Happiness Podcast

How To Stop the Hurt (When Others Hurt You) When someone hurts you, it's natural to want to lash out and hurt them back. However, this reaction is often counterproductive and can lead to more hurt and conflict. Here are some strategies you can use to resist the urge to retaliate when someone has wronged you: Acknowledge your feelings. It's important to acknowledge your hurt and anger. Don't try to suppress your emotions, as this can lead to unhealthy coping mechanisms. Allow yourself to feel your feelings, but don't let them control you. Take some time to cool down. Before you react, take some time to calm down. This will help you think more clearly and avoid saying or doing something you'll regret later. Try taking some deep breaths, going for a walk, or doing another activity that helps you relax. Consider the situation. Try to see things from the other person's perspective. Why did they hurt you? Was it intentional or unintentional? Was it a one-time thing or part of a larger pattern? Understanding the oth

How to Stop Suffering and Be Happy Our inherent human capacity for dreaming and aspiration is a double-edged sword. While it fuels our drive for progress and self-improvement, it also serves as a constant reminder of the gap between our imagined ideals and the realities we face. This dissonance between our aspirations and our lived experiences is a fertile ground for suffering. We become acutely aware of our shortcomings, our missed opportunities, and the stark contrast between the life we envision and the one we inhabit. The path to genuine happiness lies not in chasing after elusive desires, but in cultivating preferences that align with our actual experiences. Instead of relentlessly pursuing an unattainable perfection, we can embrace the beauty and imperfections of our present reality. We can find contentment in the simple joys of life, in the connections we forge with others, and in the pursuit of meaningful endeavors that enrich our existence. This shift in perspective requires a conscious effort to det

Success vs. Happiness (Horizontal vs. Vertical Growth) Regarding how we invest our time in evolving throughout our lives, there are three distinct pathways we typically pursue. The first path is stagnation, characterized by a lack of personal growth and development. The second path is horizontal growth, which involves acquiring expertise in a specific domain, such as becoming a skilled electrical engineer or an exceptional parent. The third path is vertical growth, which encompasses our development as psychologically healthy individuals, fostering self-awareness, resilience, and emotional well-being.     New Happiness Podcast episode with Dr. Robert Puff, Newport Beach Psychologist

Staying Young at Heart One of the most significant "accomplishments' we can have is staying young at heart throughout our lives.   But this can be challenging, given all the emotional challenges we face. This talk explores the importance and possibility of staying young at heart. New Happiness Podcast episode with Dr. Robert Puff, Newport Beach Psychologist

The Razor’s Edge: Happiness Happiness is challenging like walking on a razor's edge because it requires a delicate balance. On the one hand, we want to experience joy, love, and contentment. On the other hand, we must also accept and manage sadness, anger, and fear. One of the challenges of happiness is that it is often fleeting. A positive moment can quickly be overshadowed by a negative event. Additionally, our happiness is influenced by a variety of factors, both internal and external. This can make it difficult to maintain a state of happiness over time. Another challenge of happiness is that it is subjective. What makes one person happy may not have the same effect on another. This can lead to feelings of comparison and inadequacy. Additionally, our definition of happiness may change over time. This can make it difficult to know what we are striving for. Despite the challenges, happiness is an essential part of a well-lived life. It can improve our physical and mental health, strengthen our relationships

Work-Life Balance (New Research Study) Summary: A study of 184 people across three countries/regions found that fulfilling one's values can lead to higher well-being, and that higher well-being can make it easier to fulfill one's values. This relationship was consistent regardless of the importance people attributed to their values, the period of the week, or their prestudy well-being. Conclusion: This research helps to explain the fundamental connection between values and well-being. It also has potential implications for clinical practice, suggesting that helping people to fulfill their values may be a way to improve their well-being. In short: Values and well-being are interconnected. Fulfilling your values can lead to higher well-being, and higher well-being can make it easier to fulfill your values. Journal Reference: 0Paul H. P. Hanel, Hamdullah Tunç, Divija Bhasin, Lukas F. Litzellachner, Gregory R. Maio. Value fulfillment and well‐being: Clarifying directions over time. Journal of Personality, 2023; D

Healing From Death of a Loved One The death of a loved one is one of the most difficult experiences in life. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, and everyone copes with loss in their own way. However, there are some things that can help you on your journey to healing. Acknowledge your pain. It is important to allow yourself to feel your grief, no matter how difficult it is. Don't try to suppress your emotions or pretend that you are okay when you are not. Talk to someone you trust. Talking about your feelings can help you to process your grief and start to heal. Talk to a friend, family member, therapist, or grief counselor. Take care of yourself. Make sure to eat healthy foods, get enough sleep, and exercise regularly. Taking care of yourself physically will help you to cope with the emotional stress of grief. Join a support group. Support groups can provide you with a safe space to share your feelings and connect with other people who have experienced similar losses. Be patient. Healing from the death

Death Is Not A Failure We are going to face death someday. But because of our background and expectations, unless we die in a certain way or at a certain age, there can be a lot of negative judgment about our death or the deaths of others. Death isn't a failure; it is just one of the many things we must face in our journey through life. New Happiness Podcast episode with Dr. Robert Puff, Newport Beach Psychologist

Staying Happy (Living Happily Ever After) Though creating a happy, self-actualized life for ourselves is daunting, keeping our peace and equanimity is also challenging.  To live a good life, doing things that got us there must become lifelong habits.  Happiness is a journey, not a destination. New Happiness Podcast episode with Dr. Robert Puff, Newport Beach Psychologist

What To Do When In Crisis (and what not to do) Sometimes, we face challenges, even inundating crises in our lives.  What can and should we do in these situations to overcome them and grow and evolve from them?  We will explore what to do and not do when under tremendous amounts of stress. New Happiness Podcast episode with Dr. Robert Puff, Newport Beach Psychologist

The Key to Happiness is: “Malleability” Our world is changing at an unprecedented pace.  How do we find happiness with all the changes we must adjust to?  In this talk, we explore how "malleability" is the critical ingredient to experience happiness even with all the changes in our lives and worlds. New Happiness Podcast episode with Dr. Robert Puff, Newport Beach Psychologist

Don’t Blame Your Programming, Change Your Programming Who we are and what we do is shaped by our lifelong programming.  If we are not happy with how we are, then the best thing we can do is change our programming and stop blaming ourselves.  We can blame our programming and stop blaming ourselves, but even better, we can change our programming. New Happiness Podcast episode with Dr. Robert Puff, Newport Beach Psychologist

Finding Your Passion & Purpose in Life  Without a purpose or passion in life, we often live lives of "quiet desperation."  But how do we find our purpose in life, and when we find our joy, how will this help me to live a happier life?   Explore the beauty and charm in finding our passion in life. New Happiness Podcast episode with Dr. Robert Puff, Newport Beach Psychologist

Nonjudgmental Mindfulness Judging others through our thoughts, social media, and even their face creates a vicious loop that leads us away from happiness.  Understanding and kindness towards others creates a more softness towards our foibles and offenses. New Happiness Podcast episode with Dr. Robert Puff, Newport Beach Psychologist

Finding Happiness in a Complex World Navigating the complexities of life, particularly regarding moral and ethical choices, can be challenging.  In this talk, we explore the personal benefits of making healthy, kind, and "correct" choices because we benefit from positive, stress-reducing decisions. New Happiness Podcast episode with Dr. Robert Puff, Newport Beach Psychologist

Strip the Veil of Habit (The Deadening Effects of Habit) One of the main reasons that we don't experience joy and happiness in life is because, through our habit of seeing things, we stop seeing things.  As this happens, our hearts often become melancholy with life.  We can change this by removing the veil of habit. New Happiness Podcast episode with Dr. Robert Puff, Newport Beach Psychologist

Aging Gracefully (and Happily) Can we increase the odds that our lives will turn out in the later years with more peace, happiness, and tranquility? If we do four things, our ability to end our lives with more pleasure will significantly increase. Discover these four activities. New Happiness Podcast episode with Dr. Robert Puff, Newport Beach Psychologist

When Life Feels Overwhelming Sometimes life can be overwhelming, with no end in sight for release from the situation.   But even in these most challenging situations, we have choices that we can make to improve our situation.  Even if we just create little reprieves from the problem, our lives will be better. New Happiness Podcast episode with Dr. Robert Puff, Newport Beach Psychologist

Why “More” Ultimately Never Works Wanting and getting ultimately never works. To fight off this insatiable urge, we can do five things. Don't compare ourselves to others. Don't compare ourselves to our previous selves. Do something for the joy of them. Be careful of hedonic adaptation. Live life with gratitude. New Happiness Podcast episode with Dr. Robert Puff, Newport Beach Psychologist

Memento Mori (Remember That You Must Die) Death is the one thing that we all, ultimately, have to face.  But what if instead of being something dreaded, we looked at death as our teacher of how to be thankful for every day we live?  Memento Mori, which means "remember that you must die," can teach us many things about living. New Happiness Podcast episode with Dr. Robert Puff, Newport Beach Psychologist