Married To Doctors

Episode 148 is the last episode of season 1 of The Married To Doctors Podcast.  Beginning on Sept. 10th you will hear a new sound and Lara will be creating and sharing her best episodes yet!  In this episode Lara shares some of the joys and challenges she faced as she created the Married To Doctors Podcast. 

Have you ever looked forward to a break between semesters or training only to be frustrated when expectations aren't met?   If so, you are not alone!  Sometimes physicians (and their families) struggle with free time.  In this episode, we explore how to discuss each other's needs and how to communicate those expectations. For complete show notes and additional resources visit www.marriedtodoctors.com

Lara speaks with Jamia Ponder about her experience going to therapy, her realization that her accomplishments were tied to her children and husband, and her desire to do something just for her.  Click here for back to school group coaching call!  

In this episode, Lara speaks with Linda Abdelsayed (MFT) regarding infertility and the medical journey. What makes infertility unique for physician families? Timing and privacy are two things that come to mind quickly, but on further inspection, there is also a real loss for some couples if they don't feel the father is involved during the many necessary appointments.  Linda and Lara will discuss ideas for dealing with these situations as well as Linda's personal story and how she came to work in the infertility space. About Linda: Linda Meier Abdelsayed is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who lives in Orange County, California, with her husband (a Urologist) and 4-year-old boy/girl twins. She is the founder of Smart Talk, a teletherapy practice that helps adults improve their quality of life. Over the past three years, Smart Talk has grown to be present in six states: California, Illinois, New York, Florida, Georgia, and Hawaii.   Website: www.smarttalktherapy.com Email: info@smarttalktherapy.com

Episode Notes:  In this episode, Lara interviews the author and CEO, Shona Elliott.   They have a conversation covering leadership decisions during COVID, how physicians can communicate with hospital administration more effectively, and some practical advice for your medical marriage.  Shona also shares the personal story as she works towards being an ambitious career woman, a mom, and yes, the wife of a physician.   Announcements:  You should also know that my coaching prices are going up on July 15th.  They have been marked down by half since March due to COVID.  As long as you purchase by the 15th, you get the discounted price, there is no expiration date on when you use the sessions.   "You are a good coach!!! Before one of my sessions, I had a lot of inner turmoil about a situation and immediately after the session, I felt so much better. The situation was the same, but you helped me to change my thoughts, and once I did that it made a world of difference. . ."-Whitney P. Recently I've been coaching on

 In this episode, Kwavi Agbeyegbe will share her stories and opinions on racism and how each of us can do our best to help. She also shares about her medical marriage and the ways to nurture a marriage.  She has been married for 20 years.

In this episode, Lara discusses expectations with Hannah Pye.  Hannah shares how she did not fulfill her dream of becoming a surgeon, and how "things that looked like a failure but can set you up for success."  She also shares her categories for managing expectations during the residency years.  This episode is sponsored by Better Help.  To learn more and get 10% off your first-month visit here.   

Jacqueline Harounian shares her knowledge of family law and how it impacts physician spouses.   

In this episode, Lara talks with board-certified sexologist Dr. Lanae St. John about sex and stress. We cover topics from the struggles we may face in our relationships, tips to improve our sex lives and relationship, and how to teach sex positivity to our kids. Announcements Share the Podcast It would mean the world to me if you would share the podcast with your friends and family! This podcast and our community has always grown simply by word of mouth. Let's keep growing and supporting one another! Private Facebook Group and Zoom Calls   Come join our private Facebook Group. We are also doing Face to Face Zoom calls, daily check-ins, and creating a supportive community during this crazy time. If you’d like to join in, please feel welcome to do so! Feature Fridays Come join us for LIVE events in the Facebook Group! Just to name a few…we have made homemade pasta, learned how to find and understand scientific/medical articles, and participated in a paint along. All put on by fellow physician spouses! I Want to

Blogger and life coach, Kendra Harvey shares with us her experiences as a physician spouse and how life can be good at any stage.  This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp.com/Married They offer a 10% discount to all listeners if you use this link.

