Nobody Told Me!

On this episode, we welcome adventure entrepreneur and author Matthew Walker to the program.  Matt is a behavioral scientist and adventure expedition leader who works with people to take the lessons learned from adventuring and apply them to the everyday challenges we face.  Matt is the author of Adventure in Everything: How the Five Elements of Adventure Create a Life of Authenticity, Purpose, and Inspiration.  His work has been featured on CBS and NPR and in USA Today and Psychology Today, among others.  In the show, he mentions his free '10 Day Challenge', which you can check out at https://mattwalkeradventure.lpages.co/10-day-challenge-copy/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s a pleasure to welcome back time management expert Laura Vanderkam.  Laura is the bestselling author of several books, including What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast, Off the Clock:  Feel Less Busy While Getting More Done and her latest book, Juliet’s School of Possibilities: A Little Story About the Power of Priorities.  Her TED talk, "How to gain control of your free time", has been viewed nearly 8 million times.  Her work has appeared in publications like The New York Times and The Wall Street Journal and has been on numerous TV shows, including The Today Show.   |  We'd like to thank our sponsors for this episode! 1) BETTERHELP: affordable online professional counseling with a licensed therapist.  For 10% off your first month, go to betterhelp.com/nobody  2) MOLEKULE: the only air purifier that actually destroys pollutants.  Listen to the show to hear our exclusive offer code for $75 off your first order at molekule.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On August 26, 2015, the lives of Andy and Barbara Parker changed forever when their daughter Alison, a news reporter for WDBJ, was murdered along with her cameraman, Adam Ward while conducting an interview on live television near Roanoke, Virginia.  The nation was stunned by the killings and President Barack Obama said he was “heartbroken”.  The gunman was a former reporter for the TV station who killed himself hours later following a car chase with police.  On the day of his daughter’s death, while his emotions were still raw, Andy Parker vowed on national television to do “whatever it takes” to end gun violence in America.  He’s written about his daughter’s murder and his fight for gun safety in the new book,  For Alison: The Murder of a Young Journalist and a Father's Fight for Gun Safety.  The book is about showing people, in painful detail, what it’s like to receive the worst phone call of your life and feel your guts get ripped right out on the kitchen floor.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit meg

Heart disease is the number one killer of women, outpacing all types of cancer, diabetes and stroke.  And, while men and women face the same classic risk factors for heart disease, like high cholesterol and high blood pressure, women often manifest heart disease in different ways than men.  Our guest on this episode, Dr. Mark Menolascino, has been on the frontlines of cardiac research for most of his professional career and believes the institution of medicine hasn’t treated women’s heart health with the same care and investment as men’s.  He wants to change that and has written a new book called, Heart Solution for Women.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There’s been an alarming increase in the levels of stress and anxiety experienced by girls from elementary school to college.  Research indicates the number of girls who say they often feel nervous, worried or fearful jumped 55% from 2009 to 2014, while anxiety levels for boys remained unchanged.   Joining us on this episode is New York Times bestselling author and clinical psychologist Lisa Damour, who’s witnessed this in her own research, private practice, and at the all-girls school where she consults.  Lisa writes about the problem and what we can do about it in her new book, Under Pressure:  Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls.  She also writes the monthly Adolescence column for The New York Times. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do Bill Gates, Steven Spielberg, Pitbull, Maya Angelou, and Mark Zuckerberg have in common? Bestselling author and "Forbes 30 Under 30" Alex Banayan spent seven years tracking down dozens of the world’s most successful people to learn the secrets of how they carved their own paths in life and business.  He found they all made their own way by using what he calls, “The Third Door”.  It’s not the front door or the VIP door, but there’s always a way in -- it just takes grit, persistence, and creativity!  His book, The Third Door:  The Wild Quest to Uncover How the World’s Most Successful People Launched their Careers, was named the Top Career Book to Read in 2018 by Forbes Magazine.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Joining us on this episode is Leigh Steinberg, who is known as one of the greatest sports agents in history and the real-life inspiration for the film, Jerry Maguire.  Leigh has represented the #1 pick in the NFL draft a record setting 8 times and has negotiated well over three billion dollars in contract deals for his clients including Patrick Mahomes, Steve Young, Troy Aikman, and Oscar De La Hoya.  And while Leigh’s life has been filled with unbelievable highs, he’s also had some high-profile struggles which he writes about in his book, The Agent: My 40-Year Career Making Deals and Changing the Game.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

