Partner Emotionally Available? questions at www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/46-download The episode about recognising your own availability is www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/28 Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In the latest episode of Why Did We Break Up?, Katie is still reeling after ending a 21-month affair with a married man who doesn’t seem to grasp why him not leaving his wife is a deal-breaker. Natalie helps Katie make the link between this affair, the breakdown of her marriage and earlier experiences in life so that she can use the pain of the fallout of this relationship as a vehicle for huge growth and healing. The blog post that Natalie refers to in the episode about being the favourite child (or wanting to be) influences our disposition to be involved in an affair http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/being-the-favourite-child-or-wanting-to-be-influences-our-disposition-to-involved-in-an-affair/ Also, the post on there’s no such thing as an honest cheat http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/theres-no-such-thing-as-an-honest-cheat-and-other-thoughts-on-cheating/ And another on why affairs are like being double-crossed in a heist http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-affairs-are-like-being-double-crossed-in-a-heist/ 

In this episode, Natalie talks about the unnecessary apologising and backtracking habit, how getting your stuff in order can help you to clear out mentally and emotionally, and the importance of feeling all your feelings. This week’s listener question is about what to do about somebody who hogs the conversation leaving you to be a ‘good listener’, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. The picture of stuff that I bagged up from the corner of my dining room and the comments https://www.instagram.com/p/BJH-LQVB909/?taken-by=natlue Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

It's the year 2000 and Steve and Danielle meet via mutual friends at a club in London. She's fresh out of a relationship with someone she calls "cold" and "emotionally abusive" and he feels as if he's over his ex who left him abruptly during a vulnerable time a few years back. He feels protective of and curious about this woman who he deems "out of his league". Sixteen years, two daughters and a marriage later and they're now divorced. Steve is taking the blame for why Danielle ended the relationship and has proceeded to date other men right under his nose. It's time to answer his question: Why Did We Break Up? Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about going on holiday/vacation on your own and shares stories and tips from her own adventure. Plus, she shares ten tips for conflict resolution when you’re in a relationship, and explains why it’s never the people who are actually bad at their job that have Imposter Syndrome. This week’s listener question is about how to break the cycle of casual relationships when you’re ready for something more serious, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. From the conflict resolution segment: What’s the baggage behind it? www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/2 Get Out of Stuck Guide (for working on beliefs) http://store.baggagereclaim.co.uk/product/get-out-of-stuck-ebook-and-worksheet-pack/ Be notified about when The Breakthrough is open for enrollment http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-breakthrough Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this special edition of the show, which also marks the one-year anniversary, Natalie introduces the new offshoot, Why Did We Break Up?, where she explores one breakup in depth and answers the question of why they broke up. This episode features Yasmine and Russell, two thirty-somethings who 'met' online and arranged to meet up really quickly, only for her to be very turned off by what she saw. Despite her awkwardness and making her excuses, she agreed to keep their arrangement to meet up the following day as she felt a mix of pity and curiosity. Two months of 'friendly' meetups and they slept together, and BOOM, it was the beginning of the end. The Instagram of me recording in the closet: https://instagram.com/p/BJSXemDhNfA  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about why a relationship needs to have purpose and direction if you want it to grow (or for you to feel happy), how to deal with narcissistic co-workers, family and partners, and the importance of redirecting the energy that you use to make you unworthy. This week's listener question is about what to do when you disapprove of your friend's choice in a partner and their impending hasty wedding plans and Natalie shared what she learned this week about dimming her light.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about resistance to taking time off and fear of using holiday allowance, trying to make every relationship fly by being in love or seeing a future with every date and partner, and why we shouldn’t get too carried away by ‘graduation goggles’. This week’s listener question is about distinguishing between ego and boundaries and Natalie shares what she learned this week about managing expectations. What’s the baggage behind it? is at www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/2   Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

Natalie shares some of the themes of her 38th year, talks about why being self-critical creates a vicious cycle where you end up being around people that validate and increase negative feelings, and why setting a time to worry can break a worry habit. This week's listener question is about whether to confront a friend that seems to be pulling back and Natalie shares what she learned this week. The 8 types of inner critic www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/20  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

This week, Natalie explains why being too passive can send the wrong message in a relationship, shares 5 questions to help you figure out your values, and talks about why passive-aggressive gifts really are not a gift at all. This week’s listener question is about how to overcome feelings of jealousy and revenge and Natalie shares what she learned from facing down the big challenge of driving on the motorway. Curbing Your Obsession guide - http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/my-books/curbing-your-obsession-quick-guide-pdf-epub/  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

This week, Natalie explains why decluttering exes and dates from your phone makes good relationship and emotional business, talks about the problem with family secrets, and revisits "You complete me". This week's listener question is about plus-one etiquette and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. The Huff Post piece by Jennifer Aniston http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/for-the-record_us_57855586e4b03fc3ee4e626f My post on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/baggagereclaim/posts/10154221634428950 Episode 2 where I talked about "You complete me" http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/2 Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about pretending to like something when we don't as a means of fitting in or to come across as more appealing to a potential mate. She also explains the 7 types of tricky family and why she's been getting a bit twitchy about turning 39 in a few weeks. Episode 25 about birthdays is http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/25 My cousin's B&B http://www.therunawayjamaica.com Soulful PR https://janetmurray.co.uk That time when I got very stressy at conference http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/lessons-from-a-short-lived-comparison-binge And the keynote that resulted https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LdKIUrAi9ao  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie follows up ep. 33 (baggagereclaim.co.uk/33) where she talked about personality and character not being the same by exploring one of the subjects within this--why someone being charming as their dominant trait can pose certain types of problem. In the second segment, she explains the importance of identifying your money story if you find that you get triggered about money or are experiencing a recurring theme. You can grab the Unsent Letter Guide at baggagereclaim.co.uk/downloads In the third segment, she explains why even when someone can do something, it doesn't mean that they have to. This week's listener question is about what to do when you're single and your loved ones keep prying into your love life.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 33, Natalie talks about the importance of distinguishing between personality and character, why some of us are over-responsible' and how we can start to address it, and why we don't need to keep trying to make somebody see something from our perspective or keep trying to make them explain or apologise. This week's listener question is about what to do when a one-night stand followed by some fun dates peters out but you've developed feelings, plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 32, Natalie talks about gratitude and why shifting the focus of what you think about can have a big impact on your day plus she explains deal-breakers and why we all need to have some things that no matter how much attraction or feelings that we have for someone, that would cause us to opt-out. She also talks about how to know what you're responsible for and helps Prue distinguish between expectations and boundaries in this week's listener question. She also shares what she learned this week. I made a mistake at the end of the episode and the link to the 30-day project, Embrace Healthy Boundaries course is http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/happyboundaries Use the code PODCAST to get 30% off the course. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership