Meg-john And Justin

In this podcast we discuss the short story ‘Cat Person’ by Kristen Roupenian which appeared in The New Yorker last week and has been shared all over social media, partly due to its resonances with the recent #metoo campaign. We’d recommend reading the story - or listening to the audio - before listening to the podcast. But we’d also like to give content notes (for both the story and for our discussion) that there are themes of non-consensual sex, fear of sexual violence, gender shaming and stereotypes, fatphobia, and whorephobia. https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2017/12/11/cat-person http://megjohnandjustin.com/cat-person

A quick companion piece to the latest podcast 'Sex Under The Weather' where we answer a listener's question about sex after injury.

This week on the podcast we focused on how to navigate sex when you’re feeling physically or emotionally under the weather or low, as many people do over the Winter period.

In this episode we chat about our work together in the light of really disappointing sales of our book. We reflect on our discussions we've been having lately about whether we should continue working together.

Post #MeToo we chatted some more about consent. Rather than making someone do something that we want them to do, what if our aim was consent? #consent #MJandJ

Recorded before #MeToo started trending again, we talk about power and consent in light of the recent Harvey Weinstein allegations. We don't talk about specifics but generally about power and consent and how this stuff is actually relevant to pretty much all relationships.

In this week’s podcast we answer the following question: "I'm an older queer guy who's just started dating a really lovely trans man. Apart from talking to him, which we are doing, where can I get helpful advice and insight into my own "stuff"? I came out late in life - and I am not really used to a lot of the gay scene - which is probably an advantage! Any advice or comments gratefully received :)"

Today we’re talking about having crushes on people when you can’t do anything about it. For example: if you work together; or they (or you) are in a monogamous relationship; or where there is a power dynamic for either of you which would make it impossible for it to be consensual; or if one of you is a dead hologram on a TV series and you are a school kid.

Content note: There’s brief mention of biphobic stereotypes, domestic abuse, and sexual assault in this post and podcast. For Bi visibility week we talk about some of the issues that may come up for Bi folk in sex/relationships. The last 7 minutes are a total shambles but made us laugh.

It's Sexual Health Week this week and the focus here in the UK is on porn and how we can teach young people about it. Listen to us chat about whether porn is actually the sexual health issue that people often say it is and what the alternatives are.

We have a lovely chat with Alex Iantaffi about gender and about Alex and MJ's new book 'How to Understand Your Gender' which is really brilliant. http://www.jkp.com/uk/how-to-understand-your-gender-2.html

This week we have a question "If people do decide that that they want to learn to be "better" at sex... How would you advise a woman who has enjoyable sex with her(female) partners but would better like to learn how to have more reliable/reproducible orgasms. Solo and with a partner."

So we don't describe ourselves as 'sex positive'. This might sounds pretty strange to you cos we've written a book called ‘Enjoy Sex’ which sounds pretty positive right? And surely we’re not negative about sex, which is the alternative to being positive? In this podcast and blog post we thought we’d explain what we understand by sex positivity - and sex negativity - and why we prefer something beyond either of these options, called being sex critical.

We chat about hierarchies of different kinds of relationships and why they might be bad for other relationships but also can be bad for that one at the top. You can read a blog/transcript of what we talked about here. http://www.megjohnandjustin.com/relationships/hierarchies-meg-john-justin-podcast

Our guide to NO. Our latest offering in taking a very simple sounding thing and unpacking it to give you properly useful advice (rather than 'just say no' or 'no means no')

In this episode we chat about how you might explore different kinds of sex that don't involve your genitals. Not only is this good for people who are not into genital sex but it will also be great for people who are. Longer one than usual. Sorry (not sorry).

A recording of a panel discussion involving us and artist Aleksandra Karpowicz at St Barnabas House in London's Soho. We talked about her amazing project 'Let's Talk About Sex'. You can see the images here http://www.akarpowicz.co.uk/?portfolios=lets-talk-about-sex (nude images) and will probably get more out of the podcast if you check them out. Justin and Meg-John also talk about fantasies, roles, sex advice, sex education and stuff.

How to deal with a discrepancy in desire in a long-term relationship? We have tons of advice in this podcast for you. If you like this, you'll LOVE our book Enjoy Sex (How, When and IF You Want To). megjohnandjustin.com/publications

Where we talk about Master of None series 2 and give some relationship advice to Dev. Dude needs to read about relationship anarchy and to buy our 'Make Your Own Relationship User Manual' zine.

Where we give advice about triggering, what it is and how to deal with it. Content note: we discuss different meanings of 'being triggered' and how to approach being triggered. We don't describe details of any experience, but there are brief mentions of potential triggers including sexual assault, racism, non-consensual behaviour, and war.