Sex With Emily

Anal sex isn’t as taboo as it once was but many people are still too shy to explore it. Today, I’m talking with nationally renowned anal surgeon and expert Dr. Evan Goldstein, about all things anal. From how to clean up before backdoor play (did you know you can be too clean?), to tips to enhance pleasure and the wide variety of things to try while you’re back there, we’ve got you covered. I also discuss how to address mismatched libidos in a relationship, tips Dr. Evan gives tips on how to relax, toys that can help, and which lubes are best for every act imaginable. We also break down lube shooters, how to minimize the risk of exposing yourself to STIs and what to consider whether you’re a top or a bottom. for getting ready for anal play, how feeling pressure to initiate and perform can affect the quality of your sex life, and the best ways to approach potential partners.   For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s Best Of roundup, I break down attitudes about oral sex, the oral double standard, the evolutionary significance of oral sex, how to overcome vibrator intimidation, tips for alleviating delayed ejaculation, ways to combat sexual insecurities, and what to do when you’ve given up on having an orgasm (hint: don’t give up). I also discuss how to address mismatched libidos in a relationship, tips for getting ready for anal play, how feeling pressure to initiate and perform can affect the quality of your sex life, and the best ways to approach potential partners. Show notes: FAQ: How Can I Get Better at Oral Sex? 6 Oral Sex Tips for Going Down on a Vulva Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Ask Emily: I Hate Giving My Partner Oral Sex For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Renowned clinical sex therapist and best-selling author, Ian Kerner Ph.D. joins me today to talk about sex scripts, why fantasies are important for a relationship, the dynamics of kink, porn as “homework” and how to get into a flow state during sex. Dr. Kerner is the author of the legendary book She Comes First, “the thinking man’s guide to pleasuring a woman” and he just released a new book So, Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex. We cover a lot in this interview including what has changed in his last 20+ years as a practicing sex therapist. Hint: erectile dysfunction in younger men is real. Dr. Kerner (“the man who made oral sex into an art form”) walks us through his latest book and explains how you can decode and rewrite your relationship’s sex script and bring your erotic self into the bedroom to transform your sex life. We discuss the importance of psychological arousal, what happens to your body during the honeymoon phase, when to challenge the monogamy script, what to do when there is a “desire di

Happy 4/20! I’m joined by badass medicine woman, spiritual mentor, and rap priestess Lizzy Jeff to break down how cannabis can elevate your bedroom experiences. We discuss how to use THC and CBD for sex, the importance of getting high with intention, the necessity for healing sexual experiences, and why high sex is hot AF. We also share how to find the best strains and doses for users of all experience levels, the importance of quality cannabis, our OWN relationships to weed+sex, and how “sex magick” can transform your life. Plus, we answer your questions about whether or not marijuana can improve orgasms, cottonmouth (not fun for oral), and how to shift your energy out of your head and into your body. For more information about Lizzy Jeff, visit: lizzyjeff.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How well do you know the vulva and vagina? In this episode, I’m joined by four guests to break down all things V. We’re talking about how to take care of your vulva, the importance of strengthening your pelvic floor, WTF is up with menopause, and so much more. My first guest is OB/GYN, author of the She-Ology book series, and an expert in all things women’s sexual health, Dr. Sherry Ross. She shares the benefits of getting to know your (or your partner’s) vulva, the relationship between insecurity and porn, solutions for painful sex, and of course, squirting. Next, we have MaryEllen Reider, from Yarlap, who joins me to talk about the importance of the pelvic floor muscles. Did you know that stronger pelvic floor muscles can make stronger orgasms? It’s true! Finally, the founder of Tabu, Natalie Waltz, and her mother, Ouhoud Dabbas help me demystify menopause and discuss how masturbation can help increase your libido. For more information about Dr. Sherry, visit: drsherry.com For more information about MaryEll

The brain is the largest and most important sex organ. So on today’s Best Of, I’m joined by one of the world experts on optimal brain performance, Jim Kwik. We talk about how to sharpen and focus your memory (no more forgetting your anniversary), specific steps to activate a healthy brain, and the best foods to give your brain a boost. You’ll be able to follow along as we walk through very specific, impactful, and easy to learn exercises you can use right away –– because a big, healthy brain is always sexy. For more on Jim Kwik visit jimkwik.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Fact: Your STI doesn’t make you ANY less sexy! In today's episode, I’m joined by the author of Strange Bedfellows and medical consultant, Dr. Ina Park who has made it her life's work to reduce the shame and stigma associated with sexually transmitted infections, AKA, STIs. Ina shares everything you need to know if you or someone you’re sleeping with is infected, how to reduce your risk of transmission, and when to disclose your status to a partner. We also discuss Ina’s #1 tip for STI prevention, what to know about how your personal grooming can impact transmission and a surprising discovery about The Bachelor’s casting process. Finally, we answer your questions about transmission through oral sex, when it’s possible to get intimate without a condom and why having an STI isn’t a death sentence for your relationships. Let’s ditch the shame and bring on the sex. For more information about Dr. Ina Park, visit: inapark.net For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See aca

After a year of social distancing, many of us have forgotten how to flirt and date IRL. The good news: with a little practice, you’ll be stronger and sexier than ever before. In this episode, I cover the lessons we’ve learned from a year of isolation and digital dating and I also take a look at what might be in store for us in the year ahead. I walk you through how to regain confidence, uplevel your flirting skills, and important questions to ask yourself before jumping back out there. I also answer questions about what to know when considering a “friend with benefits” arrangement, how to prepare for sex after a dry spell, getting back with an ex, and dating post-divorce. Show Notes: Love Language quiz For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if the euphoric bliss from an orgasm was captured in other moments of your daily life? Whether you’re eating a meal or spending time outside, prioritizing sensuality helps you start to experience what today’s guests like to call “orgasmic living.” I’m joined by the creators of Afrosexology, Dalychia Saah and Rafaella Fiallo who join me to discuss the power of this life-changing concept. Their mission is to empower, educate and explore Black sexuality and self-improvement through sexual liberation. We discuss their journey into creating Afrosexology, the importance of embodiment, the power of centering pleasure and being intentional in the present moment. We also demystify different aspects of kink, polyamory, and compersion, so that you can see if any of these are things you’d want to add to your sex life. Plus, we answer your questions about prioritizing your pleasure as much as your partner’s and feeling more connected during and after sexual experiences. For more information about Dalychia Saah & Rafa

I’ve said it once and I’ll say it a million times: there should be a bottle of lube (or more) on every nightstand. I mean, seriously just a few drops can transform your sex and amplify the amount of pleasure. But, it can be difficult to know what kind of lube is best suited for you and your needs. On today’s show, I break down the best lubes for masturbation, anal, penetrative, and oral sex. I share the results of our Better Sex Survey sponsored by Pjur Lube. I cover products that are safe for a vagina’s PH and some household items that are better kept in the kitchen than inside of you. I also discuss what your wetness really means, the transformation lube can have with discomfort during sex, how sex increases intimacy between you and your partner, and how penis size can change with an erection. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ahh, the honeymoon phase. You know that euphoric period of time at the beginning of a relationship where your partner seems perfect and you can’t keep your hands off one another? Fast forward a few months (or sometimes years) and that initial spark begins to fade and those feel-good chemicals start to wear off. What then? Today, I share why the honeymoon phase is so intoxicating, why our feelings change over time, and how to strengthen your relationship so that it survives the initial fading of happy hormones. I answer your questions about what to do when your partner asks you to be in a threesome but it’s not your fantasy, how to communicate to your partner that their Instagram habits make you uncomfortable, and what to do when you feel like you have become more friends than lovers with your significant other. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Logan Ury, the author of How to Not Die Alone and director of Relationship Science at Hinge, joins me to share her best tips for all things dating. Logan provides practical tips for avoiding dating blindspots, the drawbacks of unrealistic expectations, and algorithms to live by for finding a satisfying relationship. We discuss how ‘dealbreakers’ may be an excuse for avoiding connection, how attachment styles affect our dating outcomes, the paradox of choice in the dating world, and how to get out of the checklist mindset. She also breaks down the most common dating tendencies, shares strategies behind making the best decisions, explains why ‘the spark’ may be B.S., and even offers how-to advice for creating a powerful dating profile. Even if you’re not dating, you will learn techniques that will strengthen all your relationships. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sex can get stale but today I focus on ways to keep it fresh. In this Best Of episode, I share some sex hacks that bring back spontaneity in easy and creative ways. I share new uses for pillows, ideas for games you can play anywhere, and tricks to make doggy-style even better. I answer your questions about how to know if you should end a long-distance relationship, why prostate orgasms feel so good, and what to do if your partner’s porn habits lead to problems in the bedroom. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What’s your biggest fantasy? It might be watching your partner with someone else, group sex, or sex in a public place. All answers are welcome because there’s no shame in your fantasy game! In this episode, I discuss the psychology behind your fantasies, how to bring them up with a partner and why having a rich fantasy life is an important part of your overall sexual health. Then I reveal the top fantasies you shared with me on Instagram. I also answer your questions including, what to do if you fantasize about a best friend, how to be a third in a threesome, and explore latex, panty, and foot fetishes. Show Notes: Podcast with Justin Lehmiller Dating apps: Craigslist, Feeld, OkCupid, FetLife, Adult Friend Finder, #Open Yes, No, Maybe List Tips For Better Communication Free Guide For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How have you been feeding your skin hunger? Quarantine has caused many of us to experience a “starvation diet” of physical touch and now it’s to feast. The lack of physical touch can exacerbate anxiety or depression, on today’s show I’ll share how you can find more touch and intimacy in your daily life. I also answer questions about how to get back out there and date while newly sober, how to bring the excitement back in a sexless relationship, and how to introduce new techniques (and toys) into the bedroom. Show Notes: Yes, No, Maybe list Pleasure Planner Frequently Asked Sex Questions Womanizer For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if being happy was a moral obligation, like voting and recycling? Would you take steps to be happier? Today, I’m joined by brain health expert, and New York Times best-selling author Dr. Daniel Amen to talk about how our thinking patterns shape our lives in and outside of the bedroom. We discuss the ways stress affects your sexual performance, give tips to combat your automatic negative thoughts (ANTS), and discuss his new book Your Brain is Always Listening. We answer a question from a habitual cheater on how to break the cycle and discuss how Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) can get in the way of your orgasm. I also answer your Rapid Fire questions covering everything from tips for hotter shower sex to bring up your kink to a partner. Show notes: Find out which dragons you have here: KnowYourDragons.com Order Dr. Amen’s latest book Your Brain Is Always Listening here: YourBrainIsAlwaysListening.com For more information about Dr. Daniel Amen, visit: danielamenmd.com For even more sex advice, tips, and t

Your masturbation class is in session. In today’s episode, you’ll learn the health benefits of self-pleasure and how it helps you not only reduce stress but elevate your mood. It's also a gateway to understanding your body, boosting your self-esteem, and giving you some serious pleasure. I answer your questions about how to try masturbation when you never have, which sex toys to use, and the magic of mutual masturbation. I get into the tricky relationship between shame and fantasy and discuss how often you should masturbate in a relationship—it’s probably more than you think! For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this Sex With Emily best of, I’m joined by sex and intimacy coach John Wineland to discuss the driving force behind attraction, sexual connection, and desire. We discuss the polarity of masculine and feminine energy, what symbolic aspects of anal make it so hot, how to build attraction from the inside out, and give tools to enhance connection. We also get into your questions like why the urge to have an affair can be so strong, how to know if there is enough sexual chemistry to pursue a second date, and what to do to bring sex back into your long-term relationship. For more information about John Wineland, visit: johnwineland.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you remember your first time? It could be your first date, first threesome, first orgasm, or your first time experimenting with a new position. No matter what it is, any “first” experience can feel intimidating, but I’m here to help eliminate any fear that might be holding you back. I answer questions about how to navigate first-time experiences: having sex, getting on a dating app, performing oral sex, trying anal play, and other adventures. Whether it’s your first time or you want to expand your sexual repertoire, this episode will encourage you to try something new and sexy. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever want to know what really goes down in your girlfriend’s group chat? Today you’ll find out when I’m joined by Chelsea, Glynn, and Sade, the hosts of the popular much talked about Black Girls Texting. We explore sex dreams, what it’s like to have a threesome with your best friend, and the art of sending nudes. We answer questions and discuss cultural stereotypes, manscaping, pre-gaming sex, and the power of setting sexual intentions. For more information about Black Girls Texting (Chelsea, Glynn, Sade), visit: blackgirlstexting.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.