Today's episode is a replay of episode 27.  It is a great example of reaching out for help.  With emotions close to the surface, I want to encourage all of you to know two things:  1. people care about you and your well being and 2. there are resources you can use For information on coaching with Lara visit:  https://marriedtodoctors.com/coaching/ Today's sponsor is Better Help.  For 10% off your first month, visit www.betterhelp.com/married If you are a medical professional, there is a free hotline during COVID: www.councilforrelationships.org    

Is it okay to laugh in the middle of a pandemic?  Lara will share some research on the healthiness of laughter and how it brings us together.  She also attempts to tell some (bad) jokes with her sister-in-law.   Enjoy! Announcements New Sponsor BetterHelp Need help to counterbalance negative emotions? I’m excited to share that I have partnered with BetterHelp. BetterHelp has licensed therapists who are certified by their state’s board to provide therapy and counseling. I’ve signed up myself and am currently using it so I have someone to talk to during this time. This service is perfect to take advantage of while during this time of social distancing. You can receive licensed counseling through video calls, phone calls, or text messaging. You will be matched with a counselor in 24 hours or less, which is one thing that I love. Plus, you can receive 10% off your first month of counseling through this link. Private Facebook Group Come join our private Facebook Group. We are also doing daily check-ins and creat

Lara shares how naming our emotions can help us have a greater sense of control over our feelings during these complicated times.  She gives personal examples and helps give words to what many of us are experiencing.  Today's episode is sponsored by Better Help. You can receive licensed counseling through video calls, phone calls, or text messaging. You will be matched with a counselor in 24 hours or less, which is one thing that I love. Plus, you can receive 10% off your first month of counseling through this link.

Lara will walk you through an exercise she uses with clients to help them counterbalance their negative thinking.  She teaches you the four "magic" words that will allow room for positive as well as negative emotion when you are stressed.  Download Lara's free guide to using this tool here, or on her website, www.marriedtodoctors.com This episode is sponsored by Better Help.  To get 10% off your first-month use this link: betterhelp.com/married 

Lara speaks with fellow physician spouse, Donna Rovito about what physician families are doing to stay safe during the COVID 19 Pandemic.  They share reasons why couples are staying together as well as reasons to separate. Read Donna's article here.  For complete show notes, visit www.marriedtodoctors.com  This Episode is sponsored by Better Help.  To get 10% off your first month, visit www.betterhelp.com/married

COVID-19 has created a crisis. Medical professionals are heroically serving the public without proper face masks because they don’t have them and can’t get them.  This incredible need inspired physicians, dentists, and their families to make a new mask available to print locally.  It's permanently free for anyone to produce. Join this urgent worldwide effort to help protect those caring for the sick in your community.  Visit www.makethemasks.com to learn more, including how to approach your hospital about this option.  This is episode is sponsored by Better Help.  To learn more and get 10% off your first month, visit betterhelp.com/married

COVID-19 is affecting our children.  Learn more about the importance of play and how to help them in this special bonus episode.  If you enjoyed this (or know someone who would) please share the new podcast, Positivity When Social Distancing with others.   

COVID-19 has changed our lives.  I discuss briefly a few resources for you, including my new podcast: Positivity When Social Distancing.  Then I share an interview with a dual physician couple.  They discuss how they work together, gender differences, and feelings of jealousy that can arise even though they are both practicing medicine. 

In episode 130, Lara interviews Shane Tenny of Spaugh Dameron, Tenny to discuss ways he has seen couples demonstrate various levels of financial infidelity.  They explore how finances and our conversations about money affect our marriages. 

Our favorite resources:  https://coronavirus.jhu.edu/  This is a good all-around website with information for both the public and healthcare providers alike.    Home care for patients with suspected novel coronavirus (COVID-19) infection presenting with mild symptoms, and management of their contacts The article describes in detail how to care for yourself and others at home in a fashion to prevent others from catching the illness, too. https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/hcp/guidance-risk-assesment-hcp.html This link gives practical definition, stratification, and guidelines to exposure of healthcare professionals, which we can extrapolate to some degree to the public as we all start to come in contact with others, who turn out to be infected. https://www.jhsph.edu/podcasts/public-health-on-call Podcast from Johns Hopkins on COVID-19. https://marriedtodoctors.com/beyond-disney-plus-18-ways-to-keep-sane-if-self-isolating-with-older-kids/ Ideas when practicing social distancing.