According to the Centers for Disease Control, over 20% of the adult population in the United States suffers from chronic pain. It’s estimated that between 11 million and 20 million Americans suffer from pain so severe that it frequently limits their work or life activities. Sarah Anne Shockley is one of those chronic pain sufferers, having lived with debilitating nerve pain since 2007.  She felt isolated and alone and wished she’d had a guide to living with more ease in the midst of pain and ultimately, relieving the pain.  She ended up writing such a book herself,  which provides practical advice for living with chronic pain and for relieving suffering on mental, emotional, and physical levels.  The book is called The Pain Companion:  Everyday Wisdom for Living With and Moving Beyond Chronic Pain.  |  *** We'd like to thank our sponsor for this episode, BetterHelp, the world's largest online counseling platform! You can get 10% off your first month by going to betterhelp.com/nobody. Learn more about your ad

Valentine's Day can be incredibly rough when you're single, but we have good news: this episode is perfect to help you heal old wounds and get excited about the wonderful things in store for you.  Licensed psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Guy Winch is the author of the brook, 'How to Fix a Broken Heart', which aims to help people heal after a breakup or death of someone they love.  His viral TED Talk, 'Why We All Need to Practice Emotional First Aid', has been viewed over 5 million times and is rated among the top 5 most inspiring talks of all time on TED.com.  In this interview, he tells us that our past heartbreaks do not define us, shares the best ways to heal, and reminds us that there are many other fish in the sea! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're thrilled to share this conversation with Stanford Engineering School Professor Tina Seelig, author of 17 books including the international bestseller, What I Wish I Knew When I Was 20.    Tina was trained as a neuroscientist and has always been interested in how we think, especially how we come up with bold new ideas. Her Ted talk on the “Little Risks You Can Take to Increase Your Luck” has had close to two and a half million views.     *** We'd like to thank our sponsors for this episode! 1) BETTERHELP: get 10% off your first month by going to betterhelp.com/nobody  2) ZOLA: start your wedding website and get $50 off of your registry on Zola, go to zola.com/nobodytoldme *** Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Enjoy this NTM Nugget from Jay Pharaoh, a Saturday Night Live alum best known for impersonating people like Barack Obama and Kanye West.  Today, he's on the road as a stand up comedian and has some great wisdom to share with us about what he's learned during his career. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we talk to Reshma Saujani, the Founder and CEO of Girls Who Code, a national non-profit organization working to close the gender gap in computer science and technology.  We learn what inspired her new book, 'Brave, Not Perfect: Fear Less, Fail More, and Live Bolder' and why it's so important to take chances, embrace the unknown, and unlearn perfectionism.  As Reshma says, "we need to start doing things we suck at", like going to a dance class for fun even when we know we're going to be the worst one in there, in order to learn to embrace imperfection and failure.  She believes that by gaining resilience and making bravery a lifelong habit, we will lead much happier and more fulfilled lives. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode, we’re going to take a wide-ranging look at emotions in the workplace.  How should you deal with jealousy, insecurity, panic, anger or simply having your feelings hurt on the job?  Our guests, Liz Fosslien and Mollie West Duffy, are organizational consultants who’ve studied how emotions affect our professional lives and how we can navigate emotions at work.  They've written about it in their new book, No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dating is one of the hottest topics these days, as the traditional ways of meeting potential matches and the rules for finding love have changed dramatically over recent years thanks to apps and websites.  Our guest on this episode, dating coach Damona Hoffman, knows just about everything about the topic: in addition to hosting two TV series on love & relationships for A&E, her coaching methods have recently been featured in People, Oprah Magazine, and the Washington Post.  She's also a real life success story, having met her husband online.  In this episode, she sheds some light on why singles of any age should give the apps a shot, how to make your dating profile stand out, conversation openers, great first date options, the best ways to follow up after that date, and why in the end, you should enjoy the process (even though it can be frustrating at the time) because it will all work out the way it's supposed to in the end. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you a workaholic?  A perfectionist?  An overachiever?  Maybe all three of those things?  Our guest on this episode, Dr. Bryan Robinson is a licensed psychotherapist who describes himself as a “recovering” workaholic.  He’s the author of a new book aimed at helping people break the cycle of over-working.  The book is called #Chill:  Turn Off Your Job and Turn On Your Life.  In this conversation, we talk about how to create a work-life balance, how to deal with burnout, why we shouldn't multitask, the best way to start out your day, and why everyone should try meditation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices