Sexology

Welcome to episode 215 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Connell Barrett to the podcast. In this episode, Connell speaks with me about ways we can navigate our first-time having sex in a new relationship, the importance of play and Why being present is so important.    Dating coach Connell Barrett has one mission: help men defeat loneliness and attract their soulmates, as their most authentic, confident selves. The founder of Dating Transformation and a coach with The League dating app, Connell spent years training with the world’s best relationship and self-development experts.     Connell’s next project? Showing men a new way to date with his forthcoming book, Dating Sucks But You Don’t, the complete dating guide for men in the #MeToo era, to be published in May by Simon & Schuster.    In this episode, you will hear:     How Connell became interested in this line of work   Creating flirtatious conversation   Learning to talk more around emotion and less ar

Welcome to episode 214 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Sarah E. Hill to the podcast. In this episode, Dr Hill speaks with me about the issues around birth control and sex, how birth control affects sexuality, the side effects of birth control and recommendations on the best practices for women to follow.    Dr. Sarah E. Hill is at the forefront of research on the effects of the pill on women’s psychology. A star psychologist with a PhD from the University of Texas, she is currently a researcher and professor with more than 50 published scientific articles to her name.      Her ground-breaking research on women, health, and sexual psychology has garnered more than half a million dollars in grant funding and has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, Scientific American, The Economist, and many others.      Most recently, Sarah has authored “This is your brain on birth control: the surprising science of women, hormones, and the law of unintended co

Welcome to episode 213 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Maci Daye to the podcast. In this episode, Maci speaks to me about ways to make sex more exciting in a long-term relationship, re-engaging with your partner to have more passionate sex and the importance of healing in a relationship to improve sexuality.    Maci Daye is a licensed professional counselor, certified Hakomi therapist, and certified sex therapist. In addition to clinical practice, she is on the faculty of the Hakomi Institute and teaches in the United States and Europe.     She is the creator of Passion and Presence® couples’ retreats and a frequent conference presenter. She regularly leads courses in the USA, Australia, New Zealand, and Europe. She holds graduate degrees from Harvard and Georgia State Universities.    In this episode, you will hear:     Looking at the various stages couples go through with their sex life  Ways to make sex more exciting in a long-term relationship  Understandi

Welcome to episode 212 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Kleinplatz talks to me about learning to be present to have more fulfilling sex, how you can learn to be more present and how this is possible for anyone to achieve.     Peggy J. Kleinplatz, Ph.D., is Professor in the Faculty of Medicine and Director of the Optimal Sexual Experiences Research Team at the University of Ottawa, Canada. Please see She is a Certified Sex Therapist and Educator.      Kleinplatz has edited four books including Sadomasochism: Powerful Pleasures with Charles Moser, Ph.D., M.D., Sexuality and Ageing (2015) with Walter Bouman, M.D. and notably New Directions in Sex Therapy: Innovations and Alternatives, winner of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counsellors and Therapists (AASECT) 2013 Book Award.     In 2015, Kleinplatz received the AASECT Professional Standard of Excellence Award. She is the author with A. Dana Menard

Welcome to episode 211 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Michael Castleman to the podcast. In this episode Michael talks to me about male orgasms, the ways in which men can fake orgasms, contributing factors that lead to men not being able to ejaculate and we look at Michael’s new book, Sizzling Sex for Life.    Michael Castleman has been at the forefront of health, wellness, and sexuality journalism for almost 50 years. His two previous sexuality guides—Sexual Solutions (Simon & Schuster, 1991) and Great Sex (Rodale, 2004) have sold more than 600,000 copies. His 12 other books on optimal health, mainstream medicine, alternative therapies, nutrition, and fitness, have sold more than 1.5 million copies.      For the past 15 years, Castleman’s writing has focused almost exclusively on sexuality, sex research, and sex therapy. His twice-monthly blog on PsychologyToday.com, “All About Sex,” launched in 2009, attracts some 700,000 views a month—with total views topping 50 mil

Welcome to episode 210 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Alicia & Erwan Davon to the podcast. In this episode Alicia & Erwan speak to me about extended orgasms, accessing a higher level of arousal and ways in which you can learn to have an extended orgasm.     For over 25 years Erwan who was joined by Alicia in 2003 have been working successfully with singles and couples, teaching their signature process – the Davon Method to hundreds of students in groups, retreats, and individual sessions and helping them create the relationships of their dreams.     Erwan and Alicia have a unique approach to relationship coaching that combines their educational backgrounds in psychology and aspects of Zen Buddhism to provide a holistic method to effectively improve connection with the self and others     Erwan studied psychology after a difficult childhood and an early introduction to therapeutic work. He went on to live and study in a Zen Monastery, direct a yoga ashram, and

Welcome to episode 209 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Yekaterina Bakhta to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Bakhta speaks with me about the issues around achieving orgasms, why some women lose their sexual drive and looking at available medicines and treatments that can improve sexual desire.    Dr. Yekaterina Bakhta is a board-certified ObGyn who provides exceptional care to women of all ages. Uniquely experienced in treating female sexual dysfunction, she cares for patients with painful intercourse, low libido and difficulty with orgasm.     Striving to perfect female beauty and function inside and out, Dr. Bakhta utilizes the newest medications, cutting edge technology and innovative surgical techniques. . She offers a variety of treatments to enhance the female form and is developing advances in cosmetic gynecology and esthetics.      Dr. Bakhta’s extensive training in minimally invasive surgical techniques include vaginal reconstruction, labioplasty, incontin

Welcome to episode 208 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Ali Mushtaq to the podcast. In this episode Ali talks to me about BDSM and social justice, incorporating spirituality into sexuality and steps you can take if you’re interested in exploring BDSM.     Dr. Mushtaq has his PhD in Sociology from University of California: San Francisco and Masters in Social and Demographic analysis from University of California: Irvine. He is Mr. Long Beach Leather 2016 and has been profiled by numerous editorials, including the New York Times.  Ali also has written several op-eds and scholarly articles that focus on race and sexuality. He is also a former college professor and has taught numerous courses that have focused on sexual identity and research methods. Currently, he is coauthoring a book on Black women AIDS activists and is on contact with Lexington Press.     Dr. Mushtaq also founded and owns Getting Wolfie LLC, which provides education related to diversity and empowerment.

Welcome to episode 207 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Lucy Rowett to the podcast. In this episode Lucy speaks to me about reclaiming sexuality after being raised as an Evangelical Christian, learning to challenge negative sex messages and dispelling the myth that having sexual feelings is sinful.     Lucy Rowett is a sexologist and intimacy coach based in Brighton, UK. She describes herself as an Evangelical Sexologist and pleasure advocate, who is passionate about empowering women to liberate their bodies and souls from the shackles of shame. She uses a fusion of "neck up" and "neck down" approaches, combining sexology and accurate sexuality education with somatic practices, taoism, tantra, and embodiment.     As a sexpert, she has been quoted in many online publications such as Kinkly, Men's Health, Glamour, Dame, O Diaries, Oprah Magazine, Brides, Tinder Swipe Life, and The Body. She grew up in London in the 90s and 00s in the Church, and got the fu

Welcome to episode 206 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Kathryn Klement to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Klement speaks with me about sexual narcissism, its effects on relationships, early signs and red flags and exploring sexual boundaries with your partner.     Dr. Kathryn Klement (they/them) is an Assistant Professor of Psychology of Women & Gender at Bemidji State University.  Their primary teaching interests are human sexuality, gender, and research methods.  Their major research interests include sexual violence, how transphobia relates to other systems of oppression, and transgender patients’ experiences in healthcare.  They have also published work related to consensual BDSM (bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism), sexual consent, and sexual entitlement.      In this episode, you will hear:     What is sexual narcissism?  Identifying sexual narcissism in relationships  The effect patriarchy has on this issue  Looki

Welcome to episode 205 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Tripp Kramer to the podcast. In this episode Tripp speaks with me about how men can learn to better talk to women, the traps men fall into when trying to initiate sex too quickly, and understanding the role and importance of emotional safety.     Tripp Kramer is an internationally known dating coach and founder of Tripp Advice, a men's dating advice company. He is also the creator of the popular YouTube channel "Tripp Advice", which teaches men how to become more attractive to women and host of his own weekly podcast entitled "How To Talk To Girls". Tripp currently resides in Chicago Illinois.    In this episode, you will hear:     The common mistakes men make when talking to women   Looking at the negative experience's men have when trying to talk to women   The importance of being authentic and true to yourself  Looking at the issue of rejection and how to deal with it  Why you need

Welcome to episode 204 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT to the podcast. In this episode Ian speaks with me about the psychological reasons men have low desire, the negative consequences shame can have on your sex life and learning to reconnect with your sexual self.    Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist and nationally recognized sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy and working with individuals on a range of relational issues. Ian is the New York Times best-selling author She Comes First (Harper Collins), which has been translated into more than a dozen languages. He regularly consults for articles in major publications such as The Atlantic and The Economist, and he also writes on the topic of sex for CNN Health. He is the co-director of the sex therapy program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy, one of New York's oldest and most respected not-for-profit mental health training an

Welcome to episode 203 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Judson Brandeis to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Brandeis talks to me about the issues of low testosterone, how can you increase your testosterone levels and analyzing how a healthy lifestyle will lead to a better sex drive.     Dr. Judson Brandeis is a board-certified urologist specializing in men's sexual medicine. Brandeis has always been on the cutting edge of Urology. Dr. Judson Brandeis has been voted by SF Magazine as a Top Urologist in the SF Bay Area from 2014 to 2020.  In February of 2019, he opened his male-oriented office in San Ramon to focus his practice entirely on men’s sexual health and rejuvenation. BrandeisMD is a national leader in technology and innovations in sexual medicine.  Dr. Brandeis is the National Director of Clinical Excellence for GAINSWave and created and runs the SWEET Study, the largest study of Shockwave Therapy for ED ever.     Brandeis has appeared on The Doctor's TV

Welcome to episode 202 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Jeff Abraham to the podcast. In this episode Jeff speaks to me about premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction, common questions that men bring up when talking about these issues and we take a look at the scientific studies and credentials around Promescent.    Jeff Abraham is the CEO of Absorption Pharmaceuticals, whose lead product, Promescent, is addressing a global need for men suffering from Premature Ejaculation and Erectile Dysfunction. He and his team are dedicated to bringing innovative products to market that solve sexual performance issues for both men and women. With over 10-years experience in the field of sexual wellness, Jeff has seen and heard from thousands of couples and is a great thought leader in the space.    In this episode, you will hear:     Common questions that men bring up about their sexuality when talking about premature ejaculation   The differences between men and women on w

Welcome to a bonus Halloween episode of the Sexology Podcast! On this episode, I talk about how you can get playful with Halloween themes in the bedroom with my guest, sex therapist and host of Sex Talk with Erika, Erika Miley.   Erika Miley is the founder and practice owner of The Center for Mental and Sexual Health. She believes in accessible, confidential, and comfortable therapy. Erika graduated from Whitworth University with a Master’s of Education in Clinical Mental Health. She has worked in public agencies, prisons, and in her own private practice. Erika’s specialty lies in Sexuality, working with monogamous and non-monogamous couples, non-binary genders, as well as people who suffer from anxiety and depression.   In this episode, you will hear: The importance of incorporating fun in your sex life during these turbulent times Tapping into different dynamics to surprise your partner Role playing by dressing up in costumes Changing locations for something exciting and new How to work in exhibitionism in

Today on the Sexology Podcast we are celebrating our 200th episode! We’ll be revisiting past episodes that our listeners selected as the ones that helped them the most and provided the best sex advice.     In this episode, you will hear clips from:     Dr. Lonnie Barbach, a clinical-social psychologist, has received numerous awards for her work on sexuality and has written a dozen books on relationships, sexuality and menopause in addition to a number of video tapes and audio tapes.      http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/04/02/how-to-please-your-lover-by-dr-lonnie-barbach      Dr. Alison Ash is a sex and intimacy coach and educator, lecturer at Stanford University, author, and founder of TurnON.love.     http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/12/03/art-and-science-of-seduction-with-dr-alison-ash/      Caitlin V is a sex and relationship coach who helps men become amazing lovers and incredible partners.     http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/08/20/how-to-last-longer-in-bed/    

Welcome to episode 199 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Tina speaks with me about overcoming religious shame around sex, taking a look at the historical context of abstinence and learning how to remain within your religion whilst having a healthy sex life.     Dr. Tina is a vibrant thought leader around issues of sexuality, intimacy, and spirituality. Her life’s work is centered around rooting out the causes of sexual shame and providing tools that disarm and demystify all the negative messages that we receive in American culture and so often in religious circles. She regularly speaks at events, conferences, intimacy retreats, churches, and universities around the country.     Dr. Tina is a sex therapist, former professor of Marriage and Family Therapy at Seattle Pacific University, founder of the Northwest Institute on Intimacy, AASECT-certified supervisor, mother, wife, and author. She is currently doing work o

Welcome to episode 198 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Rebecca Gibson to the podcast. In this episode Rebecca speaks with me about sex robots, how people become attracted to them, why they won’t help you with relational skills and what the future holds as technology and AI continue to improve.   Rebecca Gibson is an adjunct professor at American University and Indiana University South Bend. Her published works include "Desire in the Age of Robots and AI: An Investigation in Science Fiction and Fact" (Palgrave Macmillan 2019) and "The Corseted Skeleton: A Bioarchaeology of Binding" (Palgrave Macmillan 2020).   She holds a PhD in Anthropology from American University, and when not writing or teaching can be found reading mystery novels amidst a pile of stuffed animals.      In this episode, you will hear:  What are sex robots?   How did Rebecca become interested in this line of work?  Why is there a lack of male sex robots?  Looking at the reasons

Welcome to episode 197 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Stephen Diamond to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Diamond talks to me about how we can best use the daimonic in our lives, analyzing the underlying reasons for our sexual fantasies and different ways we can engage with our fantasies.     Dr. Stephen Diamond is a licensed clinical and forensic psychologist practicing in Los Angeles, CA. A former pupil and protégé of existential psychoanalyst Rollo May, he is the author of Anger, Madness, and the Daimonic: The Psychological Genesis of Violence, Evil, and Creativity (State University of New York Press, 1996). Dr. Diamond has contributed chapters to the bestselling anthology Meeting the Shadow: The Hidden Power of the Dark Side of Human Nature (1990), Spirituality and Psychological Health (2005), the Encyclopedia of Psychology and Religion (2009), Writing Music (2018), a chapter titled "Existential Therapy: Confronting Life's Ultimate Concerns" to the textboo

Welcome to episode 196 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Cyndi Darnell to the podcast. In this episode Cyndi talks to me about dating in the time of coronavirus, exploring your sexuality during a pandemic and improving intimacy during this challenging time.    Cyndi Darnell is a NY based, internationally renowned sex & relationships therapist & clinical sexologist. Originally from Australia, her approach spans the clinical to the esoteric. Her academic work is published in the Journal of Sex Education (UK) & Sexual & Relationship Therapy (UK).     She holds a board affiliate position for the University of Wisconsin - Stout Graduate Certificate in Sex Therapy Program. She’s a clinical associate with Pink Therapy UK and faculty on Pink Therapy's Foundation Certificate in Gender, Sexuality & Relationship Diversity Therapy and at New York’s Omega Institute.     Her online courses  and podcast The Erotic Philosopher meet today’s adult sex education nee